If only I knew then...

[Warrior74]

Been talking to this new girl who reminds me of my fiance in college. Looks a lot like her, very smart like her. It got me thinking, man...if I only I knew back then what I know now. What a holy terror I would have been. My fiance was the beginning of a long dark slide into AFCism. Before her, I had spent two years running my cawk through co eds like a goddam cruise missile. She was nearly my perfect girl and a cheerleader to boot. But she was a freak, a hoe, with daddy issues and a kinky bi sexual, bondage streak.

I was not ready. Threesomes with her friends then drama over said threesomes, other cheerleaders trying to fvck me, football players and frat boys trying to fvck her. Never ending drama. Rumors on top of Rumors on top of rumors. I tried to be good guy greg and nice guy afc and fell in love. I even paid her tuition one semester on my credit card. God I wish I could go back in time an slap myself for that. She quit school that same semester and the next time I saw her she was stripping in some country ass titty bar.

If only I knew then what I know now, I would gave her so much shyt and drama it would have filled up her cup whilst banging all of her cheerleader friends/enemies. Follies of youth yah?

 

[PokerStar]

thats good a how you remember how you feel. now you know not to make the same mistake espeically with this one.

man if i could go back in time to not only slap, but punch myself out for all the afcisms.

I somtimes feel ashamed about all the stuff i did. but thats ok. because i have learned from it.

 

[5string]

Most of us wish we knew then what we know now. We'd be dangerous huh?

So Warrior....what's the story with the new gal you are talking to? Any potential with her?

 

[Colossus]

That's why I don't dwell on the past and childhood/adolescence or even college. My present life is way more fulfilling.

Totally agree. I let go of my past regrets regarding women a long time ago.

Like you I got a fair amount of as$ in college, but it's easy to do when all you need is alcohol. I was a total opportunist. I couldnt generate very much on my own, and once I left college I had to learn how to fish.

Would it have been nice to be where I'm at now--developmentally--while in college? Yeah it would have made things a lot smoother. But the reasons I got to this point were because of my past AFC self.

 

[Warrior74]

So Warrior....what's the story with the new gal you are talking to? Any potential with her?

We went for lunch, talked a bit. Turns out shes only been calling me and messaging me because she wants to learn from me and is looking to work with our company, she bought me lunch and drinks and then asked me to teach her somethings about our industry (tv production). THen she hit me up for a job. At least I didn't have to pay. I spent the rest of the afternoon making her play wing man, which she did a good job. She broke the ice on the cute waitress at one of my favorite spots and I ended up getting her number.

This chic didn't tell me on the phone that she has 2 kids and a fiance. She just acted like she wanted to talk to me because we had common interests and thought I seemed cool from what our mutual friends had told her about me. I just got home at 10pm and shes been with me all day. She didn't have her kid and her fiance was out of town. To be honest, we had fun, it was like a date with no pressure. She said several times that I must have a bunch of girlfriends. But at the end of the day, she was looking for employment and that I cannot help her with.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

The whole thing about the hindsight equals 20/20 vision thing is that it can all just boil down to a matter of perspective. It's the same as Monday Morning Quarterbacking or Coaching----------it's always easier to see our fukk ups and our missed opportunities when the "game" is already over.

The reality is that in the "heat of the moment", the best we all can generally do is perform only up to whatever our current level of awareness was at the time.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

A big part of self improvement is letting go of the past. I spent the first 22 years of my life as a clueless AFC. I found this site during a horrific case of oneitis where I AFC'd the hell out if this Hottie who didn't even deserve my attention or affections. I later found out she was banging some other guy while I was declaring my love for her, fokk that! Can't believe how stupid I was back then.

For me the information gained from this site was like opening Pandora's Box. Just think, every mistake you've ever made with women being laid out in front of your eyes! Sometimes I found myself fantasizing about getting back in contact with women from my past and "running game" on them, but I realized that was a waste. You should be focusing all your efforts on new women that you have a clean slate with. Women from my past are dead to me.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think we've all been there Warrior; excellent post btw!

I look back at college and regret a year and a half period where I got completely mesmerized by ended up being my exbpd head case gf. Meanwhile I was turning down so many hot willing and able girls, because my emotions were all tied up with a girl who was emotionally unavailable; ironic really.

All good though; clearly you have learned from past blunders in your younger days and the best days are still ahead of us.





PIMP

 

[Desdinova]

Been talking to this new girl who reminds me of my fiance in college. Looks a lot like her, very smart like her.

Funny, that's what I've been thinking with my new gf. My first fiancee was attractive, nice round cheeks on her face, bright eyes, loves conspiracy theories, and was an artist. My new gf's traits are very identical, but she doesn't have shotgun mood-swings nor does she missile launch nearby objects when she's mad. My ex-fiancee was a fvcking psycho whom I though could be tamed with love and romance and was the first and ONLY woman I fell deeply in love with. The best thing she did was dump my AFC ass (for the second time I might add), which led me to this place.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I woulda slapped the sh!t out of myself many a few times in the past -- I've done some major wussball things; but my intentions were in the right place. Part of life is learning, part of life is pain -- it takes balls to try and grow from a negative experience and to fight towards a positive self-derived outcome.

 

[typical]

Part of life is learning, part of life is pain -- it takes balls to try and grow from a negative experience and to fight towards a positive self-derived outcome.

Word can not describe how much truth there is in those words mate !!!

 

[5string]

We went for lunch, talked a bit. Turns out shes only been calling me and messaging me because she wants to learn from me and is looking to work with our company, she bought me lunch and drinks and then asked me to teach her somethings about our industry (tv production). THen she hit me up for a job. At least I didn't have to pay. I spent the rest of the afternoon making her play wing man, which she did a good job. She broke the ice on the cute waitress at one of my favorite spots and I ended up getting her number.

This chic didn't tell me on the phone that she has 2 kids and a fiance. She just acted like she wanted to talk to me because we had common interests and thought I seemed cool from what our mutual friends had told her about me. I just got home at 10pm and shes been with me all day. She didn't have her kid and her fiance was out of town. To be honest, we had fun, it was like a date with no pressure. She said several times that I must have a bunch of girlfriends. But at the end of the day, she was looking for employment and that I cannot help her with.

This appears to be so common. The norm if you will. Chick has 2 kids and a fiance. It's like once they reach a certain age, the baggage accumulates and there they are, looking for their white knight to make them safe and secure.

It really is a game isn't it? We just have to decide if we want to play.

 

[Kailex]

Most of us wish we knew then what we know now. We'd be dangerous huh?

If I knew then what I knew now, I wouldn't have made the mistakes I made then, to make me the man I am today.

Cheers!

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Kailex, you are right on there man---

If I hadn't made some mistakes and been a foolish AFC, I would never be where I am now...and looking back I am so *LUCKY* I didn't marry one of those first LTRs and go through belated pain....

I have the tools to have a relationship that is right for me...with levels of self-respect that are necessary...alas back in the day I was playing the tune of Chump with a sharp C....

no more.

 

[scrouds]

If I knew then what I knew now, I wouldn't have made the mistakes I made then, to make me the man I am today.

Cheers!

If I knew in college what I know now.. shiit, don't get me started.