Gotta say Stugots, that's some really good stuff.Stugots26 said:By way of example, here's a text exchange I had with a putative plate (23), I'm 34. Eventually it led to a date a few weeks later. She continues to make BS excuses about her ADD and how I can't hold her to a single text that I send if I'm not willing to send a second text or pursue any further. Whatever, she just won't get the gift of my presence, and she'll watch me go out with other women, which is what eventually got me the date in the first place. Zero fvcks given, I'm just showing you how I let this play out.
I had asked her when she's free to get together. She told me Thursday or Friday would be best. I set a date and time and location for Thursday. No response. Thursday comes, I text on my way:
Me: On my way but may be a couple minutes late
Her: wait
Her: what
Her: wait wait wait
Her: I completely forgot
Her: oh my god
Her: and my phone just died
Her: ughhh
Her: I am so so so so so so so so so so incredibly sorry. this week has been really awful
Me: Pffft
Her: : (
Her: you didn't remind me
Me: lol
Her: what are you doing next week when are you free
Her: I owe you drinks
Her: Monday night?
The following three texts are like hamster steroids when they come after any bull$hit a girl tries to run:
"Pffft," "lol," and "..."
Hamsters run best in silence a lot of the time, but these are subtle texts that don't necessarily call her out yet do put her on notice that you're both maintaining your frame and just may not be buying everything she's trying to sell. Either way, she'll be trying to figure out where you're at.
Notice that first I "Pffft" which is the equivalent of scoffing at her. Then she tries to blame shift and I just flat out laugh at her attempt, as if she's digging a bigger hole for herself. I think elipses ("...") are best when your in-person response would just be to blankly stare at her and wonder how she's made it this far in life.
I said... WHOSE...FRAME...IS...THIS?!