I'm a beast, but I get scared from others. Wtf?

[Game_going_good]

Ok, here's the dilemma. I'm 21, and for my age, I'm a fvckin beast.

You know those light/lampposts on the streets? I can punch one and cause dents in it, with no hurt caused to me.
(And trust me, the lampposts here in United States are fvckin really hard and steel/metal made).

I can constantly punch a wall and cause dents and holes, and still feel no pain.


BUT, when I'm walking outside for example, and some other male throws a shiit comment at me, tries to start a fight, or spits in my way, or curses me, etc, I get kinda shook and just walk away, heck, even my heart starts shaking a bit.

I know I can DESTROY any of those who conflict me. Trust me, when I say I am too strong for my age, I really mean it. If I can put dents in steel and feel no pain, then imagine what will happen if the same fists make contact with a human nose?


Any tips on how to get past this fvuckin problem? It makes me look like a wuss, when in reality I don't think there's any male in my neighborhood that can even get as close as tackling me down.

It's really killing my confidence, and I think all this power I have is being wasted. All the exercise, workout, gym I have done feels wasted, whats the point, when I can't even stand up to others?

(Losing control is a different thing. Broke a kids nose in high school, got suspended. But I have managed to control anger so now I can't even lose anger, not to mention the usual cursing me on the street to start a fight doesn't really do enough to make me lose control).

Thanks in advance guys.

 

[Game_going_good]

Fvck, sounds like I'm bragging after re-reading it, but truly I'm not, it's how it is, and I am sick of it.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

What are you doing that's causing guys to try to start a fight with you, spit in your direction, and curse at you?

 

[Game_going_good]

Nothing. For example yesterday, I was walking on the street, minding my own business, texting on the phone, and a guy at playing basketball stares at me through the fence, and calls me over(obviously he was looking to start trouble). I minded my own business and kept walking, and he started saying things like "Come back pvssy, why don't I check out that phone?"

Trust me, I'm a great person. Respectful, respected, cheerful, helpful, going to college, have great relations with friends and family, I'm just a nice, fun guy. I don't create trouble./

But these kinds of kids, you know, who think they're gangster and all, hanging out at night, looking to start fights.

Things is, around them I can't do much. Despite knowing I can beat them to a pulp if I have to. I don't know why I can't even talk back in these moments.

Fvuk man,. sigh

 

[Game_going_good]

Yep, I DO live in NYC. This sh*t is getting annoying.

Punks would be standing on corners, or in alleys or at basketball courts, and just talk sh*t or threaten for no reason.

And thats the problem. I CAN FIGHT. I CAN WIN. But I DONT want to fight, and that f's me up. I can't get the courage to walk up to him and shut his face up, despite knowing I will not have a problem doing it.

Is this lack of confidence or what? Because I'm really thinking about learning what it is, fixing it, and walking the same streets to meet the same punks. Except, this time, go in loose clothing, crack my neck in front of them, and teach them a lesson they haven't learned yet.

But I can't bring myself to do it. I'm so weak at that part. SIgh.

 

[kody_starr]

It's pretty obvious you are encountering some low self esteem guys who are trying to bring their value up by challenging you. Even if you crushed them, they would look better in the eyes of others just by challenging you. If you fight them, you look like bully.

You are doing the right thing by just moving on. If you are looking to fight, get some MMA training, and take care of business in a regulated environment.

 

[kody_starr]

That's not what he was asking. He was asking about how to muster up the "courage" to beat people down.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

You guys need to get out of NYC before someone gets ambitious and nukes it like the degenerate sh!thole that it is.

But really, don't sweat guys who act like that. It's called "Projecting". I wish RT would come in and expound on this one. They have something to prove, they have Little Man Syndrome (regardless of how big they are), they are losers who want to drag everyone else down with them.

Guys who "don't give a fvck" get just what they give; 20 years from now they will be in prison or pushing a broom.

 

[AlmostThere!]

How big are you?

 

[kody_starr]

It doesn't matter: there's always someone bigger and stronger.

 

[The Grey Fox]

It doesn't matter: there's always someone bigger and stronger.

Or someone packing a knife.

 

[kody_starr]

Exactly, this is not the type of escalation we teach.

 

[Blood Angel]

Sounds like you might be afraid of physical confrontation because of your suspension back in high school. Did you get in a ton of **** from your parents? If so, it could be possible that you now equate physical violence with unpleasant feelings.

Just a guess.

