I know I'm asking why I feel like **** and all and I know it is because of oneitis. I think I just need to get this out...It is a bit long so please bear with me.
I met a girl through a friend but it was going to be a distance thing. It was a bad idea; especially since we only seen each other once and the furthest we ever went was just cuddling. I knew it was stupid yet I ignored it and went ahead and pursued it. In fact, the only reason was because she initiated. We talked everyday online for an entire month. She even made plans to come visit me. Unfortunately, one day, her car was stolen (our mutual friend confirms this. She did not flake) and she couldn't come but I said I'll go see her instead.
Now this is where things got complicated. She met a new guy locally. This was inevitable. We originally agreed that we are going to date with no exclusivity and no commitment. I knew she was starting to date the guy and I knew her interest in me started to wane. Our conversations started to disappear and all. But, I had fallen for her at this point.
One day, I was thinking and it dawned on me that we can not work out. The distance is too far (8 hour drive). We didn't know if we would even end up in the same area in the future though that possibility was there, it wouldn't be for another 2 years. It wouldn't be fair for either of us. I also knew about the other guy and knew I shouldn't let her wait to see if we had anything. I had to let her go.
We talked and mutually agreed that this distance does suck and we ended things. But note this, we did not even get a chance to go on a legitimate date. We agreed to try to remain friends.
The next day, by sheer coincidence, the new guy, after only dating one weekend (the same weekend we had the talk), asked her to be his girlfriend. She agreed but said she isn't ready to announce it on Facebook. Unfortunately, the guy announced that he was no longer single so I found out. It nearly destroyed me but I knew this was coming...just not this soon.
We talked again and I told her that I liked her and while she liked me, she didn't like me to the extent that I did. She and I still want to remain friends but I told her that I will need more time. I have to cut off contact from her and asked her to let me go at my own pace.
It's been a few days but I still feel crappy. My family and friends all tell me I made the right choice. I feel like they are just telling me this to make me feel better. I feel like I should've fought harder for her and everything. Sure, we would have ended on bad terms but the pain I feel then surely couldn't have been as bad as I feel now...could it?
We were both desperate for having someone love us that we ignored all the red flags. I ended up being hurt while she is able to move on quickly. Why was I so stupid? I don't know.
I really liked this girl and because I did, I had to let her go.
Please give me your feedback. Did I truly do right? Will I be able to get over her? Will we actually be able to remain friends?
I met a girl through a friend but it was going to be a distance thing. It was a bad idea; especially since we only seen each other once and the furthest we ever went was just cuddling. I knew it was stupid yet I ignored it and went ahead and pursued it. In fact, the only reason was because she initiated. We talked everyday online for an entire month. She even made plans to come visit me. Unfortunately, one day, her car was stolen (our mutual friend confirms this. She did not flake) and she couldn't come but I said I'll go see her instead.
Now this is where things got complicated. She met a new guy locally. This was inevitable. We originally agreed that we are going to date with no exclusivity and no commitment. I knew she was starting to date the guy and I knew her interest in me started to wane. Our conversations started to disappear and all. But, I had fallen for her at this point.
One day, I was thinking and it dawned on me that we can not work out. The distance is too far (8 hour drive). We didn't know if we would even end up in the same area in the future though that possibility was there, it wouldn't be for another 2 years. It wouldn't be fair for either of us. I also knew about the other guy and knew I shouldn't let her wait to see if we had anything. I had to let her go.
We talked and mutually agreed that this distance does suck and we ended things. But note this, we did not even get a chance to go on a legitimate date. We agreed to try to remain friends.
The next day, by sheer coincidence, the new guy, after only dating one weekend (the same weekend we had the talk), asked her to be his girlfriend. She agreed but said she isn't ready to announce it on Facebook. Unfortunately, the guy announced that he was no longer single so I found out. It nearly destroyed me but I knew this was coming...just not this soon.
We talked again and I told her that I liked her and while she liked me, she didn't like me to the extent that I did. She and I still want to remain friends but I told her that I will need more time. I have to cut off contact from her and asked her to let me go at my own pace.
It's been a few days but I still feel crappy. My family and friends all tell me I made the right choice. I feel like they are just telling me this to make me feel better. I feel like I should've fought harder for her and everything. Sure, we would have ended on bad terms but the pain I feel then surely couldn't have been as bad as I feel now...could it?
We were both desperate for having someone love us that we ignored all the red flags. I ended up being hurt while she is able to move on quickly. Why was I so stupid? I don't know.
I really liked this girl and because I did, I had to let her go.
Please give me your feedback. Did I truly do right? Will I be able to get over her? Will we actually be able to remain friends?
