Hi guys,
This is one for Dirtheart! and guys who take pride in their appearance.
I found it in the past and it totally represents how I - and I'm sure others - feel. Its paraphrased & adapted from a post by Disciple.
“The curse of being attractive:
Good-looking people quickly base their self esteem on the amount of attention and approval they receive.
Good-looking people can become a slave to the opinion of others. Contrary to what is imagined, being attractive can make you weak and insecure because YOU don't wholly control the source of YOUR self esteem. OTHER people do! That not only applies to beautiful women, but it also applies to good-looking guys.
Think about it from a woman's perspective.
If an attractive woman wants to get a quick self-esteem boost, what do they do?
Put on a sexy outfit, go out with their girlfriends to a club or someplace, and show off their stuff and get a whole lot of attention from men.
This makes them feel good for a while, until the "high" from this wears off, and then she returns to her everyday routine and all of her insecurities start kicking in again. Then she does the same thing next week.
Do you see what I'm talking about?
A good-looking guy can do the same thing.
I've walked into a room and felt and saw alot of females eyeing me and I felt like a mack. Then the next day, I run into one of those females and she won't even give me the time of day.
Then I start to wonder:
‘Hey, did I look better yesterday than I did today?’
‘Am I dressed so much better?’
‘Is my hair worse? Am I even attractive at all?’
‘Did I say something stupid?’
Do you see where I'm going with this? It makes you insecure and start second guessing yourself.
How can you be a smooth, effective Don Juan in that kind of mind-set?"
I think theres alot to learn from here; about ourselves, and about attractive women.
This is one for Dirtheart! and guys who take pride in their appearance.
I found it in the past and it totally represents how I - and I'm sure others - feel. Its paraphrased & adapted from a post by Disciple.
“The curse of being attractive:
Good-looking people quickly base their self esteem on the amount of attention and approval they receive.
Good-looking people can become a slave to the opinion of others. Contrary to what is imagined, being attractive can make you weak and insecure because YOU don't wholly control the source of YOUR self esteem. OTHER people do! That not only applies to beautiful women, but it also applies to good-looking guys.
Think about it from a woman's perspective.
If an attractive woman wants to get a quick self-esteem boost, what do they do?
Put on a sexy outfit, go out with their girlfriends to a club or someplace, and show off their stuff and get a whole lot of attention from men.
This makes them feel good for a while, until the "high" from this wears off, and then she returns to her everyday routine and all of her insecurities start kicking in again. Then she does the same thing next week.
Do you see what I'm talking about?
A good-looking guy can do the same thing.
I've walked into a room and felt and saw alot of females eyeing me and I felt like a mack. Then the next day, I run into one of those females and she won't even give me the time of day.
Then I start to wonder:
‘Hey, did I look better yesterday than I did today?’
‘Am I dressed so much better?’
‘Is my hair worse? Am I even attractive at all?’
‘Did I say something stupid?’
Do you see where I'm going with this? It makes you insecure and start second guessing yourself.
How can you be a smooth, effective Don Juan in that kind of mind-set?"
I think theres alot to learn from here; about ourselves, and about attractive women.
