If She Dosen't Ask You Personal Questions

[Powerlifter]

I was wondering if a lady you have been talking to learning about her regardless if it's about friendship or sexual and she shares personal information with you and answers your questions but never once ask a personal question about you what's up with this am I in the water and should I just move on?

 

[Kailex]

If that's all the information you're going to give about that particular person, my only answer can be this:

- How's that friendzone feel?

 

[squirrels]

I was wondering if a lady you have been talking to learning about her regardless if it's about friendship or sexual and she shares personal information with you and answers your questions but never once ask a personal question about you what's up with this am I in the water and should I just move on?

Um...what??

What is your main concern, here? That you are not getting prompted to ramble on about yourself and that this is hurting your self-esteem?

Read: http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/converse.htm

BTW...conversation is just a pretense for establishing attraction. Are you just jawing all day with this girl, or are you "furthering the seduction process"? Where are you talking to her? How many times have you had these conversations? Have you asked her out? How is the physical aspect progressing? Any IOIs?? More info is needed.

Many people, even on this site, still think that WHAT you say is somehow relevant to the "seduction process". You're doing well to show interest in HER as a person...it establishes to her that you are interested in her specifically, as opposed to her being just another "piece of meat" to you. Beyond that, what you say is largely irrelevant to the process...things like eye contact and delivery are more important.

What she says isn't nearly as important as how she says it. Does she look down, talk in that "soft feminine voice", play with her hair, and give you that look like, "c'mon, what are you waiting for", or that look like, "OMG he's so cute"?

Or does she carry it on like a casual office conversation with little personal interest, as you would conversing with one of your platonic friends or co-workers?

Or haven't you noticed?

 

[sodbuster]

She's using you to have someone to brag to. If she's not asking questions about you,she isn't interested in seeing if you are worth dating.

 

[Powerlifter]

The look she gives me is intense her eyes almost closing and also strong eye contact she never breaks it and never looks down.

I don't mine learning about her but after awhile it would seem if it was mutual interest she would ask me questions but either way I am not sweating this just wondering if I should hang with it or move on?

If I have been friend zoned then why would a lady be a friend to someone she doesn't even know?

 

[jophil28]

The look she gives me is intense and strong eye contact never breaking.

Is this lady the married therapist who was the subject of another thread ?
If so, then her hot/cold games seem to be having the desired effect on ya.

"Intense and strong eye contact , never breaking" qualifies as a "hot" maneuver.
So prepare yourself for a "cold" response to you soon.

 

[Powerlifter]

No I have moved on from the married one haven't seen her for awhile. This is another lady I had interest in before the married one.

What is a hot maneuver?

 

[jophil28]

No I have moved on from the married one haven't seen her for awhile. This is another lady I had interest in before the married one.

What is a hot maneuver?

A "hot" maneuver is a tactic designed to trigger, or increase, your interest in her. It is based on the implied promise of intimacy.
This is 'Flirting 101'.

The Hot/Cold player knows how to increase a man's attraction and at the same time acquire POWER and CONTROL over him.

She wins either two ways - her HOT tactics amp up his sexual attraction towards her, and COLD tactics amp up his fear of losing so he chases her out of panic.
She is in control and winning in both cases, and that is precisely why women do it..

Hot/ Cold is deadly for men, it is a NO WIN situation for us.
A good reason to pull back double when a woman plays this game.

 

[Nutz]

She's using you to have someone to brag to. If she's not asking questions about you,she isn't interested in seeing if you are worth dating.

Or she's thinking "shut up and f*ck me already!"

No way to really know, but chicks, lots of them in fact, are pretty brainless and just want to put in the minimum conversation to get into screwing. Women are sluts these days and don't have any qualms about it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I was wondering if a lady you have been talking to learning about her regardless if it's about friendship or sexual and she shares personal information with you and answers your questions but never once ask a personal question about you what's up with this am I in the water and should I just move on?

there could be a billion reasons why she's not asking for your personal info. like squirrels said, words are meaningless.

run some kino and see how she responds. How she responds to you touching her will tell you everything you need to know.

 

[squirrels]

No way to really know

Exactly. The OP needs to start making moves. Conversation is not a "move". If she IS interested and not just jerking his chain, she will lose interest quickly if he d!cks around much longer.

Invite her out somewhere. Don't pay for ****. Make some moves to escalate toward physical intimacy and see how she responds.

 

[Powerlifter]

OK seems I should stay the coarse and feel things out.

I have touched her previously on the shoulder lightly and she didn't pull away or did I feel she felt uncomfortable with me doing it if she felt uncomfortable I am sure she would avoid me right?

She has in the past really had given me strong eye contact and a nice teeth showing smile but it has lessen lately and things seem less flirty and more serious if you will in conversation and this was the reason for the post.

Yes it could be she wants me to just screw her already.

This seems to be a normal occurance with me and the ladies smiling at me and at my age I'll take it but I have been told I am a very good looking man by many women.

