If what girls tell each other is valid

[mahon83050]

I recently went out on a date with a girl whom I got hooked up with by my friends sister. We met for drinks at a Ruby Tuesday's. We both drank a little and I ended the date after two hours @9PM. I did so because her IL did not seem real high and she did not want to order another beer (she was not hungry either). I called her a few days later and she never called back. However she e-mailed me the next morning to apologize for not calling me back. It seemed as if her IL was around 50/50 or lower. Now this....

My friend's sister talked to her @ work about it on Monday. She said she was having a good time and the date was going well, but she was wierded out by me cutting it off so quick and early. I also sat in my car for a little while afterwards because I was did not feel right to drive. Unfortunately, she witnessed that to and found it a little wierd. My question is, do girls tell the truth to one another when talking about dates. Her IL seems higher than I thought, eventhough I may have lost some with the so called "wierdness". Do you think I still have a shot?

 

[Big Pappy]

There are three sides to this date; yours, hers and the real story.



I think a better question is why you're still interested in her.

So, was she not doing her part due to low interest level or shyness? We can't answer that based on your post. I think when you called her, that gave her some reassurance that it wasn't her that made you call the evening off kind of quick.

Yes, two hours might seem a bit quick for most dates, but she wasn't doing her part. That is, from what I read in your post, she's not eating, not drinking, all that leaves is leaving to go somewhere else, or talking.

You and she were probably a little nervous, but you were both probably bored. When you're in a situation like that, you should try to muster up the confidence (or ingenuity) to take charge. After she declines on drinks and food, try bowling, or putt-putt, heck, anything that will get the blood flowing!

But, maybe you should have taken her on an activity date in the first place. Then, she could have worked up an appetite and some thirst. Based on her performance during an activity that you enjoy doing with or without her, you can determine if she's worthy of a free meal.

Yes, I'm a cheap trifler from time to time, and every situation IS different because every girl IS different. All I can tell you is that you should try to take her out again, tell her that you didn't feel well, which would explain all the "weirdness" that she perceived.

Thsi time, take her somewhere FUN! Then, you won't have to jet after a couple of hours.

Just my take. Others may see things differently.

Oh, and just my own 2 cents: NEVER, EVER ask another girl how your date went. Because, they do talk. Your friends sister may be in your corner on this trip, but maybe not always. Fake it until you make it. As you think, so shall you become.

 

[Smile]

You still have a shot yes, girls do generally use their friends to find out about or get a guy - at least, thats what i've found.

 

[mahon83050]

Thanks for your input. She probably was nervouse and this goes to show you that you can never really test IL by going on the first date. Her IL seemed low to me, but it could of seemed that way because she thought I did not like her...etc. BTW, the brother (whom is my friend) got this info from his sister who knows the girl. I did not ask the girl directly at all.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Originally posted by mahon83050
I ...Do you think I still have a shot?

Do you want another shot?

I mean--really. I don't have a sense if you had fun, or if you like this one. What's your IL?