Well to start off
Hello everyone, Im kalvin from IL. I am 21. hehe that's it for the intro
Basically this story will discuss a 5+ year relationship with my x/gf?
I was dating this girl since i was 15, my friend brought her down to my house for my birthday (15th) b/c he was dating my x's best friend. We hit it off real well, we made out all nite, i got her number. u know the drill.
After a few weeks, i asked her out and we decided to go out. We went out for a week or so we talked all the time, etc. until the end of the 2nd week, she stoped calling me. I was wondering what's going on, and when i finally got a hold of her i foudn out that she was fxxn' this guy named jason and she broke it off with me. I really did not care too much at that point (the age, etc.)
AFter a few weeks i really started to miss her. she was the hottest girl i had ever gone out with or messed around with, she was gorgeous.
So i spent some time and got a hold of her. we started to hang out at times, she only wanted to be friends. I said fine, we hung out and the 'friend' thing really wanst doing it for me, it made me feel like she was giving me signs all thetime and when i would act on it, i would get rejected.
This went on for a month or so, until i said ur either with me or not. she said no. and we stopped talking again.
A month later we talked again, i was throwing a party and her and her best friend came over. we had a blast got really drunk, etc. her friend got really sick, but at the end of the night i let her crash on my lil bro's bed. well at like 6am i came and i layed down next to her, held her and fell asleep.
ever since thne she has said that she fell in love with me that night.
so after that we started going out for good. we had our occasional fights etc. but we were going out for a couple of years.
we basically told ppl we were engaged, that's how "in love" we were.
i feel bad somewhat, b/c throughout i cheated on her a couple of times etc. but so did she, now its all forgotten.
the week after i turned 18 we decided to move out and get our own apt, so we did. (she's 3 months older than me) we got one right by my work (i was working full -time at 18 and so was she)
it was the greatest thing in the world, we loved living together, it was amazing.
At that point i was sort of changing emotionally, i didnt know what i wanted, and i was always lookin at the ladies, even though i had a princess at home. At some point i met some girl on the internet, that was really hot, and we talked all the time, around the same time i found out that my gf was pregnant!!
she knew she was going to have to get an abortion b/c she has a kidney desease. The day she had her abortion. I was with her and it is a terrible thing. I was a complete ******* and we got in a huge fight. i ended up leaving and met up with the girl from online, i went with a friend and she brought a friend, it was like a double date, after that we went back to the girls house and we both got laid. and my date was really hot.
that night when i came home i felt like the biggest pos. I really still do. And I am an ******* or was that night.
AFter a while things got somewhat better. She never really knew that i had cheated on her that night. I didnt start a relationshiop with the other girl, tho i still talk to her sometimes today.
We lived togheter at this apt. for about 8 months. we fought sometimes but we were always glad to see ea. other and were always happy to spend time with each other even if all we were doing was nothing.
At the end of the lease (8months) my best friend convinced me that i should not renew or move into another apt with her bc. of all the drama that we had throughout our relationship. I was set to move in with my friend. then when i told her she broke down and really got under my skin, she made me feel bad and i decided that i would once again move in with her.
we found a very nice (expensive) apt and moved into it right after the lease was over on the first one. we were very happy for a long while, she started beauty school, i went to work and went to school. After a while i really got into racing and messing with cars etc. so i would always want to go out and do that with my buddies, she was really against and annoyed by anything dealing with that aspect, and would never come along, so there would be nites where i would be out all nite, with my friends and she would be stuck at home, mind this she has a lot of friends and coudl have went out, but didint, b/c she was so dependent on me for plans etc. I miss that now.
After we lived in this apt for over 1.5yrs we decided that it was time to move out and move back home. it was a mutual decision and we broke up the day we moved out, but that nite we missed ea. other so much we got back together and had to see each other. (we live 45mins-hr away). We started going out and it was almost better that we didnt see each other every single day.
WE had our clashes but much less frequently and overall were happy.
AT this point (around late spring,early summer this year) i began to feel trapped or somewhat exhausted of having to be with her every day etc. so i told her that i was not sure what i need to do but we need to some how just lay off for a little while. she didnt understand she went nuts, etc. one night i spent the night over ther, she went through my cellfone and wrote down all thenumbers that were in there, and started calling this girl i met at ISU, i woke up at that point and snatched the fone away. she kicked me out of her parents house and i had to resort to sleep in my car.
after this incident i stopped talking to her, i would not pick up her fone calls and i was feeling good about it too. we didnt talk (except for an occasional txt msg on the cell) one day she txt'd me and told me that she has found someone new, some guy whatever) that really made me mad, so i said i have found someone as well and not to bother me b/c she would get mad.
AFter about another week she called me and i picked up (i missed her) and she wnated to do something for the 4th of july, she said she wanted to spend it with me, i said fine if u want to do that, u have to not tlak to this other "guy" for 24hrs and then call me and ill think about it.
she didnt talk to him , called me and we spent the 4th together.
after this we started hanging out again, we would call ea. other like it used to be etc. and after a while we got back together. I realised that she meant the world to me an told her that i am sorry for whta i did and would do whatever it takes to make this relationship work.
