If you don't need women, why are you spinning plates?

[HalfAddict]

Oh man all the ignoramuses are pouring out of the woodworks for this one. I am simply stating what he said back to him, literally the title of the thread is "If you don't need women why are you spinning plates?"

I was being facetious, good lord, are you skinnyboy's life partner or something?

Yes you can be 100% happy without a woman, women are not there for your happiness, they may be able to contribute to your happiness, but so can a ****iing cupcake or as you so eloquently suggested real dolls and porn.

Like I said women in life is not a requirement, yeah they are nice, but I don't need em to be happy. Just like Shaq doesn't need a ****ing Rolls Royce to be happy but still got one anyways, *******.

Read that again, Shaq doesn't NEED A ROLLS ROYCE TO BE HAPPY BUT HE GOT ONE ANYWAYS, he also decided to get Lamborghini Gallardo, an Esclade and a ****ing Smart Car (I'd love to see him driving that thing btw)

This is where you say, if Shaq didn't need all those cars to be happy then tell me why he bought them?

Then go look in the mirror and smack yourself.


Just a reminder, since you seem to not understand the reason for spinning plates. Spinnning plates is a technique that is often suggested to prevent a serious disease knows as oneitis, not make him happy.

To elaborate on the "void", if one is feeling that he NEEDS women to make him happy, he is most definitely trying to fill a void. That void could be there because he lacks drive, direction, PURPOSE. He is putting his relationship before his purpose and therefore will be perpetually unhappy, and eventually she will leave because of his lack of purpose, taking his "happiness" with her. Where does that leave him? **** if I know. But I'll tell you this, if you are deriving your happiness from women you are going to get burned, then you'll be back on SoSuave crying and being bitter because after all this time, all this posting, you still don't get it and you refuse to get it. You'd rather play the victim like a woman wallowing in your pathetic self-pity then ever try to change your attitude and actions.

 

[skinnyguy]

Oh man all the ignoramuses are pouring out of the woodworks for this one. I am simply stating what he said back to him, literally the title of the thread is "If you don't need women why are you spinning plates?"

I was being facetious, good lord, are you skinnyboy's life partner or something?

Yes you can be 100% happy without a woman, women are not there for your happiness, they may be able to contribute to your happiness, but so can a ****iing cupcake or as you so eloquently suggested real dolls and porn.

Like I said women in life is not a requirement, yeah they are nice, but I don't need em to be happy. Just like Shaq doesn't need a ****ing Rolls Royce to be happy but still got one anyways, *******.

Read that again, Shaq doesn't NEED A ROLLS ROYCE TO BE HAPPY BUT HE GOT ONE ANYWAYS, he also decided to get Lamborghini Gallardo, an Esclade and a ****ing Smart Car (I'd love to see him driving that thing btw)

This is where you say, if Shaq didn't need all those cars to be happy then tell me why he bought them?

Then go look in the mirror and smack yourself.


Just a reminder, since you seem to not understand the reason for spinning plates. Spinnning plates is a technique that is often suggested to prevent a serious disease knows as oneitis, not make him happy.

To elaborate on the "void", if one is feeling that he NEEDS women to make him happy, he is most definitely trying to fill a void. That void could be there because he lacks drive, direction, PURPOSE. He is putting his relationship before his purpose and therefore will be perpetually unhappy, and eventually she will leave because of his lack of purpose, taking his "happiness" with her. Where does that leave him? **** if I know. But I'll tell you this, if you are deriving your happiness from women you are going to get burned, then you'll be back on SoSuave crying and being bitter because after all this time, all this posting, you still don't get it and you refuse to get it. You'd rather play the victim like a woman wallowing in your pathetic self-pity then ever try to change your attitude and actions.

Easy there! You're getting too serious about this.

All I was trying to do was to point out the contradiction by guys who say that women are unnecessary yet they are out trying to spin plates. If women are unnecessary, then why aren't you just out on Friday night with your bros? If you DESIRE women, instead of NEEDING them, then that still makes you somewhat dependent on women right? Because you are getting happiness from going out with women/having sex with them?

It just seems like the "DJ's" of this forum need to put their money where there mouth is. If you really don't care about women AT ALL like you say that you do, stop posting about them and stop going after them. Be women-free for a year and tell me if it works for you. That means no dates, no approaches, no sex.

 

[MikeOck]

That's because you're weak minded and you have convinced yourself that becoming attached to a "women" will bring you happiness and solve all of lifes problems (in reality she will most likely make things worse for YOU). Like I've said before - your only problem is YOU. You need to become happy in yourself before reaching out to the world to bring you happiness. Internal first > external after. It doesn't work the other way around. If anyone would like to prove me wrong then pleeeease do so...

adam225 gets it. +1 for you.

Kill that desperation!

 

[HalfAddict]

No, desire and need are two different things. I desire lots of things that have absolutely no bearing on the level of my happiness.

For example I really really WANT to skydive, however I have never done it nor had the opportunity. Because I want to skydive, does that mean on some level I need to skydive? I haven't skydived in all of my thirty years, but I need it to be happy? In essence that is what you are saying to me (I was REALLY smelly).

