I'm a pvssy.

[Jon55]

I am. I'm can be a real pvssy about certain situations, mainly because I don't have any idea as to what else I should do.

For example, at work a handful of people play "pranks" and jokes, particularly on me (why? I don't know...maybe because I'm the easiest to get. I'm not the most talkative guy, but Im friendly/playful). Now I can dig a prank, even if it is on me. But when it's being done to me almost all the time, say 2 out of the 3 days that I work there, that sh!t gets old. I play along and prank back, but they just go too far sometimes. I feel like I'm in elementary school! And these guys are all 20 at least.

Today they went too far and put whipped cream all over my car. Oh sure I got them back (TP + milk = pwnd) but Im still pissed. Telling them to stop would only get me ridiculed more. Telling management would make me look like a kid running to mommy. Honestly I want to kick their asses, but that's not really the mature thing to do (and I'm not the biggest guy in the world either). Even just quitting the job would be like running (which is pvssy). I don't really have a plan of action yet.


I know this is a "seduction" forum, but Im sure you'll agree with me when I say your inner game is half the battle (at least half), and this is one area of my inner game I need help with.

 

[danielzxc]

Maaaan... you SOUND like a pyssy too. Reading that, seriously, *I* feel like playing a prank on you. Lol.

Okay, enough with the negativity. This sounds like one fkkn TOUGH situation, dude.

You have been letting it fester and fester for so long that it's almost terminal.

It would have been SO much easier to squash it right in the beginning, but now you've grown accustomed to being the way you are so it's gonna be much more difficult to change.

Honestly, mature or not, if it has gone this far, fighting your way out of it seems like the only serious solution. You'll most likely get fired, but that would be better than just quitting on your own.

Even if you get your butt kicked, at least you'll earn back some DIGNITY.

However, don't just launch into a fight without giving them a warning first. Something like, "LISTEN, I've fkkn had it with you cvnts. The shyt on my car was the last fkking straw. I've been nice to you guys, but u pricks just abuse it. From now on, anyone fkks with me, there's gonna be trouble". Realistically, if what you say about yourself and your work situation is true, you won't get taken very seriously. You'll probably get laughed at. They might back off for a couple of days, but you can bet they'll be back to their old ways pretty soon. Well, as soon as they DO go back to their old ways, THAT is when you strike. Just say, "I fkkn warned you cvnt!" and then smash him. After this, like I said, even if you get your ass kicked and fired from your job, believe me, it won't matter. This one thing will do more to eanr back dignity and self-respect for you than anything else you could do.

Now, some people are gonna say that you should run to management and they wil take care of everything. To an extent, that's true. Managament most likely WILL see to it that people stop harrassing you -- or at least that they harrass you less, or less often. BUT... YOU will have to live with the knowledge of what a meek littl pyssy you are.

If you take my "figh 'em" advice, for probably the first time in your life you'll be able to say you did the MANLY thing. True, you should have done it a LONG time ago, but better late than never.

 

[KarmaSutra]

First, great thread title.

Second, You need to fight fire with fire. They come at you with a knife, you pull a gun. Not figuratively, but you get it.

There are a couple of things you can do: A bottle of Visine in the water cooler does wonders for the colon. You can look up porn on thier pc's while they're at lunch and then blow the whistle . . . The list goes on and on.

Bottom line is if you don't make a stand everyone else will see you as a sitting duck and take shots at you too.

Fvck 'em all let God sort 'em out.

 

[TruthHurts]

work is not a place to play... doing sh.t like this will get ur or others in trouble.. Remember, never mix business with pleasure!...

stop the playing around.. get series at work, ur their to work not play

 

[TruthHurts]

work is not a place to play... doing sh.t like this will get ur or others in trouble.. Remember, never mix business with pleasure!...

stop the playing around.. get series at work, ur their to work not play

 

[Jon55]

work is not a place to play... doing sh.t like this will get ur or others in trouble.. Remember, never mix business with pleasure!...

stop the playing around.. get series at work, ur their to work not play

I never initiated this. My first day, the first guy I meet, plays a prank on me. I'm here to work, maybe make some friends along the way. Hot damn was I wrong.

danielzxc, I really like what you said, and that's pretty much how I felt, but didn't know if it's the mature thing to do or not. I never really learned where the line of "just fvcking around" and "you went too far" laid, nor what to do about it once it was crossed. I'm not a big guy, but I'll go bat-shiat crazy if this happens again. And if I lose? Who cares, I'll be going down in glory.

 

[Create Reality]

MY advice: dont get caught retaliating against them by the boss, or your ass is surely fired! instead get them caught first.

