I'm 38, and I'm still living at home with my parents

[Latinoman]

http://www.chass.utoronto.ca/~ngargano/corsi/100/mamma.art.html
Old but still holds true.
Second place is good enough for some women, but relationships have come asunder because of boyfriends who insist on bringing mommy along on vacations.
lol...i know a man who does just this. Absolutely stunning girlfriend though.

Latinoman...
Maybe in your culture (whatever that is) it is strange for a male to live at home until he gets married...BUT...in many societies (Italy for one) there is no stigma attached to this. In some cultures your mother plays a HUGE role in your life. In American culture this practice is not accepted as normal by society, but America is not exactly a family centered society.

I have NO idea what a threesome has to do with living at home until you get married. You have me there.

I am an American. And I'm assuming over 90% of the "M"en in here are Americans.



I was in the Military (U.S.) and I am a Gulf War Veteran (the First War).


No offense...but in the U.S....men USED to be one of the most independent men in the World. Men used to work the fields and raise their families at a very early age. Many left their homes as teenagers to pursue a better life an career. MANY came to Ellis Island (sp.) as kids and on their own.

That is what made this such a POWERFUL NATION! The ability to be MEN and INDEPENDENT. That's why we kicked arse during the two World Wars and why we faced the Korean War as men.

But then the hippy/puzzified thing started to hit...and we had Vietnam. And then the Hippy movement along with the Femi-nazy movement kicked in...and now we have a by-product of puzzies and she-males in our society.


Italy? We are Americans...not Italians. Sure, we might have some Italo-Americans...but those are completely different to the ones in the "old country". We are the Most Powerful Nation in the World. At least for now; I suspect with the bunch of pansies we have today...our numbers are counted. Hopefuly our women can meet the challenge and keep us afloat.

Then people wonder why women CHEAT and get into the "bi"-sexualism thing. Why being with a "m"an...when you can get the same and more from a woman?

 

[dr_devious]

So what if the guy lives at home when he's 38, if its right for him then he should just stuff what everybody else thinks. Its true that some women would reject him on these grounds, but more genuine women wouldnt. Everyones an individual, and should please themselves how they live their lives as long as it doesnt harm anybody else.

 

[Latinoman]

YOU try to be "independent" when you are going back to college or university full time and see how that works out for you financially.

I was in a University FULL TIME studying engineering (that unlike Medical or Law degrees...it truly requires strong mathematical and scientific aptitude)...and I was INDEPENDENT.

I did my Masters Degree while I was working FULL TIME (and taking 2-3 classes per semester) and was MARRIED with two small children.

"How it worked for [me] financially?" Do you realize that the only "dumbass" thing in this thread is actually THAT question?

The question from a DJ perspective should be: How that experience has impacted my life today?

And today (at 38) I'm doing pretty damn well. To the point that I do all my budget by mind (no computer). I am very well respected by all the women that surround me to the point that most of them either call me or stop by my office to ask for advice (career, life, $$$, educational).

I did my thing on my own. I feel an inner satisfaction to actually say that. You see? I never needed "mom" or "dad" to take care of me. Once I became an adult...I started to act like a MAN.

 

[Latinoman]

Latinoman, let's be honest here. Your user name says a lot. I'm of Hispanic background, too. You KNOW as well as I do that Hispanic culture places far more emphasis/importance on family than Anglo culture does.

I will admit, though, living at home as an adult and hording away all of your money rather than contributing to the household to some extent is NOT cool. I would LOVE to make $100K/year like that 38 y.o. guy does...not to buy an expensive car, but so I can take even better care of the people closest to me.

Seeing people of Anglo culture here in the U.S. saying that is cool to "save" money (while making 100K) by living with mom/dad is pretty pathetic. And that's the point I'm trying to make. It is NOT the American way of doing things.

Women in AMERICA are repelled by "men" that live with their parents.

Note: Once my kids are adults...all I can do is provide them with advice and be there for them. But I don't want them living with me.

 

[Latinoman]

Its true that some women would reject him on these grounds, but more genuine women wouldnt.

Really?

Put an add...say that you are 38 and living with your parents.

We will see how many women would reply to it.

 

[Latinoman]

That guy who's living at home, if he ever gets married will have a TONNE of money to pass onto his kids, what about the "broke" independent "man" who's ****ed a lot of chicks is he going to have the same?? F-ck no.

Do you truly believe that working and making a tonne of money to pass onto our kids is "smart"?

