If you were a girl, would you hang out with a guy who...

[davelmn2003]

a guy who is in his early 20's but

1) doesn't have a car...(not even a license).

2) doesn't have his own apartment (living in a dorm-room like room)

I have a job, sort of. I'm a grad student.

Do you think girls think I'm a loser? Do you as a guy think I'm a loser?

 

[Grey Fox]

IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT WE OR OTHER WOMEN THINK. WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS WHAT YOU THINK. Remember that, if you worry about those two things hurting you don't bring them up till much later after a couple of dates, if she is a good gal then she'll see past that, if not NEXT her.

-Grey Fox

 

[davelmn2003]

I don't really have a problem with not having a car or a nicer apartment, but how can a girl not know if we have to walk to restaurants or take a bus?

A good girl wouldn't mind these "shortcomings" in a guy, but I'm afraid that I'll never get a chance to show her the good qualities I have...

 

[Grey Fox]

If they are dissmayed at those two facts I got one thing you can do....NEXT them. Look you have plenty of other good qualities let those shine through, you're going to be a self made man and thats cool. Think of it this way your precieved disadvantage will force you to use use your DJ skills as much as possible forcing you to be better at them game. Once things start going your way and you have a decent place and a car, and your supposed "short comings" are gone, you will have increased DJ skills and your going to be way ahead of the game and pull mad chicks.

-Grey Fox

 

[Sleeper]

I probably shouldn't say this since the guys are right that it's crazy to worry about this, but anway:
I am a girl. Since I have a licence and my own car, as long as you weren't embarrassed to be driven by a woman (believe me - lots are) that wouldn't be a problem.

As for the dorm room:
Q: Do you have a room mate?
If yes, that could be difficult.
If no, I don't have a problem with that either.

Of course, I did say girl - I'm still an undergradute student.

 

[OddTech]

I'm a graduate student just like you Dave. Occassionally, I do feel slightly inferior when telling girls what I have. I don't have a car either, and I live in a dorm. But what's amazing is that sometimes I can show the greatness in being a student... like all the free admissions to shows and campus activities, free pass to the gym, reduced student discounts, access to libraries and classes not open to the general public, being part of a large circle of friends, etc etc etc.

What's more important is how you act and what kind of a person you are. If girls are judging you by what you have or don't have, that's just a form of shallowness and you should "next" them. Peace out.

 

[mikel]

If a girl likes you dude, then it isn't going to matter what you got really. I mean, do you want a girl thats going to lust over you cause you got a pimp ass car or a nice apartment. No, put yourself in their position kinda, If you like some girl. Do you care if she has a nice car or an apartment. Nope you really dont care.

Just make the most of walking to a restraunt. It gives you more time to talk, And do appreciate yourself. Because if you dont have any respect for yourself, then how can anyone else? Let alone like you.

I dont have a liscense and I am almost 17, probably am not going to get one for a while. If I want to go somewhere I just call up a friend. I spend my money on other stuff.

 

[squirrels]

If I was a girl, I'd sit in front of a mirror and play with myself all day.

That being said, I'm not a girl, so I'm not fit to give an opinion. But I do know that if you don't feel confident with YOURSELF and your social/financial situation, women will not feel confident in you either.

So how do YOU feel about not having a car/house? If you're cool with it, great! 20 isn't considered "too old" to be stuck at home, especially if you're in college or something. And I didn't get my first car until I was like 18-19...and it was a POS (looked good, but a rattletrap).

If you feel bad about YOURSELF for not having these things, though, make a plan and go and get them.

 

[Frosty]

Dave, if you only knew how many guys I knew that lives at home with their mom with no job or car, and still had some very nice looking women chasing them around , this thread would probably not exist.

On the other hand, I still don't understand how they do it, all I know is that they operate like they are not in the
situation they are in. It's like they don't care that they are 26 or 28 year old men that are living at home with their mothers.

I do identify with you with teh car thing. I ride a trap and am always worried about what would this freak think about me riding this.

Bottom line is

What can you do? Will you give up all attempts to date because of things you don't have? Will you quit school, get a job and buy more materials in order to look more desireable in a freak's eyes? Probably not .

 

[trajhenkhet]

If you find a lady that can see past the shortcommings and sticks with you as you improve I think thats call for a keeper right there. She'll realise your trying to change and do things out of your comfort zone.

 

[Juan_Man]

If I was a girl, I wouldn't care as long as the guy treated me with respect. However, I don't think that's how most girls think.

 

[Walden]

Fer ****'s sake Dave.

Stop looking for excuses to be a loser. You're not a loser else you wouldn't be trying to do better. Make a plan for how you can improve your performance with women and then follow it through. DJ boot camp is a good start and the bible has heaps of other ideas for programs guys can use to improve their confidence with women.

You're only a loser if you stick around here whining rather than go out and take a few on the chin in order to become what you want to be rather than just dreaming of it.

Boo yah.

 

[Jay26]

It doesn't matter one bit!

...unless you let it!

Do you want some chick who is only into your car or your pad? I mean c'mon!

The only thing you need to buy is confidence, stand tall ya know, that's what'll get you the girls, not what car you drive.

I used to know a guy who drove a Lamborghini Diablo, that's write a flippin Diablo! and me and my friends still pulled ten times more chicks then him in our banged up Hyundai, why was this? Cos he was a no-fun loser when it came to women and even a hot car like that did sweet F.A. for him.

 

[Kwah]

Do you hold it against women if they dont have a car and you pick them up for dates? No? then what gives them the right to hold it against you?

If shes that hung up on it just say **** it. My buddy lived at his parents house while going to college and car pooled with his brother to class. He still got more tail than anyone as socially inept as him has right too.