 

[DonJuanit0]

I was in your shoes back in high school where everyone thought me and 2 friends of mine were the real sh1ts and we would take no word from anyone, but wtf? We were just as well minding our own business!! So that alone which is great to exist since you get fame and staff is bad cause if there is another "predator" "dude" or w/e will come after you and prove he is better than you! I never wanted to fight any of those dudes or w/e but I couldn't avoid it like you did, cause my friends wouldn't let it go and I couldn't be the wuss or let my friends fight alone 5-6 dudes! So, I signed up for martial arts lessons (muai thai) and after that I got my confidence way up high and learned some valuable techniques! Maybe that's what you have to do cause there might be a day when you won't be able to avoid the fight! :/

 

[Senor Juan]

Do Krav Maga: http://kravmaganewyork.net/. Trust me.

 

[MSwrestler]

Alot more to fighting the strength in punches my friend... I suggest you look up brett rogers and his bragging ability about his knockout strength. And then see what real fighting looks like when fedor whooped his ass.

 

[Hikapo]

Ok, here's the dilemma. I'm 21, and for my age, I'm a fvckin beast.

You know those light/lampposts on the streets? I can punch one and cause dents in it, with no hurt caused to me.
(And trust me, the lampposts here in United States are fvckin really hard and steel/metal made).

I can constantly punch a wall and cause dents and holes, and still feel no pain.


BUT, when I'm walking outside for example, and some other male throws a shiit comment at me, tries to start a fight, or spits in my way, or curses me, etc, I get kinda shook and just walk away, heck, even my heart starts shaking a bit.

I know I can DESTROY any of those who conflict me. Trust me, when I say I am too strong for my age, I really mean it. If I can put dents in steel and feel no pain, then imagine what will happen if the same fists make contact with a human nose?


Any tips on how to get past this fvuckin problem? It makes me look like a wuss, when in reality I don't think there's any male in my neighborhood that can even get as close as tackling me down.

It's really killing my confidence, and I think all this power I have is being wasted. All the exercise, workout, gym I have done feels wasted, whats the point, when I can't even stand up to others?

(Losing control is a different thing. Broke a kids nose in high school, got suspended. But I have managed to control anger so now I can't even lose anger, not to mention the usual cursing me on the street to start a fight doesn't really do enough to make me lose control).

Thanks in advance guys.

I could see why you are getting all these threats and trouble.

I know a guy that goes to the gym and he is ripped as fvck. At first I looked and him and thought he was a stuck up guy because he never smiles. It wasn't until I talked to him that I knew he had a very good personality. It totally changed. He smiles a lot and is friendly.

You are kinda like that guy. Everyone thinks you are the kind that is stuck up and big and strong. They think you like to look for trouble.

They are jealous of your size and strength. That is why they pick on you.

I suggest you smile more to strangers if you haven't already. It really helps to make you a friendly guy to strangers.

 

[Blank]

Man...I have the same problem in Philadelphia, always have. Thing is, I used to look like a huge ******* because I never smiled.

Things are different now, I do smile and don't constantly look pissed off like I used to. I also have a year and a half of MMA training under my belt now so I REALLY KNOW that I could take anyone without experience fighting.

In spite of this, I still get fvcked with every once in a while. For example, I was walking into a Wawa with a friend (I'm 5'11", 180lbs, my friend, also my training partner since I started out in MMA, is 6'2" and about 230lbs) and these three guys were standing outside (its next to a bar). As we were walking in, we hear them say "fagots". As we're leaving, one of them hits my friends coffee out of his hand.

Seriously, who does this sh!t? People in big cities are ridiculous sometimes. Anyway, we end up knocking two of them out and hauling ass because there are cops right down the street and my friend is on probation. If he gets caught for ANYTHING he's serving jail time.

As for your problem, I strongly suggest formal martial arts training, either in the form of any style of boxing or MMA. I started out with muay thai kick boxing and after a few months I was no longer afraid of anyone, period.

They teach you what to do in those street situations. They teach you exactly where to hit someone to knock them out (chin, temple, behind the ear) and why it works, they teach you how to gain the edge psychologically, etc. It's just a great idea. Everyone should take martial arts in my opinion but I feel it is especially appropriate for your situation.

Hell, you might even become a great fighter if what you say about your strength and pain tolerance is true.

Good luck. Any questions about martial arts, pm me. 1 year muay thai kick boxing experience, 1.5 years MMA training, tung soo do black belt. I could probably answer any questions you might have.

Blank.

 

[Senor Juan]

Do Krav Maga: http://kravmaganewyork.net/. Trust me.

Just to clarify Krav Maga is not about kicking someone's ass, it's about doing some damage and getting the **** out of a bad situation. It's not some kind of martial art it's street fighting plain and simple. Teaches you how to deal with stress and a broken arm, great crossover skills for life.

 

[DonGorgon]

"I'm a beast, but I get scared from others. Wtf?" = you are not all the beast that you think you are, hence your lack of confidence in your abilities..