We hung out like good old times etc, and then she would disappear and not call me for a whole day, when i would ask her, she would say she was out with a girlfriend etc. i blindly did not pay attention until it got out of hand.
she went to florida on vacation and the whole time she called me every day at least 2 times to talk and to say "i love you" etc.
I missed her when she was gone, and when she came back i couldnt wait to see her, b/c she had about 3 days b4 she had to go into surgery and wouldnt really be able to do much. the day she came back she disappeared for 3 days, i would be able to get a hold of her once a day or so aand then seh would nto pick up her fone
this drove me nuts, then she told me that she was hangin out with this guy that she met when we were not talking (and they are just friends etc) i did not believe it went crazy. got really depressed etc.
i told her that she's either with me 100% or not at all, she agreed, but then the same thing happened the next week etc.
i tried my best to deal with it, but it would really aggravate me and after about 1.5-2 months i got fed up and broke up with her.
While not talking to her, i met 2 girls (really fine) that i started hanging out with, i felt great. i got busy with both, and it was just awsome, then one day my x calls me and she wants to see me or whtaever, so i went over there, we slept together, and started talking again
she told me that she really now knows she wants to be with me and that she would for me call this guy on the fone atnd tell him she never wants to talk to him again. i said fine. she called him and he got really upset, tried calling back and she didnt pick up her fone.
well this was about 2 weeks ago.
last nite i had class till 10pm and we agreed that i would then come over and spend the night, and she would be at home all evening etc.
b4 class at around 7 i called her house and her sister told me she was out, so i called her cell, she finally picked up, and told me that she's going out with that guys' couisin to the bar and not to be mad. i flipped out, b/c i knew what was going to happen. i told her she better not, but she said dont worry about it, ur still coming over whatever, just call me when ur out of school and i will go home.
well as i knew it, i called her when i got out 2 times, no answer, i went home and txt'd her. no answer.
at about 1.30am i calld her fone and someone picked up, i heard guys in the background and noone would say anything into the actual fone, when i said hello, she hung up and turned her fone off.
she never called me last nite
or today.
so now i feel like im back in the begging and i feel like crap.
i really love this girl, the way she smells the way she looks and the way she makes me feel when im with her.
i know the #1 reply will probably be something liek "move on" etc. but that's not exactly what im looking for.
thanks for reading, i know it was a long read, let me know what you guys think.
Hello everyone, Im kalvin from IL. I am 21. hehe that's it for the intro
Basically this story will discuss a 5+ year relationship with my x/gf?
I was dating this girl since i was 15, my friend brought her down to my house for my birthday (15th) b/c he was dating my x's best friend. We hit it off real well, we made out all nite, i got her number. u know the drill.
After a few weeks, i asked her out and we decided to go out. We went out for a week or so we talked all the time, etc. until the end of the 2nd week, she stoped calling me. I was wondering what's going on, and when i finally got a hold of her i foudn out that she was fxxn' this guy named jason and she broke it off with me. I really did not care too much at that point (the age, etc.)
AFter a few weeks i really started to miss her. she was the hottest girl i had ever gone out with or messed around with, she was gorgeous.
So i spent some time and got a hold of her. we started to hang out at times, she only wanted to be friends. I said fine, we hung out and the 'friend' thing really wanst doing it for me, it made me feel like she was giving me signs all thetime and when i would act on it, i would get rejected.
This went on for a month or so, until i said ur either with me or not. she said no. and we stopped talking again.
A month later we talked again, i was throwing a party and her and her best friend came over. we had a blast got really drunk, etc. her friend got really sick, but at the end of the night i let her crash on my lil bro's bed. well at like 6am i came and i layed down next to her, held her and fell asleep.
ever since thne she has said that she fell in love with me that night.
so after that we started going out for good. we had our occasional fights etc. but we were going out for a couple of years.
we basically told ppl we were engaged, that's how "in love" we were.
i feel bad somewhat, b/c throughout i cheated on her a couple of times etc. but so did she, now its all forgotten.
the week after i turned 18 we decided to move out and get our own apt, so we did. (she's 3 months older than me) we got one right by my work (i was working full -time at 18 and so was she)
it was the greatest thing in the world, we loved living together, it was amazing.
At that point i was sort of changing emotionally, i didnt know what i wanted, and i was always lookin at the ladies, even though i had a princess at home. At some point i met some girl on the internet, that was really hot, and we talked all the time, around the same time i found out that my gf was pregnant!!
she knew she was going to have to get an abortion b/c she has a kidney desease. The day she had her abortion. I was with her and it is a terrible thing. I was a complete ******* and we got in a huge fight. i ended up leaving and met up with the girl from online, i went with a friend and she brought a friend, it was like a double date, after that we went back to the girls house and we both got laid. and my date was really hot.
that night when i came home i felt like the biggest pos. I really still do. And I am an ******* or was that night.
AFter a while things got somewhat better. She never really knew that i had cheated on her that night. I didnt start a relationshiop with the other girl, tho i still talk to her sometimes today.
