If you get her turned on enough, will she sleep with you no matter what?

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I was wondering about this. Guys here keep saying that all you have to do is turn a girl on enough and she'll be so horny that she'll go all the way with you. Almost like she has a point of no return.

The reason I was thinking about this is because I've been dating a girl for several months and she only started sleeping with me after about 2 months. The guy she dated before me (who kind of lied to her) she slept with after about 3 weeks. I took things at my own pace and never really tried to sleep with her before I did and I was never rejected when I finally did try, but I was wondering how much sooner I could've closed the deal if I tried harder earlier.

We date long distance and weren't able to see each other as much as she saw the other guy in the same amount of time, so I know that playeed a part, but at the same time..I think she really regretted sleeping with him that soon since things didnt work out after about 2 months.

Some guys here posted and said that how quickly she slept with me was a reflection of how good I was as a dj. So it find of made me feel like the lesser man since it took longer for me to get to that point with her. I knew she had been burned before and I really liked her so i thought it would be best not to try and hit it so fast out of the gate.

We have great sex now and the relationship is good, but it still bugs me in the back of my mind that the other guy was able to hit it earlier than me. Does this mean that he made her hornier than I did? In the beginning I would just stick to intense makeout sessions with her and try not to let my hands wander anywhere private so she would know that I wasn't just trying to hit it. In the beginning after dates, she often asked me if I had brought condoms with me as if to check if I was to sleep with her right away. I knew she was on the defensive.

Anyway, I just wanted to know what your thoughts were. She normally made guys wait in the past, but then she got out a serious relationship about 3 years ago where she was hurt and stayed single for about 2 years and then went on a ton of dates with guys who annoyed her and never got a second date. SHe hadn't been having sex in those 2 years. Then she met the guy who came before me and like I said, clicked with him and decided that it was ok to sleep with him after only about 3 weeks or 4 dates or so.

I'm just wondering if this makes him some stud or if it's any reflection on how much I turned her on in the beginning. It's dumb, but it still makes me curious. Don't blast my insecurity here, I know it is...just let me know what you think.

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[frivolousz21]

no, not at all.


if you are LTR material....it was better to go at the pace you guys set forth for it

and it doenst mean ****...ive had sex with women on the first night, 4th date, 3 weeks.....

and now im dating a virgin who has my interest more than anyone in years.


STOP FYCKING ANYLIZING! AND KEEP HITTIN IT!

 

[squirrels]

IN theory, yes. But lots of girls have built up mental defenses and protocols and overrides to snap themselves out of that horny state before they get that far.

It's possible the other guy got with her sooner because she hadn't built up her defenses yet because she hadn't learned how men can use a woman for one night and be satisfied. Or maybe she was using HIM for a one-nighter and never saw him again, whereas you she wants to keep around and can AFFORD to wait.

Or maybe it's just psycho chick-logic. Either way, you're hitting it, so just relax and have fun.

 

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I guess that makes sense. It wasn't a one night stand. She met him when he approached her in a bar. no kiss, but they exchanged numbers after chatting a bit going for food after the club with a group of some of her friends and some of his friends. Then went out the next weekend. Saw each other a couple times a week and then slept together around about 3 weeks into it. They kept seing each other for about 2 months, but she broke it off with him becuase he wanted to keep dating her, but at the same time said that things getting more serious would be a problem(mostly due to his family) since she was non-jewish. He tried to go back on it, but she dumped him. She was ashamed of it and regrets it. We met about 2 weeks later for the first time.

We made out like crazy the first night, but then it was an entire month before we were able to see each other again. Then it was another month after that before we could see each other a second time. Then we saw each other about once every 2 weeks after that. Anyway, it took about 3 months total to sleep with her. Didn't try for it earlier, just made the move when I thought she was ready and everything went smoothly.

I just hate thinking that this guy made her hornier or she was so attracted that she decided not to wait with him. I know that she hadn't had sex in two years before that and that she dated alot of bozos, but still...it bugs me.

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