Whether it's known or not, women like men who CHOOSE.
Choosing means we SELECT what it is we want and what we don't want. And for some reason, the pickier we are, the more women want us. It makes them feel regal. Upperclass. Valuable. Worthwhile.
Just as a man gives an investment to a woman in taking care of her, in not seeing other women, in her offspring, in her protection, so to does a woman in her affections, in her body, in sex, in devotion. It truly is give and take but has been warped to be perceived NOT to be that way.
Ignoring is merely a game one plays. You still support their bad behavior, you only play hard to get.
On the contrary, CHOOSING means you don't accept certain behavior, or you do accept certain behavior. It makes the recepient feel special. Whereas ignoring implies "when I get over it we can talk or see each other."
Ignoring something or someone doesn't improve anything, it merely PUTS OFF the inevitable conclusion.
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When you're with a girl, if she flakes alot, or cusses, or smokes, or something you don't like, ignoring her only gives you a break from that. Odds are, she won't care, and won't change until she does care. If she's given nothing of value to you or finds nothing of value in a relationship, there's no motivation to change.
CHOOSING/SELECTING is the belief and right of those who belief in ABUNDANCE. If you believe there's enough hb10's, or hb7's, or whatever out there, you don't IGNORE anyone, you merely move on. And if she asks what happened, you tell her, straight up. You don't shy around it, and you don't care, because YOU CHOOSE what you want in your life and don't want.
IGNORING someone or something means you don't choose, you just wait until it is tolerable or until one of you bend enough. On a deep level you don't want it, but you'll accept it if you must.
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Case-in-point, I'm very anti-smoker, which is rare in women these days. Many of my x's have popped up as closet smokers. They weren't smokers, or were and they hid only when the drank. Eventually it was a problem. Sure I could justify it and let her use gum, and mouthwash, but that isn't what I don't like.
It's the disease. It's watching a woman make that face, puff out pure black smoke from her pink lungs. It's the money spent on such a stupid vice. It's the cancer that inevitably follows. The hardening of the lungs and respiratory complications that follow. Gum and mouthwash are short-term fixes to a long-term problem. Since then I have never dated a girl who gives any hint to smoking, nor have I returned to an X who did smoke.
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When you're pure and honest in the emotion, when you're pure and honest with yourself, that attitude and your personality and feelings are conveyed through your actions.
IGNORING is a bad emotion, it well you up and gives you bad feelings toward someone. In the long-run you'll end up programming yourself to react negatively toward this person.
CHOOSING is a positive emotion. You choose what you do want. You focus on what it is you want and YOU GET IT.
That's one the basics of NLP, you can ONLY focus on 1 side of a coin at 1 time. Which side do you choose, or ignore?
See, if you focus on IGNORING, you're focusing on the BAD.
"What you don't want."
Focusing on CHOOSING, places the focus on "What you do want."
Choosing invites positivity into your life. Plus, it gives you a road map, a way to find yourself through life to what you do want.
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Choosing and ignoring are like seeing the goal versus the obstacles. There are those who see the goal (choose) and there are those who acknowledge the obstacles, only hoping to avoid them.
By choosing, you are learning a critical element about life that you should take EVERYWHERE else.
You choose your job; you don't ignore or avoid what you don't like.
You choose where you live; you don't ignore or avoid the weather/climate you don't like.
Do you see where ignoring doesn't get you any closer to what you want? It just means you've temporarily avoided the bad, if that's possible.
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So instead of playing the ignore game, PLAY THE CHOOSE game. If a girl does something that crosses your line, that's a NO GO, then choose someone else. Seriously. And maybe in the future she will do something worthy of being reconsidered.
And with that frame of mind, you view life with abundance, a source of everlasting fruit, you will see more women than ever before possible, and you can be straight and honest and actually get more.
How?
Because, women won't find that you're so rigid. You're open and receptive to YOUR CHOICES, which means she will feel special HITTING YOUR RADAR. If a woman just "fills a role," how special does she actual feel?
Not much at all.
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When we speak about "inner game," it must be who you are. A pimp is a pimp always. A DJ is a DJ always. It isn't something you can be good at part-time or do only part-time. You will never be as successful as you desire to be.
On the other hand, if you assume negative tactics, that yield fake success and results with women, you will corrupt other areas of your life. To be good at ignoring someone, and many other negative tactics, you must ASSUME it as who you are. Which means you infect your life elsewhere.
If you ignore women, instead of choose them, then this is a habit that will trickle to other parts of your life.
Instead of choosing a job, career, or friends, you'll simply IGNORE what you don't like because it's how you're trained. So be careful of what path you wish for, it may not lead you to the promised land.
Those guys who fantasize about the type of woman they desire are on the right track.
Why?
Because they envision what they want, so when they see her, bells will go off alerting him to her presence. It's like, when you're in a club, and you always envision a bruentte, with a night round arse, and perky tits, a girl who's traditional, feminine, and sexual. Your subconscious mind has this mental vision, now, whenever it senses she is around, your eyes will point it out to you.
It's no different than when you buy a car and NOW you see it everywhere, but before it seemed so new. Your mind has a picture of it, and bam, there it is.
Dreaming up your ideal girl is precisely what you want. If you have no idea of what you want, then you just get whatever it is you get and live with it.
Peace.
