If I am older and better off but everyone else sucks, that sucks for me!

[drakeisfire]

So I've had this thought in my mind that say I go down the right path in life and do the right things. Don't get married young, get rich, get shredded, and the list just goes on from there. That's all good but here is the issue on my end.

If I become great and everyone else gets fat, married, and broke by the time I make it; that actually sucks for me because I have no one to enjoy those times with.

I envied the college kids who were all a part of a social crew of young, attractive and well off people.

Adulthood discourages me because I feel like those top tier people are either married with kids or hit rock bottom to where they are not top tier.

I do not get how I will enjoy money and what it brings if I do not have a group of wealthy like-minded friends to enjoy it with, maybe this is why so many of the rich are miserable.

What are your thoughts about this?

 

[Billtx49]

My thoughts are that you need to abandon the depressive mindset…

 

[skinnyguy]

Would you be happier in a sexless marriage?

If not, enjoy your freedom now

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Sounds like you need to join us in the mature man sub-forum. Plenty of these conversations going on over there.

I agree with billtx49 and skinnyguy. First focus on your mindset and learning to be happy and thankful for what you do have: Your freedom, your independence, you aren't stuck in a ****ty marriage that you stick with because you "think it's best for the kids", etc.

Stop worrying about being friends with "wealthy" people. Why not focus on just having good friends regardless of their wealth? Expand your demographic.... try to make friends of all ages and from all walks of life.

I will say one thing - I don't know how many people are able to successfully have large friend GROUPS that they go out with regularly, over the age of 35. By that point, people are so burdened down with their controlling wives and their kids and their jobs that they just don't have time for going out with the guys as much. Most social events are done at the house, with all the kids and wives involved. So look to younger people.... late 20's and early 30's. And also take up some new hobbies that will put you into bigger groups of people. If someone has time to enjoy a hobby/club regularly, it means they are free enough to go out and do other things too so this is a perfect place to meet people. It could be an ultimate frisbee league, running club, volunteer organization, or whatever.

But yeah you are right - money doesn't buy happiness. If I've learned anything, it's that life isn't worth living unless you have people to share it with.

It isn't easy though. I am in the same boat. I'm out there trying to apply the same suggestions I made above, and am having some success, but it is a long process. I expect it will be another couple of years before I have a solid group of friends and a social life that I'm truly happy with. But it will never happen unless you take action.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I have thought about this before too. This is why I say that society is ****ed up beyond belief. People don't see it though.

No, it is not your fault. And yes, we are still screwed in the end because no one else understand this nor do they even think anything remotely like this too. I get where you are coming from, having other people with you to enjoy the times with is much more enjoyable than doing things solo. That's also why a lot of guys end up getting married in the first place. They don't want to be alone, and women ARE much more social and sociable than men. Now that women are all ****ed up though, it kinda defeats the purpose. We are alone in this world dude. It's life. I have tried getting rid of the desire to socialize with people or to even want compassion or empathy at all. It's not normal. It's not natural. Humans are social creatures. And for me, it was not really possible without ultimately becoming a hateful, bitter, dark person. Something revived me somehow, but you best believe that it was not my doing.

The world is ****ed up. It's not our fault. There's not much we can really do about it either unfortunately. And yeah, you are right. That is why there are so many rich folks out there who are unhappy. A lot of people say choose a profession that makes you happy, not necessarily one that makes a lot of money. And I realized that there were none for me. Because honestly, the only thing I am missing in my life right now is having a solid group of friends, and a real expansive social circle/network. That's the most natural way to meet people, and thus women. And to be honest, it's the one thing that's been missing from me for a long time now, and at this point I know that it's not my fault.

I feel like the time for making friends is over now even though I'm still in college, especially because my university isn't really a social one (all about work). And back when I was actually able to make friends, I didn't really know how to. What a funny, cruel joke haha.

You aren't wrong. It takes an incredibly strong individual not to care about this stuff at all. I am talking maybe 1 in every several thousand people.
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Rest In Peace

Life

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I'm on my own
(see other thread undermining dude)

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I love being alone, I have since I was little, unless a multiplayer video game came out for Nintendo, I've had a lot of "friends" or so called best friends. We either drifted away from each other or we bump back in to each other and realized how the friendship changed and how its different now. Fake people seem to be the fuel this world feeds on. Am I perfect? never Am I intelligent? No I have a lot to learn and that's exciting, am I a victim? No. I know some of my flaws I can be a big mouth, and a bit abrasive and vitriolic. Its my intense passion and me being unable to convey it when I talked that gets me misunderstood. I recently had a bunch of people turn their back on me and makeup lies and tried to pin me in a corner. All while smiling in my face, being supportive, liking my facebook posts.

People who a stranger walking down the street would think are "morally good people" their true colors ended up showing and it was a huge wake up call.

You know how I coped and got over it? Gratitude. Find things to be gracious for every day and you will open up your mindset and heart to a whole new world. I thought it was all new-age mumbo jumbo, but its really changing my life

 

[top gear]

what you want is good but you're too much outside the box and the fact is that:
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-non rich people are valuable people too.

-You can join a club a group about something or become involved in the social aspects of your job and start calling those people your friends although they will be glorified acquaintances cause you won't be able to tell them a problem that happened outside the club maybe you won't even meet them outside the club.

-I can see people of all ages going out in duos or trios that means he who is seeking for true friendship will find it.

It seems that you think you need to translate the people you are seeing now to the next parts of your life or that rich people are higher persons or that you need to hang around with people of a certain background but just don't.

 

[skinnyguy]

If you’re rich get on the board of directors for a charity. You’ll get invited to so many parties.

 

[drakeisfire]

If you’re rich get on the board of directors for a charity. You’ll get invited to so many parties.

Ya but who wants to have parties with a bunch of wrinkly old married dudes?

I rather party with some fun people.

 

[marmel75]

You are simply building up excuses in your mind and barriers to your success. Stop doing this. Nobody who is successful in any area of life does this type of thing. If you want to be successful in this area of your life you shouldnt either.