These women always seemed to be 10 years younger than me and I guess I get to thinking could it be these younger women would be this attracted to me and I then hold back and feel things out to play it safe I suppose.

I would rate these women whatever a Jennifer Aniston would be rated on a scale of 1 to 10 sorta like the girl next door but just hot nice fit body etc.

 

[Nutz]

Exactly. The OP needs to start making moves. Conversation is not a "move". If she IS interested and not just jerking his chain, she will lose interest quickly if he d!cks around much longer.

Invite her out somewhere. Don't pay for ****. Make some moves to escalate toward physical intimacy and see how she responds.

Exactly. Chicks will sometimes give you a free pass if you go for too much too soon, but they almost never give you a second chance if you never make a move. I think there's a good reason for this. If you make a move then they feel wanted and validated, but if you never make a move then it hits their egos like they're not worthy so they spite you somehow hence killing any potential to make up for past mistakes of moving too slowly.

Most guys move way too slow, myself included. I don't think I've ever moved too fast. Matter of fact there's be many instances where I was amazed they let me get away with what in my mind was way over the top and unwarranted. The saying if men know what women really thought they'd be 10x more bold is totally true. Sad it took me 30something years to find this out, and that's with having experienced that revelation several times in the past. It just blows my mind how real it is. This is what the alpha aggressive ultra dominant douchebags get hot women all the time. They give them only the minimal verbal game necessary to get away with all the physical crap they do.

 

[jophil28]

Exactly. Chicks will sometimes give you a free pass if you go for too much too soon, but they almost never give you a second chance if you never make a move. I think there's a good reason for this. If you make a move then they feel wanted and validated, but if you never make a move then it hits their egos like they're not worthy so they spite you somehow hence killing any potential to make up for past mistakes of moving too slowly.

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That is mostly true. IT is usually preferable to act bolder rather than passive. Women expect guys to lead, so it is our job to slowly (and skillfully) press down on the gas pedal -if you are going too fast for her she will apply the brakes , BUT at least you and she are MOVING forward.
If she is interested she will stay with this process, if she is not, she will LJBF you when you touch her in even a mildly sexual way.

I have wasted a few opportunities by doing what Powerlifter is doing, and that is waiting for several unmistakeable green lights.

There gets to a point when she will eventually shut you out even if you do make a move . It seems to be all about their egotistical opinion of their own social and sexual value. A real slow moving guy can come off as uninterested and lacking confidence, and it is a rare women who wants someone like that.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I have wasted a few opportunities by doing what Powerlifter is doing, and that is waiting for several unmistakeable green lights.

Most every guy on the planet makes that same mistake. Again and again, myself included. The only girls that give you obvious signals are either psychos or hookers.

Some will make it easy for you, but even those you still got to make the moves, and take the risks of rejection. As they say in sales, remember your ABC's --> Always Be Closing

 

[Commandante]

Yes it could be she wants me to just screw her already.

I´m pretty sure she wants. I mean in your age group the women already know what this game is about...

You should focus more on what you want and pay less attention to her reactions! Be a bit more selfish!

 

[logic1]

Depends on what your looking for? Nothing serious, just some companionship and fun in your free time, shes the one.

As others have said step up the sexual side of the interaction.

Most women who see you as a catch will ask many personal questions because they are genuinely interested in you.

This doesn't mean your not a catch. This woman is not looking long term at the moment. She probally wants some fun without getting serious. I say perfect. Go get it.

Just don't fall for her.

 

[Powerlifter]

OK thanks for the added info.

I'll see where this goes and one point that stood out I should focus on what I want which is to screw her instead of me watching for signs. Makes alot of sense.

Is there anything I could say to her right off the bat when I do see her that tells her I see her as a sexually attractive woman to gage her reaction?

I have really gotten myself in a rut at my age and really embarrassed about it for time is short to be going slow and playing it safe but I have been through some life changing events lately and it messes with your mind and self esteem even at my age.

If it wasn't for my investments I would have properly put a gun to my head and ended it already but you guys are really helping me get my life back on track and I am forever grateful for that and the advice.

 

[zekko]

I have wasted a few opportunities by doing what Powerlifter is doing, and that is waiting for several unmistakeable green lights.

Wow, has that ever happened to me. Guys tend to be generally clueless when it comes to reading women's signals. That's one reason why you should always assume attraction.

 

[jophil28]

Guys tend to be generally clueless when it comes to reading women's signals. That's one reason why you should always assume attraction.

Yes.
There is a tiny part in all of us that just "knows" when a woman is interested. But somehow we men have disabled that mechanism and instead seek a series of obvious signs and signals that she is totally gaga BEFORE we respond. THis is not so good because a lot of woman will bail before they get to a stage at whch they are throwing themselves at you to get your attention. Lost opportunities !

If she continues to chat to you, she has a spark of interest . What you do with that , and how you "dial her up " and convert that spark into a fire is entirely up to you.