Ignored a couple of LTR's texts, she is calling repeatedly

[Scormus]

Had an argument with the distance LTR the other day, yesterday she sent me a text asking me to call (was very affectionate), I ignored it, in the morning she sent me a picture of us together, then she texted me this evening. I've ignored again.

I switched my phone off and I can see she has called my phone 3x now, 2nd time within 10 minutes, then she waited an hour for the 3rd.

There was no plan to meet this weekend and I know she's not calling about meeting up as she already said she needs to work on her court child custody papers.

Whats the right thing to do, my complaint was she was not putting enough work in to meet up as often as I would expect a girl calling herself my GF to do, she first said she was trying her best, then admitted it was her fault, and we left it at that.

I was angered that she had booked weeks away in her home country to see her son without consulting me and thinking she can just unilaterally decide its a month between dates like its normal, and I feel going ghost is the appropriate response. She had done this once before a few months ago and I had let it slide but at the time I expected less as the relationship was at an earlier stage.

 

[pdx1138]

Distance LTR? as in long distance, she lives very far away?

use whatever your phone has as a black list and put her on it
so you won't be notified any longer.

 

[VikingKing]

Relationships like this are a bad idea. You should end it and meet some one who lives closer to you.

You have to wait months to see her? Hell no. Fvck that. How is she going to suck your ****, and spread her legs for you in the time in between you seeing each other.It's literally physically impossible, and I know that for a fvcking fact.

 

[AmIAFC]

Ignore her.

If they're out of your State, they should be out of your state of mind.

 

[logicallefty]

The odds are stacked against this relationship working, but they don't always fail.

A buddy of mine was married, wife cheated on him so he filed for divorce right away.

We hung out right after and I gave him about a 3 hour pep talk and as many words of encouragement as I possibly could.

Just about a week later he met this chick online who lives 3 hours away in another State. His divorce wasn't even final yet. His ex was begging him to come back once she saw him with his new woman, but he stuck to his guns and pushed the divorce through.

He and the new chick are inseperable. They hung out every single weekened for two years, either in her town or his. He moved to her town about 3 months ago, found a new job in his field. Now they are engaged.

Moral of the story, it CAN work but like all others have said, the odds are stacked against a long distance relationship for sure.
He couldn't be happier. And the real ironic thing is he is on the fat/heavy side and she is a HB 7.5-8.

 

[Scormus]

Sorted

We are meeting midweek to bang it out.

She is an 8.5, easily in the 95th percentile of looks and have struggled to pull higher than 7s before so she is worth the effort for now.

 

[Scormus]

Hmmm

Its amazing how seldom this comes up in LDR threads. Its because when you are not a high value man female companionship on demand is not expected. Even the OP is not dumping the girl, he is just trying to manipulate her into giving him more companionship.

I did try to get past plates (who lived nearby) to turn up on demand to bang it out. It didn't work. They "wanted the relationship" and stopped responding when I wanted to turn them into FBs and not bother with dates.