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IG vs. OLD cold call response rate

user252009

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I've found myself cold messaging chicks on IG lately with extremely low success rate. Even on Tinder, the ones I match with rarely respond. My IG is mostly full of my creative side business posts etc., but I do have some photos of myself in there as well. Have your experiences been similar?
 
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I've found myself cold messaging chicks on IG lately with extremely low success rate. Even on Tinder, the ones I match with rarely respond. My IG is mostly full of my creative side business posts etc., but I do have some photos of myself in there as well. Have your experiences been similar?
On Tinder/Hinge, you can only message with a mutual match. I'm guessing your match % is sub 1% of all swipes and your response rate after messaging your matches is weak.

On Instagram, I don't think cold DMs would be all that useful. I can imagine the response rate would be similar or lower than a swipe app. At least on a swipe app, they indicated some level of interest.
 

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Instagram is a bad move for that, there are ripped guys and rich guys on Instagram, but where are those guys when your standing in front of her? Gotta understand the power convenience brings, if you have no following on Instagram and aren't ripped or rich, you are an inconvenience to her unless you propose some measure of immediate convenience that interests her.
 

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Are these IG girls even in your city? I think your approach on them should be a point of Commonality. "Hey I love that rooftop bar at XZZY. My buddy G is gonna be dj'ing there friday. Let me know and I'll get you on the list..."

If she replys in the affirmative:

"might cost you a drink and a dance..."
 

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I think unless you are truly genetically gifted with good looks and you have an amazing profile with great pics and a tonne of interactive followers, then DM'ing random hot 18 year olds who have no idea who you are has gotta be a REAL long shot.

I am aware that there are guys out there who have had success with it apparently, and i'm very jealous as there's just so many hot girls in my town, but I gave it a good go a while back as an experiment after watching some 'playing with fire' premium product, and unsurprisingly it didn't work lol

And not just that, but like @CAPSLOCK BANDIT there's a competition element. 2 girls that I know of in my small town have been DM'd by love islanders! Good luck competing with that. That's like being DM'd by Elvis presley here lol. And probably the girls I dm'd were getting similar offers
 

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I think unless you are truly genetically gifted with good looks and you have an amazing profile with great pics and a tonne of interactive followers, then DM'ing random hot 18 year olds who have no idea who you are has gotta be a REAL long shot.

I am aware that there are guys out there who have had success with it apparently, and i'm very jealous as there's just so many hot girls in my town, but I gave it a good go a while back as an experiment after watching some 'playing with fire' premium product, and unsurprisingly it didn't work lol

And not just that, but like @CAPSLOCK BANDIT there's a competition element. 2 girls that I know of in my small town have been DM'd by love islanders! Good luck competing with that. That's like being DM'd by Elvis presley here lol. And probably the girls I dm'd were getting similar offers
Instagram Chad is real.
 

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I think unless you are truly genetically gifted with good looks and you have an amazing profile with great pics and a tonne of interactive followers, then DM'ing random hot 18 year olds who have no idea who you are has gotta be a REAL long shot.

I am aware that there are guys out there who have had success with it apparently, and i'm very jealous as there's just so many hot girls in my town, but I gave it a good go a while back as an experiment after watching some 'playing with fire' premium product, and unsurprisingly it didn't work lol

And not just that, but like @CAPSLOCK BANDIT there's a competition element. 2 girls that I know of in my small town have been DM'd by love islanders! Good luck competing with that. That's like being DM'd by Elvis presley here lol. And probably the girls I dm'd were getting similar offers
It actually isn't that hard, i can create a datasheet in another thread to give you guys all the steps needed.
 

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Instagram Chad is real.
Yep, just saw that a girl I had a crush on and that rejected me, commented and liked a photo of a chad (I guess she used to bang) that posted a nude side pic (wtf dude)
 

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I've found myself cold messaging chicks on IG lately with extremely low success rate. Even on Tinder, the ones I match with rarely respond. My IG is mostly full of my creative side business posts etc., but I do have some photos of myself in there as well. Have your experiences been similar?
So here's my own experience with it so far.

I've paid for all the premium services of Tinder. (I know.) It's really a scam. I'd say safely about 1 to 2 years ago, the premium services actually give you an edge and you get tons of matches. But now, it's decreased substantially. And to get noticed, they upsell you to buy the boosts and super boosts even with premium. I paid those earlier this year and immediately you get massive results but again it's expensive af.

Even with Tinder gold and platinum, although I get matches, the girls generally are sheet in responding. They either don't respond or they can easily ghost any moment. They really do seem entitled. Yet those who have high IL, tend to be overly eager and higher chances of conversion. I generally move them off Tinder asap.

So the results in terms of % for Tinder it isn't very good.

I consider myself to have an alright profile, I'm relatively successful in life and have interesting pics on Tinder.

The % definitely has decreased in the last 1 to 2 years in a noticeable way even being premium member. So the conspiracy talk about them trying to make money has some grounds in my experience.

Yet at the same time, many of my lays have also come from Tinder. So I've just dealt with it. They're a monopoly for OLD.

For Instagram, it's quite similar. I have a pretty good profile. (My profile is better than most in my area, I'm quite successful in my career and have interesting weeks). If I cold approach on IG. It's usually just all ghosts and no responses. But if they add me, and check out my stories and profiles usually they will be more keen to interact. But again, they're flakey af too. Can easily disappear at any moment.

I think the conclusion that OLD is difficult is true because the girls have such short attention spans and you're highly disposable especially if they've never met you despite how good your profile is.

I am still experimenting.

-James
 

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My Response rate is actually way higher on insta , but generally with girls who i have mutual friends with

Tinder although it gives me terrible vibes i now realise is actually useful for finding insta @'s of girls in your area just add them if they are interested they will add you back if not just unfollow them after 24 hours

this works much better because if you dont pay for tinder chances are she will never see your card anyway same for all of them trash swipe apps

found a HB 8 that i liked i added her on insta she added me back ..... give her some fire text game she took a little while to warm up but she was interested because she was responding in less than 1 minute which is rare

HB 8 - I'm the most chilled person ever

Bingo - I'll have plenty of time to find out for myself when we meet

HB 8 - ooo your keen

Bingo - i go for mine

HB 8 - Guess we'll have to meet

Left her on unread after that as she would to me if the script was flipped ....... she posts a fire selfie about an hour later one of them ones where you can see her nipples poking through her top

Guys commenting them :oops: and flame emojiis

Do i engage with it or anything else she posts...... HELL NAHH

Set yourself from the crowd.
 
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