A-Unit
Choosing means we SELECT what it is we want and what we don't want. And for some reason, the pickier we are, the more women want us. It makes them feel regal. Upperclass. Valuable. Worthwhile.
Just as a man gives an investment to a woman in taking care of her, in not seeing other women, in her offspring, in her protection, so to does a woman in her affections, in her body, in sex, in devotion. It truly is give and take but has been warped to be perceived NOT to be that way.
Ignoring is merely a game one plays. You still support their bad behavior, you only play hard to get.
On the contrary, CHOOSING means you don't accept certain behavior, or you do accept certain behavior. It makes the recepient feel special. Whereas ignoring implies "when I get over it we can talk or see each other."
Ignoring something or someone doesn't improve anything, it merely PUTS OFF the inevitable conclusion.
--------------------------------------
When you're with a girl, if she flakes alot, or cusses, or smokes, or something you don't like, ignoring her only gives you a break from that. Odds are, she won't care, and won't change until she does care. If she's given nothing of value to you or finds nothing of value in a relationship, there's no motivation to change.
CHOOSING/SELECTING is the belief and right of those who belief in ABUNDANCE. If you believe there's enough hb10's, or hb7's, or whatever out there, you don't IGNORE anyone, you merely move on. And if she asks what happened, you tell her, straight up. You don't shy around it, and you don't care, because YOU CHOOSE what you want in your life and don't want.
IGNORING someone or something means you don't choose, you just wait until it is tolerable or until one of you bend enough. On a deep level you don't want it, but you'll accept it if you must.
----------------------------------
Case-in-point, I'm very anti-smoker, which is rare in women these days. Many of my x's have popped up as closet smokers. They weren't smokers, or were and they hid only when the drank. Eventually it was a problem. Sure I could justify it and let her use gum, and mouthwash, but that isn't what I don't like.
It's the disease. It's watching a woman make that face, puff out pure black smoke from her pink lungs. It's the money spent on such a stupid vice. It's the cancer that inevitably follows. The hardening of the lungs and respiratory complications that follow. Gum and mouthwash are short-term fixes to a long-term problem. Since then I have never dated a girl who gives any hint to smoking, nor have I returned to an X who did smoke.
----------------------------------------
When you're pure and honest in the emotion, when you're pure and honest with yourself, that attitude and your personality and feelings are conveyed through your actions.
IGNORING is a bad emotion, it well you up and gives you bad feelings toward someone. In the long-run you'll end up programming yourself to react negatively toward this person.
CHOOSING is a positive emotion. You choose what you do want. You focus on what it is you want and YOU GET IT.
That's one the basics of NLP, you can ONLY focus on 1 side of a coin at 1 time. Which side do you choose, or ignore?
See, if you focus on IGNORING, you're focusing on the BAD.
"What you don't want."
Focusing on CHOOSING, places the focus on "What you do want."
Choosing invites positivity into your life. Plus, it gives you a road map, a way to find yourself through life to what you do want.
-------------------------------------
Choosing and ignoring are like seeing the goal versus the obstacles. There are those who see the goal (choose) and there are those who acknowledge the obstacles, only hoping to avoid them.
By choosing, you are learning a critical element about life that you should take EVERYWHERE else.
You choose your job; you don't ignore or avoid what you don't like.
You choose where you live; you don't ignore or avoid the weather/climate you don't like.
Do you see where ignoring doesn't get you any closer to what you want? It just means you've temporarily avoided the bad, if that's possible.
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So instead of playing the ignore game, PLAY THE CHOOSE game. If a girl does something that crosses your line, that's a NO GO, then choose someone else. Seriously. And maybe in the future she will do something worthy of being reconsidered.
And with that frame of mind, you view life with abundance, a source of everlasting fruit, you will see more women than ever before possible, and you can be straight and honest and actually get more.
How?
Because, women won't find that you're so rigid. You're open and receptive to YOUR CHOICES, which means she will feel special HITTING YOUR RADAR. If a woman just "fills a role," how special does she actual feel?
Not much at all.
-------------------------------------
When we speak about "inner game," it must be who you are. A pimp is a pimp always. A DJ is a DJ always. It isn't something you can be good at part-time or do only part-time. You will never be as successful as you desire to be.
On the other hand, if you assume negative tactics, that yield fake success and results with women, you will corrupt other areas of your life. To be good at ignoring someone, and many other negative tactics, you must ASSUME it as who you are. Which means you infect your life elsewhere.
If you ignore women, instead of choose them, then this is a habit that will trickle to other parts of your life.
Instead of choosing a job, career, or friends, you'll simply IGNORE what you don't like because it's how you're trained. So be careful of what path you wish for, it may not lead you to the promised land.
Those guys who fantasize about the type of woman they desire are on the right track.
Why?
Because they envision what they want, so when they see her, bells will go off alerting him to her presence. It's like, when you're in a club, and you always envision a bruentte, with a night round arse, and perky tits, a girl who's traditional, feminine, and sexual. Your subconscious mind has this mental vision, now, whenever it senses she is around, your eyes will point it out to you.
It's no different than when you buy a car and NOW you see it everywhere, but before it seemed so new. Your mind has a picture of it, and bam, there it is.
Dreaming up your ideal girl is precisely what you want. If you have no idea of what you want, then you just get whatever it is you get and live with it.
Peace.
A-Unit