 

[The Sperminator]

Well similar things happen to me before. This is what I did. I just told them ok guys the jokes were funny at first but now it's just lame and this **** is just getting old. Thats all I said and they stopped. It sounds to me like they think it is funny because you are playing along so they don't think they are doing anything wrong. Just straight out tell them to knock it off but do not do it like you are really pissed.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

One thing that works is to show them you're cold side, give them a mean stare..they'll leave u alone or cause a loud sound. If they try to make fun of u....u look at them...and just continue what ur doing. Overtime, they'll realize that it aint doing anything.

Those people are insecure themselves if they have to keep picking on u...if that is them trying to have enjoyment like that. Sorry, but ur better than that...but ur in no fact a *****. Its a tough situation. They can't ridicule you if ur serious and tell them to stop one on one. Talk to them one on one, if they don't want to...they're pussies...and they are insecure.

 

[danielzxc]

danielzxc, I really like what you said, and that's pretty much how I felt, but didn't know if it's the mature thing to do or not. I never really learned where the line of "just fvcking around" and "you went too far" laid, nor what to do about it once it was crossed. I'm not a big guy, but I'll go bat-shiat crazy if this happens again. And if I lose? Who cares, I'll be going down in glory.

Look, it's NOT the way "mature" people handle issues. BUT, then again, most mature people haven't let themselves get walked over for as long as you have. I bet this is the way you've been treated your whole life, right? I saw this guy that everyone used to abuse at highschool working at a gas station the other week. He's still the same loser; the kind of guy no one ever thinks twice about putting down or pulling a prank on or making the butt of every joke. That is a sad way to go through life. If you're anything like this, then taking my advice to "fight 'em" is about WAY more than just resolving this one workplace dispute. It's about finally taking a stand for yourself in life.

On the other hand, if this is a SPECIFIC case of bad treatment, whereas you have otherwise been normally treated decently in life, then hold back from fighting just yet. You would be better off just showing your "cold side", like someone suggested. Stare people down (and if they square up to you, trying to intimidate you, then, of course, be prepared to go down fighting) until they look away and back off. Eventually they'll get the point that you're not gonna tolerate being harrassed any longer.

However, to me it doesn't sound like a specific case. It sounds more like this has been your life story.

 

[Jon55]

However, to me it doesn't sound like a specific case. It sounds more like this has been your life story.

Usually I'd have no problems fighting back (rather, stopping it before it became a problem), but I mean Im at work. Im there to get work done, and get paid. I don't usually have time (or care to bother giving any attention to) a couple guys who act like 10 year olds. I don't know about them but I stopped doing this sh!t in elementary school. Sometimes things get out of hand, or I don't have anything quick-witted to say, or whatever and then it begins. If I don't know how to stop a situation (kinda like this one), I end up letting things slide the first couple of times, until suddenly I've got a problem. I'll admit, I could use a few lessons on assertiveness.


But I thank you guys for the honesty. DonJoseCantosie, I couldn't agree more.

 

[Jackman]

It's possible that they're going a little overboard on the pranks because they aren't getting any social satisfaction out of you otherwise. In other words, if you're not friends with these guys outside of work, there's no reason for them to have a little more respect like they would with a friend. They just do it because you make the work day more fun and nothing else.

I would advise that before you start with the "cold looks" and "fighting fire with fire" that you actually try to do something cool for a change. One time. One offer. Give them a reason to want to hang out with you. You figure out how. If it doesn't work, then give the advice everyone else is giving a try. But I'll tell you right now, if you can make that work, this problem will go away.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I agree with the fire with fire thing. Basically you need to take the offensive. Go too far as they do BUT go farther. Make it so they don't even want to be in the game.

 

[Demon Wolf]

Just stand up to 'em dude and tell the ****ing boss. Better to be a ***** then to get into trouble like I did. Try to let it get into a fight the legal risks these days just are not worth it.

Do not let **** escalate dude. Get your boss involved. Also consider restraining orders if your management cannot help.

 

[Jon55]

Hey guys I just wanted to add an update for anyone who cared.


In review I put TP + milk (2% ) all over this dude's car for some light revenge. Anyway, I went in to work today and saw him there. A couple of other random co-workers were chatting and when I came up to say yo they were like "Hey dude! So and so it pretty pissed at you...". Apparently, the windows in the guy's car were open slightly (for air) so the milk went inside the car (and somehow got in the stereo?? And his antenna fell off but I think that's BS. I put the empty milk carton on his antenna...those things aren't that fragile). I told them "Yeah, well I was pretty pissed too, and I'm done taking it" and they all agreed with me and said it was more than fair.

The dude just gave me a "Im pissed as hell at you but I can't do ****" look, but didn't come near me or even say a word when we walked by each other. And I did the same for him. I also found out today a few of the girls there are really into me. Donno if I wanna go anywhere with that though.

I'm quitting tomorrow.