I'll do it - Text game

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

I'll write a thread on text-game as requested.

I'll do it when I have free time and if I'm going to do this I'm going to go in depth and do it right.
It might be several posts long so you fvckers better read the whole thing haha.

I'm serious guys, if you really want me to do this, i'm going to poor everything into it and make it detailed, so I need to know what you guys are having the most trouble with.

I need questions -> situations -> responses you get -> issues you have
comment all of those below and I will go over it.
I want to make sure it's as thorough as possible.


I hear a lot of issues about people having girls flake on them. I never get flaked on, I can honestly say that. I believe a huge portion of this is because of the way I communicate leading up to the date and that might be a problem with a lot of you guys.
My club game is weak, but my text game, party game and street/subway game is strong, my friends get me to talk to girls for them, they ask me what to say and how to say it and get good results.

So let me know what you guys want me to go over or what you're having trouble with and i'll show you how I handle it. In detail.

 

[doctorj]

what are good text game fluff talk? I honestly find it boring to do small talk via text nowadays unlike a few years back when it was more popular to text

 

[Hobbs]

YES!
Looking forward to this.

I have trouble with a few things

-Introductory texts after I got the number they seem stale/boring
-good and bad topics to talk about
-how to get them interested in meeting up

I'm just interested in hearing your style on this, you're right about texting, its unfortunately the new rapport builder and as much as I hate it I have to get better at doing it.

 

[youngmack]

How/what to text a girl to build attraction, make her want to talk to you more , and make her WANT to go out on dates with you. I'm 17 and girls now a days won't go out with a dude she dosent find interesting through text.

 

[Trump]

My club game is weak, but my text game, party game and street/subway game is strong, my friends get me to talk to girls for them, they ask me what to say and how to say it and get good results.

Just curious, how can you so be powerful in every type of game except club game? What is it about the club - the competition?

 

[MisterD]

I'm glad. I was planning on making a text game thread because I was tired of answering every single text related thread with the same answer.

If this is a success I hope it gets stickied. This is the world we live in now, girls love texting. Being good at it will help you more than it will hurt you, definitely.

I mentioned before, I've taken lukewarm girls and increased their interest with my text game. I think by far it's the strongest part of my game, but I write creatively and I'm a former English major turned Journalism major, so words have always been my thing.

 

[SamTheHobit]

No flake? This should be good.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Remember that sarcasm and suggestive but harmless flirting can get lost in a text and be taken completely the wrong way.

Don't text back straight away. Pause to consider the best response and re-read every word before you send.

No brainer: double check the text is going to the right person.

With iPhones, the only way to stop a text being sent after you hit the "send" button is to turn your phone off ASAP, before it's finished sending.

Don't ramble and try not to reply with a text longer than the one she sent you.

Never send two consecutive texts before you get one back from her, unless it's to correct something in your previous text or an extremely funny or worthwhile addition to your previous text.

If you haven't heard from a girl for more than a day after you've texted her a question or asked her out, it's permissible to send ONE more text. She may have lost her phone, been in an accident or her reply to you might've been "lost".
If still nothing, do NOT text again.

Don't underestimate the importance of good grammar and demonstrating a solid grasp of the English language. I've lost count of the number of girls who've said they love that my texts are word-perfect.
You'll appear smart and that you give a shyt about what you write and chicks dig that.

 

[NobodyCares1]

Looking forward to this.... I'm basically interested in the same things that Hobbs mentioned... I feel like my text game is really weak... I got only about 50% of girls to go out with me on a date through texting...

 

[\O/]

Looking forward to this. You have good posts and i believe this will be one for the bible.The bible is great, but the game has changed and textgame is now an important part in a DJ's arsenal. It can fill a gap.

Flaking is my biggest issue. If you get a number without creating any rapport, it's highly likely that they will flake. Any turn-arounds would be great.

 

[In10se]

Yeah I am seriously looking forward to this as well, I can get 5 makeouts/10 numbers in one night, but then the numbers go stale...

I have tried being interesting/setting up the date quickly, I also space my texts out...girls seem to answer promptly up until I suggest hanging out again...often get dead air

Its weird because some of these girls are sober when we hook up first time around...so there is genuine attraction, I have gotten 3 lays off cold approaches this summer...but if my text game was tight I think I could've had way more

 

[PDubb75]

As some posters have said, that initial text when you feel there wasn't a huge connection right away. It may be a lost cause, but if you got some tips, I'm happy to hear them.

I tend to think of (what I feel) good first texts, but responses are few and far between. As an example, I asked this chick about getting a Vegas Bomb, and she had never heard of it. So we went to do one together and she loved it. Made out afterwards, then she put her number in my phone. This was a Saturday night.

I texted her Monday night "Hey Megan, how was losing your Vegas Bomb virginity?"

.... at least I thought it was good...

 

[oxford comma]

really looking forward to this mr. someone else. my text game is terrible, my texts have no value to them and girls are value junkies.

 

[bigneil]

If someone says they never get flaked on I'll say they aren't dating HB10's.

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

I'll start it soon enough, been really busy as of late, I want to write a lot on it and do it properly when I do it. considering even screenshoting convo's.

If someone says they never get flaked on I'll say they aren't dating HB10's.

I should clarify.
I'm not flaked on because I don't go on dates, I invite them over and make plans for that day and no later. I don't make plans for a date, I invite them over to my place in most cases.
I don't know how you guys get flaked on so frequently, maybe if I was actually taking these girls out on dates it would happen.

I'm definitely happy with the quality of woman I've been getting. ( Always room for improvement, not stating my game is solid, it's just been working for me)

 

[NobodyCares1]

well inviting them to your place might work... but then I'm 18 and living with my parents so not such a good idea... also it might come off as creepy because I've never heard about a guy inviting a girl who he just met to his house other than here

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

well inviting them to your place might work... but then I'm 18 and living with my parents so not such a good idea... also it might come off as creepy because I've never heard about a guy inviting a girl who he just met to his house other than here

Why would it be creepy?
Are you a creepy guy? You have no reason to consider it ebing creepy unless your creepy yourself.
They met you in person, if you let off a good impression and did some good rapport building through text, it should be just the same as inviting a girl to hang out.

Unless you like spending money on dates then go ahead..
especially at your age, wtf

 

[NobodyCares1]

nah I didn't mean to spend money usually for the first date I just take them somewhere for a walk... or maybe just coke... that's usually how it goes here... and no I'm not creepy but this still doesn't solve the problem that I have parents at home almost at all time... or when not parents then siblings... I'm home alone very rarely and usually just for an hour or so...

 

[The_Jon]

Looking forward to it

 

[Greasy Pig]

Massive bump but I just remembered an effective opener I use with texts.

I'll sometimes text something like: "Hey, Megan. I just saw a girl with a beehive hairdo and thought of you. How did you recover from Saturday night?"

Obviously if Megan doesn't have a beehive hairdo, you just substitute it for something else that's relevant to her.
"Just saw a girl with pink stockings/killer high heels/walking her dog/with a tattoo/drinking red cordial....." whatever.

You can also use this technique to neg and be funny:
"Hey, Megan. I just saw a girl with terrible sunglasses and thought of you." Or: "who had questionable fashion sense/driving badly/very drunk/looked like a jockey/couldn't cook/needed a haircut/paid way too much for a haircut/needed to get out more/with no friends/looked like nerd etc etc."