If I die today...sure, they will have lot of money. And that is, because they still minors and is my responsibility as a parent to make sure they are taken care off.

But, if I die OLD...they will have NOTHING. Why? Because I will make sure I spend it all.

The ONLY and BEST thing I can give my children is an EDUCATION. I have made it clear to them: not to expect houses, cars, $$$$, etc. from me if I die OLD. I have told them that they MUST get an education so they can do what I would do: ENJOY ALL MY MONEY!

I would of course have my doors open for advice, etc.


So...yes...I rather be the INDEPENDENT MAN that phuck a LOT of chicks and is broke (after spending ALL MY MONEY before I DIED). That's what I call living LIFE FULLY.

So get out your mom's house...and start living LIFE.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Its true that some women would reject him on these grounds, but more genuine women wouldnt. ....

That's like saying that if a man was a real gentleman he would always buy women drinks in a club, always pay for the date and let her move in with him for convenience (hey, isn't there already a thread about this in the forum?).

 

[Latinoman]

That's like saying that if a man was a real gentleman he would always buy women drinks in a club, always pay for the date and let her move in with him for convenience (hey, isn't there already a thread about this in the forum?).

Furthermore...it is the equivalent of saying that a "genuine" man would take a woman with 8 bastard kids under his wing.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Furthermore...it is the equivalent of saying that a "genuine" man would take a woman with 8 bastard kids under his wing.

Exactly!

 

[dr_devious]

How is it? Cos the guy lives with his parents this doesnt mean that a woman is gonna have to take responsibility for the parents as well. A lot of women would blow him out straight away for living with his parents but some might not, it all depends on the guy. Does he live at home cos hes got some social anxiety problem or is it cos it suits him and its how he wants to live?

 

[WestCoaster]

I agree with Latino man in being independent. I think it's great to be supportive of your parents. I am, though they live 300 miles away. I visit them frequently.

A few years removed from undergrad, I got a job in their hometown (well, my hometown, too). I lived with them for a few months until I found a place -- and I could've moved out earlier. I love my parents, but I was going insane! I was 28 at the time, and it certainly didn't attract women at all.

Once I found a great condo-rental (with a pool, nice amenities), I immediately started getting dates. My mind-set had changed. Yeah, I still love my parents and all ... but they totally understood why I moved out.

It's not all about purchasing real estate -- I still rent -- it's about being independent. It really is. The housing market is tough for a single guy to buy unless he's making close to six figures (that is unless you live in some very isolated farm town).

Just rent, be independent. Pretty tough to invite women over to your place when mom is around.

There's something to be said about being independent ... and something to be said about parents letting their older son live at home.

 

[Vulpine]

I've lived with my parents off and on through my 20's. I'd move out, fall on my face, move back in with mommy, move out, fall on my face, etc. It's one thing if you are having some troubles and your parents are there to catch you when you fall. It's another thing to never leave, or never try. I've had no problem with women during the times I lived with my parents because they saw that I was trying to establish myself. They saw that I was dealing with traumas and living with mommy was a neccessary thing.

Now, had I never left, I would have never failed.

This 38 year old guy is scared of life. And THAT will drive the chicks away like crazy.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How is it? Cos the guy lives with his parents this doesnt mean that a woman is gonna have to take responsibility for the parents as well. A lot of women would blow him out straight away for living with his parents but some might not, it all depends on the guy. Does he live at home cos hes got some social anxiety problem or is it cos it suits him and its how he wants to live?

You're serious, aren't you? Yes, there are always exceptions but out of curiosity, describe the type of woman that wouldn't mind dating a man that still lives with his parents. While you're at it, describe the type of man who wouldn't mind dating a woman while still living at home with his parents.

 

[dr_devious]

Someone he met in a bar who fancied him a lot but didnt know he lived with his parents at first may overlook it. A woman who lives with her parents may overlook it. A woman he got to know at work who really liked him might overlook it. Having said that, it would put a lot of women off, i realise that, but some might overlook it

 

[sparky0000]

who took down my posts? why? they were about the only good thing to come from this topic. give me a reason. they were clean, well written, were backed by references, and were relevant.

just curious is all.

 

[Big Pappy]

Any guy that is living with his parents - c'mon, let's not make generalizations. It's entirely possible his parents are in poor health and he's home helping them on his off time.

Sure he looks at women with lust in his eyes, he's a geek. You would prefer he stare at you?