thefonz
Master Don Juan
just say, "I love me too".....problem aborted
Why on earth do you think that you will lose her if you answer her question? That's rather silly. Telling someone you love them after they have told you the same thing is not going to make them run for the hills. As long as you aren't being needy and clingy after saying it you'll be fine.Originally posted by dearsappho
Granted Wyldfire, but making those gestures you speak of has lead her to ask me if I love her or not.
Thats why she feels the realtionship is one sided - simply because she knows Im avoiding the issue, not because I am being cold and aloof. On the contrary.
If I yield I will loose her and if I hold out it seems I will also loose her.
Perhaps I am unwilling to take a risk on her but Ive learnt that once a woman knows she has you in that respect, she will more than likely depart to seek approval/supplication from other men.
If he does love her, then it's fine to say so. If he doesn't, then he shouldn't lie. If it's a case of him not loving her then he should say something like I advised him to say in my first post. She already feels like things are one sided, which suggests to me that she might not to waste her time with a guy that doesn't love her. If that's the case then he should be honest with her and not waste her time...especially if he knows he'll never love her.Originally posted by dj_spain
You guys are stupid and immature.
She asks "do you love me?" and you answer with a C&F line.
If she asks you "do you love me?" SINCERELY, there is nothing wrong with saying "YES", if it is true. True DJs know that.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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So anyone tried following the advice of this Oprah wannabe? I'm like reading this anti-player crap, incredulous. Then I look to the left column, and ah, look who it is.Originally posted by Wyldfire
If she thinks the relationship is one sided with her being the main contributor to it she will likely end it before too much longer. You don't ever want the other person to feel like things are one-sided. Right now, you are in a position where your girlfriend is ripe to be stolen by a good looking guy who is charming and confident. You're going to have to at least make some gestures that will make her feel like you're emotionally vested in the relationship, too.
true.Originally posted by StringShredder
So anyone tried following the advice of this Oprah wannabe? I'm like reading this anti-player crap, incredulous. Then I look to the left column, and ah, look who it is.
If a guy will steal that girlfriend, it will be because he's good-looking, charming, confident, and doesn't tell her that he loves her either!
One-sidedness never deterred anybody. Think of the people who pine away in unrequited love, sometimes for years and years, okay? It does not get any more one-sided than that. Also think of the people who stay in relationships in spite of verbal and even physical abuse.
In most relationships there is some kind of inequality.
And you have to remember that here the guy isn't pushing her away; just not giving in completely. Push-pull! It creates and maintains attraction, that is well-known.
You are trying to speak here on behalf of women. You can do that, but unfortunately the information is useless, because it's women's actions that are important, not what they say. The girl in question here may herself have the same conscious attitude as you, in fact. If you asked her ``would you stay in a one-sided relationship in which you have vested more of your emotional interest?'' She would probably say ``No, of course not''. But then she will do exactly that! See? Say. Do. Different things!
I'm a man and I can't say that I know anything special about men so that I could advise women about them. I know just me, which is a very small sample. Moreover, I would run into the same problem of expressing some belief about myself which is then contradicted by how I behave. The actions that someone takes are not a direct function of his or her conscious attitudes, especially when it comes to the emotional sphere.
Also remember that most of us here want to chase hot-headed young women. I couldn't care less about the 35 year old who finally wants a ``nice guy'' to settle with, in both word and in action. Maybe such a woman will drop the bad boy who avoids commitment and never gives a straight answer. Who cares?
Why the heck not?Originally posted by Wyldfire
If he does love her, then it's fine to say so. If he doesn't, then he shouldn't lie.
If he doesn't love her, why should he care about wasting her time?If it's a case of him not loving her then he should say something like I advised him to say in my first post. She already feels like things are one sided, which suggests to me that she might not to waste her time with a guy that doesn't love her. If that's the case then he should be honest with her and not waste her time...especially if he knows he'll never love her.