people don't know the difference between conditional and unconditional love.
So basically... we must understand that women are human. Yea the odds may be stacked against us, and yea they may be at fault, but they're still human. Just liek us. Humans pretty much just react to what they're given. No matter if you think they're so good, etc. We are just an entanglement of circumstances and once that happens there's no turning back.
People say, oh this guy is good, this guy is bad. Only because of their history are they the way they are. Everyone has the potential to be good or bad. We are all humans after all, and as I said before our biologies are quite primitive.
So unless you're a highly enlightened being, or beyond the human form if you hate another, it's hating yourself. If you hate yourself, you'll also hate that in another.
So as regards women.... well.. especially since they're so emotional.. you gotta tickle her. Apply mental/psychological kino. Most women even if they're wrong don't want to **** given to them because of it. That doesn't mean you can't step up for yourself, but that means do it in a Non-offensive way. At least if you want to ensure a chance to get laid or whatever.
So make her feel good. Also, if you want someone to do something for you, you don't want them to think you're an enemy. Then they won't do anything for you. You want them to WANT to help you.
Most people here use the successes of other women to make them feel better. And they make themselves out to be enlightened beings, who are so ****ing compassionate. Well if they weren't so successful with other women they'd be just as bitter because a man can only take so much.
So my advice for those who feel bitter is to just work on yourself. Make some goals, apply it. Have a spiritual practice, w/e.
The fact is, one way or another your mind BIOLOGICALLY depends on the opposite sex for a feeling of confidence. Everyone does, even Don Juans. It's the source of their confidence and self esteem. It's biological. So if you DON'T have an EXTERNAL source of confidence your "inner feminine" might help you feel better. You'll have to impress it. Trust me,even don juans probably began with impressing their inner feminine before making successes with real women. It's yin and yang. Everyone seeks balance.
The thing is.. for a guy it's harder. GUys can be insecure and think they are gay if they do this or that.. and in fact these feelings may very well be. But because they're not in touch with their Yin (as opposed to yang). Or haven't cultivated their yang. So yea.. and it's understandable. Women on the other hand don't care lol. They hang out in packs, but then again guys are ALWAYS coming up to them... so who knows. Maybe they're just more in touch with their inner yang.'
A chinese man once said: Men are yang on the outside, yin on the inside. Women are yin on the outside, internally are yang.
And it's true. It can be quite hard work. Monks who choose the path of celibacy HAVE to embody both yin and yang, masculine and feminine within themselves to be healthy, and circulate yin and yang in their bodies consciously. Otherwise they would become unhealthy. the only other choice is to have a relationship and make that their practice.
Ultimately I don't think Anyone can truly be celibate without having FIRST attained a high level of 'enlightenment', or cultivation. otherwise their body's would not be able to handle it. For everyone else, we seek yin and yang in whatever way we can since we haven't already established that balance first in us.
Chinese monks practice tai chi, and other sources of practices to deal with celibacy, and not just celibacy but being a hermit because the rest of society is disagreeable to their philosophy.
