If you know LTR is not possible, do you still do this?

[davelmn2003]

I'll try to make it short:

went out with college female friend while in town. great conversation at dinner, no kino, but I managed to keep good eye contact. she said we should get together again before I leave town (in about 3 weeks), and suggested dinner at her place.

that was monday. I haven't contacted her in any way since. I want this girl, but I realize it's long distance thing and it's not really feasible (but if she's for it I don't really midn the long distance thing, as I come back here every 3 months or so..)

Now, should I

a) phone her and tell her that I'm going to a garden and take pictures of flowers and ask her to come join me?

b) ask her out for another dinner "gathering" (not really a date, though I don't know if she thought it was a date the first time)?

c) don't contact her and wait to see if she really invites me over for dinner?

And, DJs, would a female friend invite you over for dinner one on one? If she could suggest that, does it mean that she's interested in perhaps physical contact or a relationship?

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

I would so go with (a). This seems like it could at least me a nice reoccuring thing, someone to keep you company when you get into town, and collee don't last forever...

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[davelmn2003]

more opinions on this? Much appreciated!

 

[TesuqueRed]

"If you know LTR is not possible, do you still do this?"---

"do" is unclear.

Go for LTR?
Bang her?
Get together for light dates while she's in town?

Ok, you know LTR is not really an option. You've got a great deal of valuable information in hand already:
---You know what's possible;
---You can adjust what you want to what you know is possible and act accordingly.

Depends on what you want.

LTR? No.

ONS? Since she's from out of town and leaving shortly, she may be up for this. It won't get talked about with those in her social circle, she can indulge in "bad" behavior without the social repurcussions (that is, she can get away with it...)

Fun date, light flirting, doesn't cost anything and won't lead anywhere? Sure, go for it.

Her inviting you over for dinner is quite suggestive. But no one here can give you a definitive "she's looking for it to get physical" answer. Some can because they can always convert. Others convert sometimes, sometimes not. Still others never convert or rarely do. They can't answer this definitively because it's you and her. It's not them and whoever. You won't get an easy answer to the unstated question "should I go for it?" She'll let you know if it's Ok but you have to take the lead, she won't do your job for you.

But don't get hung up about that. This is a great oppty to be classy and have a good time by keeping things light and fun. This may turn her on more than she anticipated--confidence and ease will do that.

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Oh, I forgot---

A. Yes.
B. Yes.
C. No. Unless you really want all contact to end at this point. Otherwise this is an AFC move where YOU hope she proves her interest in you and makes the first move. Pure AFC. She's given you an opening, the ball is in your court. Her IL would really be high if she calls you back, but you'd still be an AFC (I used to play this game...this is worse than "sum zero" equation, it is "sum AFC.")

Call her. A. is a good suggestion. B. isn't bad.