Just because I want to spend time with women, does not mean I need women to find happiness.

At the beginning of this summer I put clothes in a backpack and hopped a bus to Largo Florida, I worked and tooled there for about a month then I got into a car full of hippies and traveled the gulf coast with nothing but the clothes on my back, I didn't even have shoes. I can assure you during my trip I was not approaching and I was not getting laid, if I was approaching it was to ask for spare change to get food with. I smelled, I had a full nasty beard, and torn ratty clothing and I ate cloves of garlic daily to stop bugs from eating me alive.

I slept on a pile of cardboard boxes in New Orleans, I slept on the ground in mosquito filled national parks, I squatted in an abandoned preschool in Orlando Florida that reeked of urine in an area where crackheads walk right up, ask to borrow a lighter and smoke crack with it right there in front of you. I almost got killed in Nashville when the crackhead that was giving me and my fellow traveler a ride decided he needed to stop by the trap house to score a rock in the projects.

But I was happy as a clam, and although I'd never do it again, I'd never trade it for anything. Now I just snagged a job in IT here in Oklahoma City, working on buying a car and getting my own housing situated. I'm currently not approaching, and I'm currently not getting laid. According to your logic, I am unhappy, however I can assure you I am quite content, even though I have not seen a stitch of ***** in like 4 months.

Do I think I could go another 8 months? You bet your ass I could and I'd still be happy too. Because even though I can find some happiness in the company of women I do not require their presence to be happy.

I am not getting "too serious" you are being too light in questioning an essential part of inner game because even if you do not take anything on SS seriously, some do and your poor advice could be the difference between digging themselves out of their slumps or them moving down the wrong path. I remember when I first arrived at SS thinking I needed to have her (you know "the one") to find happiness all those years ago, and I'm sure a simple search will reveal some of the most AFC pathetic garbage out there. Imagine if some ******* had told me I needed women to be happy and I bought it, I'd have made no progress whatsoever, still contemplating suicide and living in my self-created despair.

I would have blamed you, the community, women, anyone but myself and I'd have been hella bitter about it all. That's no way to be my friend.

 

[DonGorgon]

only gay men or asexual men dont need / want women

 

[PlayHer Man]

Easy there! You're getting too serious about this.

All I was trying to do was to point out the contradiction by guys who say that women are unnecessary yet they are out trying to spin plates. If women are unnecessary, then why aren't you just out on Friday night with your bros? If you DESIRE women, instead of NEEDING them, then that still makes you somewhat dependent on women right? Because you are getting happiness from going out with women/having sex with them?

It just seems like the "DJ's" of this forum need to put their money where there mouth is. If you really don't care about women AT ALL like you say that you do, stop posting about them and stop going after them. Be women-free for a year and tell me if it works for you. That means no dates, no approaches, no sex.

Last I checked.. YOU are the one with the woman problems.

So maybe you should worry more about fixing YOUR issues and less about what the DJ's on SoSuave are doing in their lives.

If I'm happy with my sex life and you're not.. then I probably know what I'm talking about more than you do.

 

[foreverAFC]

am i the only one who still fantasizes about ****ing the cast of saved by the bell ?

 

[user name]

am i the only one who still fantasizes about ****ing the cast of saved by the bell ?

not at all. so who u fantasize about?

mark, dustin or mario?

 

[skinnyguy]

Last I checked.. YOU are the one with the woman problems.

So maybe you should worry more about fixing YOUR issues and less about what the DJ's on SoSuave are doing in their lives.

If I'm happy with my sex life and you're not.. then I probably know what I'm talking about more than you do.

If you're happy with fapping 3 times a day to BBW porn then I'm happy for you


Actually my issues are much milder than yours and many others here. Your issue is that you've been so damaged that you can't settle down with one woman. You have major trust issues with women. I guess that's why you're so angry with people.

It seems that the "spinning plates" argument is for guys who have mental issues over women and are incredibly immature. If you think you're a "player" because you're spinning plates, that means you REALLLY REALLY need women in your life in order to be happy.

 

[sylvester the cat]

I wish some guys on here would just man up and admit they need the attention of women to be satisfied. The whole tough guy act just doesn't work and people see right through it.

Just because I need a woman in my life doesn't make me "gay". In fact, if I didn't need any women at all, wouldn't THAT make me gay? :crazy:

If I don't go on a date for a month, that gets me down. It's only natural for me to feel that way because men by nature crave the attention of women. I'm no biologist, but I believe that this is an evolutionary trait. If you come on here to talk about your emotions, it shouldn't be met with ridicule by so-called DJ's who think that they can get by without women (when they are actually thinking about women every single minute of the day).

They need the attention of women to be satisfied to do what?

I don't NEED the attention of a woman to be satisfied in what I do for a living every day.

I don't NEED the attention of a woman to be satisfied when I'm hungry.

I don't NEED the attention of a woman to be satisfied when I'm thirsty.

I don't NEED the attention of a woman to be satisfied when I'm eager to watch a new film.

I don't NEED the the attention of a woman to be satisfied in the gym.

