I'm 22, have no friends, and can't remember when I made eye contact w/ a girl

entgs2 · Sep 9, 2009

Prodigy746 said:
Are you in college, do you live by yourself ??? Where do you live now??? PM me and i could possibly try to help you...especially if you are in college..

I'm a grad student. Alas, not at the University of Florida or Penn State, but at a much smaller school.

entgs2 · Sep 9, 2009

Thyme said:
yea irs88 idk if all that reading will do him that much good. i would however agree with you in that the blueprint would be absolutely perfect for him.

entgs2 (whatever the f*ck that means haha), i am going out on a limb and saying that you are LUCKY!!

what?! did he just say lucky?

What?! Did you just say lucky?

Thyme said:
yes.

of the billions on this earth, not many at all can say they came from a position as desolate as your own. but that is something to be proud of. your going to get to where you want to be, trust me (this site, and more importantly the field will get you there). when you look back months or years from now, you will be prouder then you could ever imagine.

Hhahahahaha. This is a fantastic way of looking at things. It's true, if I can get out of this situation, that'll really be some story to tell.

slaog · Sep 9, 2009

entgs2 said:
I try to hide the negative thinking whenever possible around other people, but you're probably right: it does show in some ways.

When you say I should focus on developing myself, you mean things like working out, getting hobbies, making friends etc?

I think I have at least decent body language, at least when walking or sitting by myself (when talking to someone it's a different story entirely). Facial expressions are perhaps the killer for me.

I've even gotten random homeless guys come up to me and tell me I look "angry" or "p1ssed", or that "you look like you're hoping wherever it is you're going is on fire". Not entirely sure why I get this: I think from years of being depressed, it just shows in my face

Practice smiling. I don't mean walking around with a big grin just a slight relaxed smile. It takes less effort of smaile then it does to frown. As I said its just a matter of making it a habit. You've a bad habit now so you need to concentrate on relaxing the facial muscles and smiling more. People are simple creatures. They like those who like them. So if you're genuinely nice to people 99.9% of the time they'll like you more. Theres a good ebook called 'the body language project'. After reading it I can now tell alot about somebody based on their body language alone.

When I say you should focus on developing yourself I was talking about changing the way you think. Stick around on this site and the more you learn you'll find that your beliefs will change and your behaviour with it.

By the way its important to have goals. Know what you want and write it down regulary to remind yourself. That focuses the mind on your goals and when the mind is focused on something it'll more likely achieve the goal.

Energizer · Sep 9, 2009

entgs2 said:
Hahaha I knew someone or the other was going to say this, but it's not true. My greatest fear is that in 10 years I wind up like him.

Unless you have been lurking here for months or you have trawled through the archives, a newly registered poster wouldn't know about caped crusader.

I used to have self esteem issues and had a low self value. What did I do? Changed my hairstyle, clothes, went back to basics, had a relationship with a woman, lost my v-plates, had my first one night stand (hated it) and built up and up and even I am no where near being a DJ, but stick with this site, the DJ's are here to help and they will help you.

horaholic · Sep 9, 2009

Caped crusader was only 23, btw.

Energizer · Sep 9, 2009

horaholic said:
Caped crusader was only 23, btw.

You know a lot about the man they call Caped Crusader.

horaholic · Sep 9, 2009

He posted ten ridiculous threads a day, for months. Its hard not to. I know he was 23 and lived in Boston in his parents basement.

entgs2 · Sep 9, 2009

horaholic said:
Caped crusader was only 23, btw.

Ah, for some reason I thought he was older. Maybe it was some other guy.

Yes, I have lurked for some time, which is why the name Caped Crusader is familiar to me.

The Asian Lover · Sep 9, 2009

You need to work on your inner game ASAP. Low self esteem is a strong repellent of women. Check out my inner game videos on my blog.

A strong masculine physique will make the game much easier, I know from experience.

I'm on the shorter side too and Asian men aren't exactly chick magnets. Yet, I've gone out with 54 women since March 08.

entgs2 · Sep 10, 2009

horaholic said:
He posted ten ridiculous threads a day, for months. Its hard not to. I know he was 23 and lived in Boston in his parents basement.

I hope that any future threads/posts of mine are more useful/positive than this one.

Nygard · Sep 10, 2009

You guys are great! This guy comes here, desperate, no idea on what to do, and most of you give him a very abstract answer. Like..

You need to work on your inner game ASAP

Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?

DonJuan11 · Sep 10, 2009

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You guys are great! This guy comes here, desperate, no idea on what to do, and most of you give him a very abstract answer. Like..

Quote:
You need to work on your inner game ASAP

Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?

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LOL. That's the funniest thing I've heard all week.

horaholic · Sep 10, 2009

entgs2 said:
I hope that any future threads/posts of mine are more useful/positive than this one.

So do I!

Irs88 · Sep 10, 2009

Nygard said:
You guys are great! This guy comes here, desperate, no idea on what to do, and most of you give him a very abstract answer. Like..

Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?

I did tell him. Blueprint by RSD. Goes over inner game for 19 hours straight. Breaks it all down. And that book I suggested is all about inner game specifically for nice guys. If you can practice internalizing all those things you can imporve your inner game.

The Asian Lover · Sep 10, 2009

slaog · Sep 11, 2009

Nygard said:
You guys are great! This guy comes here, desperate, no idea on what to do, and most of you give him a very abstract answer. Like..

Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?

Think of yourself as being a DJ and you'll start acting like a DJ. Think of yourself as being a repellent to women and thats what you'll become. You'll act in ways that make you seem creepy to women even though you are not creepy.

Also:
-Making out goals and writing them down.
-Reading more on this site to get a deeper understanding of how things work. When you have a deeper understand of something you're more conscious of it and soyou're less likely to go against that.
-Change body language that helps you fake it till you make it ie if you walk with confidence it'll help you become confident.

entgs2 · Sep 11, 2009

The Asian Lover said:
entgs2, I hope this helps. Message me if you have any questions. I know what you're going through.

Inner Game part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZXsCRFs9Ts

Inner Game part 2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=966GRvipnC4

Inner Game part 3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JooHAoQ2TfI

Inner Game part 4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJMw3E3zQbU

Inner Game part 5
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBH7H4Ab464

What to wear
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1ehft1fvVs

How to find the right gym for you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKg-yrbRZOU

Confident body language
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spkFp4EcFbc

Thanks! I'll watch all these and let you know.

entgs2 · Sep 11, 2009

slaog said:
Think of yourself as being a DJ and you'll start acting like a DJ. Think of yourself as being a repellent to women and thats what you'll become. You'll act in ways that make you seem creepy to women even though you are not creepy.

Also:
-Making out goals and writing them down.
-Reading more on this site to get a deeper understanding of how things work. When you have a deeper understand of something you're more conscious of it and soyou're less likely to go against that.
-Change body language that helps you fake it till you make it ie if you walk with confidence it'll help you become confident.

The problem that I have with fake it till you make it is that I can fake it fine, when alone or in a situation that I feel comfortable in. When meeting strangers (I haven't met a hot female stranger in a while), all that just instantly goes away. Guess theres no other way but to keep trying...

And yes, I really need to start writing goals down.

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