We lived togheter at this apt. for about 8 months. we fought sometimes but we were always glad to see ea. other and were always happy to spend time with each other even if all we were doing was nothing.
At the end of the lease (8months) my best friend convinced me that i should not renew or move into another apt with her bc. of all the drama that we had throughout our relationship. I was set to move in with my friend. then when i told her she broke down and really got under my skin, she made me feel bad and i decided that i would once again move in with her.
we found a very nice (expensive) apt and moved into it right after the lease was over on the first one. we were very happy for a long while, she started beauty school, i went to work and went to school. After a while i really got into racing and messing with cars etc. so i would always want to go out and do that with my buddies, she was really against and annoyed by anything dealing with that aspect, and would never come along, so there would be nites where i would be out all nite, with my friends and she would be stuck at home, mind this she has a lot of friends and coudl have went out, but didint, b/c she was so dependent on me for plans etc. I miss that now.
After we lived in this apt for over 1.5yrs we decided that it was time to move out and move back home. it was a mutual decision and we broke up the day we moved out, but that nite we missed ea. other so much we got back together and had to see each other. (we live 45mins-hr away). We started going out and it was almost better that we didnt see each other every single day.
WE had our clashes but much less frequently and overall were happy.
AT this point (around late spring,early summer this year) i began to feel trapped or somewhat exhausted of having to be with her every day etc. so i told her that i was not sure what i need to do but we need to some how just lay off for a little while. she didnt understand she went nuts, etc. one night i spent the night over ther, she went through my cellfone and wrote down all thenumbers that were in there, and started calling this girl i met at ISU, i woke up at that point and snatched the fone away. she kicked me out of her parents house and i had to resort to sleep in my car.
after this incident i stopped talking to her, i would not pick up her fone calls and i was feeling good about it too. we didnt talk (except for an occasional txt msg on the cell) one day she txt'd me and told me that she has found someone new, some guy whatever) that really made me mad, so i said i have found someone as well and not to bother me b/c she would get mad.
AFter about another week she called me and i picked up (i missed her) and she wnated to do something for the 4th of july, she said she wanted to spend it with me, i said fine if u want to do that, u have to not tlak to this other "guy" for 24hrs and then call me and ill think about it.
she didnt talk to him , called me and we spent the 4th together.
after this we started hanging out again, we would call ea. other like it used to be etc. and after a while we got back together. I realised that she meant the world to me an told her that i am sorry for whta i did and would do whatever it takes to make this relationship work.
We hung out like good old times etc, and then she would disappear and not call me for a whole day, when i would ask her, she would say she was out with a girlfriend etc. i blindly did not pay attention until it got out of hand.
she went to florida on vacation and the whole time she called me every day at least 2 times to talk and to say "i love you" etc.
I missed her when she was gone, and when she came back i couldnt wait to see her, b/c she had about 3 days b4 she had to go into surgery and wouldnt really be able to do much. the day she came back she disappeared for 3 days, i would be able to get a hold of her once a day or so aand then seh would nto pick up her fone
this drove me nuts, then she told me that she was hangin out with this guy that she met when we were not talking (and they are just friends etc) i did not believe it went crazy. got really depressed etc.
i told her that she's either with me 100% or not at all, she agreed, but then the same thing happened the next week etc.
i tried my best to deal with it, but it would really aggravate me and after about 1.5-2 months i got fed up and broke up with her.
While not talking to her, i met 2 girls (really fine) that i started hanging out with, i felt great. i got busy with both, and it was just awsome, then one day my x calls me and she wants to see me or whtaever, so i went over there, we slept together, and started talking again
she told me that she really now knows she wants to be with me and that she would for me call this guy on the fone atnd tell him she never wants to talk to him again. i said fine. she called him and he got really upset, tried calling back and she didnt pick up her fone.
well this was about 2 weeks ago.
last nite i had class till 10pm and we agreed that i would then come over and spend the night, and she would be at home all evening etc.
b4 class at around 7 i called her house and her sister told me she was out, so i called her cell, she finally picked up, and told me that she's going out with that guys' couisin to the bar and not to be mad. i flipped out, b/c i knew what was going to happen. i told her she better not, but she said dont worry about it, ur still coming over whatever, just call me when ur out of school and i will go home.
well as i knew it, i called her when i got out 2 times, no answer, i went home and txt'd her. no answer.
at about 1.30am i calld her fone and someone picked up, i heard guys in the background and noone would say anything into the actual fone, when i said hello, she hung up and turned her fone off.
she never called me last nite
or today.
so now i feel like im back in the begging and i feel like crap.
i really love this girl, the way she smells the way she looks and the way she makes me feel when im with her.
i know the #1 reply will probably be something liek "move on" etc. but that's not exactly what im looking for.
thanks for reading, i know it was a long read, let me know what you guys think.
She Gives You signs but rejects you when you act on them.. /i said ur either with me or not. she said no. and we stopped talking again/....Atleast you had balls enuf 2try..most wouldnt...but anyways this shoulda told you sumthins up