if you are not her type, she is not your type

[BackInTheGame78]

have you guys had this realization?
if a girl rejects you, obviously you are not her type.
but did you know, she is also not your type?
in other words, if she is your type, she is going to give you a chance.
to put it another way, if you reject a girl, not only is she not your type, but also you are not her type.
does that sound right?

That is not logical at all. Doesn't even make sense.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Yep, initial attraction and compatibility shouldn’t be subconsciously joined beforehand in a man’s mind…

Possibly the basis for pedestalization?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

have you guys had this realization?
if a girl rejects you, obviously you are not her type.
but did you know, she is also not your type?
in other words, if she is your type, she is going to give you a chance.
to put it another way, if you reject a girl, not only is she not your type, but also you are not her type.
does that sound right?

Agree

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Doesn't really make sense. She was his type until the rejection occurred. Otherwise, why did he approach?

If what was your "type" always did you dirty or turned out to be a bad experience, eventually it would no longer be your "type". Your "type" would be the one you are attracted to with favorable outcomes.

 

[Plinco]

have you guys had this realization?
if a girl rejects you, obviously you are not her type.
but did you know, she is also not your type?
in other words, if she is your type, she is going to give you a chance.
to put it another way, if you reject a girl, not only is she not your type, but also you are not her type.
does that sound right?

Or maybe you are also not your type as well.

She lacks attraction to you either because of something that you either cannot change or you are not willing to change, or because you are not good enough by what should be your own standards.

 

[DonJuanjr]

or because you are not good enough by what should be your own standards.

This is what I struggle with. I'm not where I should be in life, so I think this affects my vibe/game.

 

[Striker_93]

No, it does not sound right because it's not right. Sounds like a Cop out for a bruised ego after getting rejected, but whatever helps you guys sleep at night.

 

[Plinco]

This is what I struggle with. I'm not where I should be in life, so I think this affects my vibe/game.

That's most of the people on here whether they like to admit it or not. There are trolls on here as well as outright liars. The women on here are here for their own egotistical reasons. Most of the guys on here do not try hard enough; I'm in that category but I also have a lot going on.

From what I can tell from regular posters:
@Jack22 and @Zimbabwe are two younger dudes that are trying to do the right things. @Pan87 actually knows what he is talking about. @Hamurabimbi @RangerMIke @Black Widow Void (even though he tried to get me banned), @EyeOnThePrize @Barrister (and there are some others) that have some good experience. I would say at least half of the people here are not worth listening to.

 

[Striker_93]

If what was your "type" always did you dirty or turned out to be a bad experience, eventually it would no longer be your "type". Your "type" would be the one you are attracted to with favorable outcomes.

Just stop, sounds ridiculous

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Sounds like cope

 

[Bethatsocialguy]

I can see how the mindset would work and on the surface, it does work and should be something beginners and intermediates hold onto. However, you have to understand women also are emotional and if you are her but she isnt in the mood, she will reject you. Timing is also key which is why consistency is important.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Just stop, sounds ridiculous

If "your type" ain't **** eventually you'll see sh1t. It'll end up being a different model that you like.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Sounds like cope

Some of them bishes end up looking ugly when you know what it is, it's not a cope. Dudes can fvck something else.

Let me ask you, what if his "type" you always thought was unattractive? You'd tell him he wasn't seeing straight.

 

[jimwho]

I'm not sure there is a type. A woman see's a man, "in her mind" she believes he's awesome and wants him in her bed.
She morphs into what she believes he will like, and hangs onto that for as long as she still has him on the top shelf. The mans type is what he believes she is. Charming-funny-sexy-makes sandwiches. As time passes "type" can go in any direction. I'm not jaded, I love women when their my type.

 

[espanish]

How are you defining "type"?

She/he is not your type, she/he is out of your league, such terms have always confused me.

Anyway, if you mean if she doesn't think you're right for her, so therefore she in turn is not right for you, then I 100% agree with that.

For it to be right and for there to be a connection, you both have to be 'feeling it.'

Connection = Two people joining together, on the same page, both feeling they are right for each other.

that's a legitimate question and i think it's part of the confusion here because i didn't define type. some people think by type i am talking about looks. it's not about looks. type means you like her overall including appearance and personality.
i will give you an example. let's say there is a girl who likes guys with tattoos. i dont have tattoos so she rejects me. that worked out perfectly because i dont like girls who like guys who have tattoos. they are not my type.

 

[Striker_93]

If "your type" ain't **** eventually you'll see sh1t. It'll end up being a different model that you like.

No, stop being foolish

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No, stop being foolish

Others already addressed it earlier in the discussion. No female whose excessively controlling, selfish and a few other qualities is attractive to me no matter how she looks. That **** is unattractive. I normally like fit babes, some heavier babes can be pretty too. She has to be feminine. Also not wasting time forcing anything with a babe whose not feeling me.

 

[Velasco]

No female whose excessively controlling, selfish and a few other qualities is attractive to me no matter how she looks.

Meet

She morphs into what she believes he will like, and hangs onto that for as long as she still has him on the top shelf.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Meet

So the morpher is fine for a short period. After some time she will unravel into who she is. That is my experience.

 

[Velasco]

the morpher is fine for a short period. After some time she will unravel into who she is. That is my experience

That is true. If you get serious serious with her. If you however keep in her a relationship that I describe here that "short" period can be extended to years even.

Why? Maintaining the relationship under this dynamic makes it a whole hell of a lot easier to remain on her "top shelf" like Jim is talking about.