Ignoring a girl you like at gym--not appearing overeager

[oc16]

Recently, there has been girl I noticed at gym, about 10 years younger. I am in my 30's and I've seen her looking in my direction.

Last time about 10 days ago we had a 10 second brief interaction at the gym. I smiled at her and said good morning.
The next day, I see her in the lobby of my place of employment (public place) and I approach her. We talked for about a minute (she was busy and I had to get back to work. I asked for her name and I told her mine. I kept it short and sweet.

It is now 10 days later. As soon as I walked into gym. I noticed her about 15 yards away and to the right running hard on the treadmill and talking to a woman next to her. I turned to the left to go down the stairs and PURPOSELY ignored looking at her.

As I was walking back up the stairs five minutes later, as I got to the top --our eyes met for about two seconds (I know she saw me), but she was all sweaty and had no make up on and was running pretty hard.

I did not smile at her, I just looked straight ahead and kept walking. I tried to avoid looking in her direction most of the time and did my own thing.

I mean don't you think trying to "meet a girls eyes" every time you see her in gym or "seeking" her out, it makes you look desperate?

Next time, I see her, I will try and make eye contact.

What do you think?

 

[dustmuffin]

Talk to her ask for number and or date. Next time you see her.

 

[AttackFormation]

What I think, I think you're wasting your time. Ask her out the 2nd time you talked to her and move on. In this span of days, she's already sucked a couple of new ****s. She's thinking about what a good pounding she got from Tony while you are thinking about what a good game you are playing to not do anything.

 

[Maximus Rex]

What's up with all of these threads about the "girl at the gym?"

 

[Yewki]

I did not smile at her, I just looked straight ahead and kept walking. I tried to avoid looking in her direction most of the time and did my own thing.

You're procrastinating and it's only going to hurt you. The longer you wait and pretend not to notice her the more awkward it will be to approach her. And the less respect she'll have for you.

Smile if you feel like smiling. Engage in small talk if you have the opportunity. Be friendlier. Make a move. Otherwise, you'll be reading this thread months from now with regret.

 

[oc16]

BTW, this was the first time I did the ignore thing with her. I don't see her that much anyhow.
Dude, the girl was running at an 8 minute mile pace on treadmill we made eye contact for two seconds if that. Was I supposed to appear overeager and wave? I think I did the right thing.
Also, you don't want to creepy and follow her around either. If I cross paths with her, sure I will try and look at her and say hi or something. But if she ain't looking in my direction, I am not going to seek her out.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

All you need to do is go over to her and ask for a number and/or date like you've got nothing to lose (because you're already spinning plates, I hope). Because else she'll put you into the category of other pussies who're too scared to make moves. You've got no connection with her yet so why should she care if you ignore her or not?

 

[oc16]

All you need to do is go over to her and ask for a number and/or date like you've got nothing to lose (because you're already spinning plates, I hope). Because else she'll put you into the category of other pussies who're too scared to make moves. You've got no connection with her yet so why should she care if you ignore her or not?

I talked to her at library ten days earlier for a minute. I approached her. Forgot to see if there is ring on finger.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

I talked to her at library ten days earlier for a minute. I approached her. Forgot to see if there is ring on finger.

Yeah I get that but still, get her number and get dat date bruh. You've made contact, now you got to reveal some of your intentions through actions.

 

[foreverAFC]

when i try to act aloof it just makes girls lose interest, i just cant fake it or make it seem natural, smiling at them every time we make any kind of eye contact works a lot better for me

 

[RangerMIke]

You're procrastinating and it's only going to hurt you. The longer you wait and pretend not to notice her the more awkward it will be to approach her. And the less respect she'll have for you.
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This is how you get obsessed with women. You are overthinking sh!t. See Girl.... Move Feet.... Get Number.... ask out. Anything else just delays the inevitable and can only hurt your chances.

A woman knows in seconds if you have a chance. All you are doing is lowering her interest the longer you wait. If she is not attracted to you... best find out sooner rather than later so you can move on and not develop imaginary relationships in your head.

 

[oc16]

Funny thing is, the girl isn't even that hot. I'd give her a 7 when she is all dressed up.

I am intrigued by her since she works out hard and doesn't dress like a ***** at the gym. She seems simple and mature.

 

[Dealler]

Funny thing is, the girl isn't even that hot. I'd give her a 7 when she is all dressed up.

I am intrigued by her since she works out hard and doesn't dress like a ***** at the gym. She seems simple and mature.

I think you should stop playing petty games in your mind and start playing real games by going to her and ask her out.

 

[Who Dares Win]

In such cases I believe the best policy is being friendly but polite, I dont believe in rushing to ask her out or do the opposite and ignore her.

You can manage attraction but cant create it, if she is not attracted from you, ignoring her wont do much she will simply not register it at all.

What worked for me was being friendly, have small talks, smile and test her attraction toward me time by time, I mean check the distance she keeps from you while you talk, pay attention if by mistake she touches you.

The touch test is important, a girl that doesnt find you attractive wont surely touch you, not even by mistake...sometime it seems its casual but women perfectly know where their hands go.

Once you evaluated her attraction toward you make a move, usually Im all for a bold move but considering that its the gym, an environment you usually attend I would say to keep it safer in case it doesnt work so a cofee at the bar right outiside the gym in your case would be a better option than an invitation to a night bar for the weekend.

You can still escalate from there altought not as easy as a nighr club, but the lower advantage also keeps you in a lower risk zone.

 

[oc16]

Saw her outside my boot camp class , she was doing to crazy yoga movements.
I was doing 60 second group exercise in class near window, when I got up she was looking right at me putting a jacket on to leave with a sad look on her face.
I had hands on hips and just looked at her for two seconds. Cheesy to wave or smile through the glass

 

[RedBear]

Perfect. Keep looking at each other.

 

[oc16]

Perfect. Keep looking at each other.

Is that sarcasm? Lol

 

[pyros]

yeah, while you're overthinking this sh-it, she's already been banged by two guys, one exbf and a new fling.
Just keep 'playing' this nonsense. lmao...

 

[YawataNoKami]

Long time ago I learned it is for working out only.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Walk into the gym with a Pikachu t-shirt and an Ash hat with a pokeball attached to your waste, do your workout and see if she is still checking you out. Go talk to her and if she doesn't run away, she probably likes you.