Do I NEED a woman to be satisfied sexually? not unless I use my hand or turn gay. but so fVcking what? what's your point?

Do I NEED a woman to be happy? NO!

Your whole 'argument' is flawed.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I wish some guys on here would just man up and admit they need the attention of women to be satisfied. The whole tough guy act just doesn't work and people see right through it.

Just because I need a woman in my life doesn't make me "gay". In fact, if I didn't need any women at all, wouldn't THAT make me gay? :crazy:

If I don't go on a date for a month, that gets me down. It's only natural for me to feel that way because men by nature crave the attention of women. I'm no biologist, but I believe that this is an evolutionary trait. If you come on here to talk about your emotions, it shouldn't be met with ridicule by so-called DJ's who think that they can get by without women (when they are actually thinking about women every single minute of the day).

Talking about your emotions is like talking about the weather...a waste of time. Emotions are irrational; you can't control them just like you can't control the elements. What you can control are your actions. And since you are a man and not a chick, your actions should not be merely a response to your emotions.

You can talk about hurt feelings until the cows come home; it isn't going to change anything. The focus of this forum is discussion of positive, proactive changes that a man can actually make in order to improve his life. If you want to dump your emotional vomit somewhere, you may want to open an account on Loveshack.

 

[Skyline]

I wish some guys on here would just man up and admit they need the attention of women to be satisfied. The whole tough guy act just doesn't work and people see right through it.

For some posters I agree.

Just because I need a woman in my life doesn't make me "gay". In fact, if I didn't need any women at all, wouldn't THAT make me gay? :crazy:

No you have it all wrong. Women are a want not a need. If you NEED a women to be happy then you're insecure and co dependent. Often referred to as a faggot.

If I don't go on a date for a month, that gets me down. It's only natural for me to feel that way because men by nature crave the attention of women.

You're clearly co dependent from that first line.

I agree and disagree with that statement in red. It's more about how you were raised(nurture), if you were raised half halfheartedly then you will rely on the attention of women for your source of happiness and reason.

Nature is more like men wanting to have sex with a women.

I'm no biologist, but I believe that this is an evolutionary trait. If you come on here to talk about your emotions, it shouldn't be met with ridicule by so-called DJ's who think that they can get by without women (when they are actually thinking about women every single minute of the day).

Like I said, you aren't born co dependent just like you aren't born with an ego. It's all nurture not nature. As for spilling your guts out in a place where advice is supposed to be given, I don't see the harm in that. Obviously it depends on what the type of emotion you're displaying but since almost all of the advice is constructive, it's not really ridicule.

It may not seem like it but the thing is most of the DJ's here CAN get by without women, they're a want not a need. They just have a lot of insight on the topic since women are technically a "luxury."

 

[Big Nuts]

I wish some guys on here would just man up and admit they need the attention of women to be satisfied. The whole tough guy act just doesn't work and people see right through it.

Just because I need a woman in my life doesn't make me "gay". In fact, if I didn't need any women at all, wouldn't THAT make me gay? :crazy:

If I don't go on a date for a month, that gets me down. It's only natural for me to feel that way because men by nature crave the attention of women. I'm no biologist, but I believe that this is an evolutionary trait. If you come on here to talk about your emotions, it shouldn't be met with ridicule by so-called DJ's who think that they can get by without women (when they are actually thinking about women every single minute of the day).

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Embarrassing post....I need ZERO attention from women, I don't want to hear them, and after a 10 hour fvck session, I don't want them to be around me either...rather hang with the boys and talk sports and biz.

It's not about attention kid...it's about fvcking!!!!!

 

[zekko]

Everyone gets their back up when this subject comes up, but I think it's at least partly just a matter of semantics.

I think people say they "need" women in the sense that there is a very strong biological drive for sexuality. Do you "need" women to breathe, or live? No, of course not. Do you "need" women to be happy? Perhaps not, but how many 40 year old virgins do you know that are completely happy with the way their life has gone? Or are they bitter and angry?

Wouldn't the average male who has been unable to have ANY sort of significant or sexual contact with females feel alienated and left out? It's one of the rituals and milestones of growing up in our culture.

Here are a few definitions of "need" that I pulled off the internet, I think a few might fit:

to be in want of (to need money)

the fact or an instance of feeling the lack of something (he has need of a new coat)

a strong feeling that you must have or do something

a lack of something requisite, desirable, or useful

a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an organism

to be in want

Sources:

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/need

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/need

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

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Embarrassing post....I need ZERO attention from women, I don't want to hear them, and after a 10 hour fvck session, I don't want them to be around me either...rather hang with the boys and talk sports and biz.

It's not about attention kid...it's about fvcking!!!!!

Skinnyguy is on this site because he's seeking attention from men.

 

[TheStig]

Skinnyguy is on this site because he's seeking attention from men.

:crackup:

 

[corrector]

For some posters I agree.



No you have it all wrong. Women are a want not a need. If you NEED a women to be happy then you're insecure and co dependent. Often referred to as a faggot.

Then the point is you do not need to spin plates otherwise you are a faggot if you do. If you want to do that, then fair enough.