If you really knew me..

[Three]

Now I know it wouldn't go over well with most people seeing you as "shunning" people like them but you'll only get messed up in the end yourself. I don't see any positives in keeping relationships or friendships with the abused. As messed up as it sounds.

This is true. It's like what they tell you about a drowning person: kick them away from you so they don't pull you down.

Like others here, I've had my own BPD experience that went just like Scars described earlier. It's devastating. And it started with attraction along with sympathy.

Sympathy and contempt are two sides of the same coin. This coin is easily flipped, too, especially in women. They will initially be attracted to your display of weakness by some sort of sympathy that will ultimately turn into utter, vicious, contempt.

Empathy is a quality that is necessary to be fully human and to be a complete man. A man has empathy for those around him. He "feels their pain" as gay as that may sound. BUT, he does not allow that empathy to dictate his actions toward that person in ways that compromise his frame.

It makes me really sad sometimes to see the starving children on television, but I don't write a check to send them the money that I should be spending on my own children.

 

[incognito42]

I really like this post, but it seems me being compassionate and thinking about other peoples feelings (old, young, male, and female) has got me steamrolled by chicks

You have much better chances at attracting chicks and not being hurt by them, if you're a dyck instead of a nice guy. The vast majority of chicks under about 35 "want" a nice guy but crave an a$$hole. They live the ultimate paradox. Rather than empathize, feel compassion, and in the long run lose her interest in favor of the a$$hole, why not just give them what they want and avoid being hurt by them?

I'm not all anti-woman like some guys here, but what are my options? Be nice and get treated like shyt, be a dyck and get lots of pvssy and not get hurt, or leave them alone altogether and take a vow of celibacy because genuine chicks who have their shyt together and know what they want under the age of about 35 are very few and far between.

I was watching Youtube last night and started seeing these videos by chicks from all over who've been bullied or had issues that they may not show on the outside which would most likely explain a lot of chicks actions these days in real life that you'd never know.

I really felt bad for these chicks. A lot of them are really pretty damn cute. You never know what someones going through in life and rather than being an opportunist try being a man and walk away if you have to and not be another person who contributes to their issues for your own personal gain IE: "needs".

I've never been the type to take advantage of a person who gives off signs of being weak or damaged which is why I never bothered meeting chicks off POF. I already knew they have serious issues and watching the videos I saw made me think of many of them and I actually felt sorry for these chicks.

There are a ton of videos (mostly made by teen chicks from all over) on youtube titled: "If you really knew me".

Check them out. Then check yourself and self reflect on if you are an opportunist or a real man in the way you treat others.

*Edit: I'll add a few links if you dudes are too lazy to search youtube when I get a chance.

 

[bigneil]

When I was a kid my dad whipped me with a belt. I got over it.

How many of these whining women went anywhere in life? Sour grapes.

Remember: a "poor me" attitude is just inverted vanity.

Meanwhile, as incognito42 points out (and what my girl said 2 weeks ago) "Girls like *******s, guys who don't hang all over them... because women want to work for it."