She’s 100% using you for attention. If any DJ on this board has turned a woman around in a situation such as this, and she developed genuine long term interest in him after initially rejecting him, please tell me your story and prove me wrong.
If you play it right, and you validate her and then abruptly withdraw, you might be able to secure sex or a bj out of due to her desperation to prove to herself that she can reel you back in. But girls who do this have lowwwww interest.
Once a girl rejects me, then any emotional investment on my end is off the table (but it usually is within a 20 minute convo anyway, so no biggie). BUT I'm a generous guy. I'll give girls another shot or two to get the privilege of experiencing me.
That said, I can't say I've turned those situations into genuine long-term interest, but that wasn't really what I was after. I have turned them into enthusiastic desire-sex, small gifts and favors, maybe a friend or two thrown my way--value in general--and I've had a couple of those who chased a little bit until they got the message.
It's my firm belief that rejection isn't real. A girl isn't rejecting YOU, she is just rejecting that SITUATION. Who a girl is in any MOMENT depends on her EMOTIONS, so emotions change, moments change, the situation changes. I firmly believe that, if you wanted to, you could flip a girl who rejected you initially into anything you wanted and her perception of you could shift 180 degrees based on whatever emotional state she's in
most of the time. All of the facts would just be backwards rationalized to fit her emotional narrative.
But I also think a guy is better off giving the majority of their attention to girls who default into seeing him as high value. But shooting a text inviting a flaky girl (or 2 or 3 to pay the odds) over on a slow night is almost no investment. The only possible risk is your "self-respect," but the keyword there is
self. It should exist 100% independent of her perception of you and anything she says or does.
