If a Girl from Myspace responds with looking for just "friends" should I respond?

[Immaculate]

Hey all .. how's everyone doing today?

I emailed a really hot girl on myspace.com with a witty, original email. She replaied with a paragraph but says she just looking for "friends" not much else. I on the other hand want more than that lol. Here's her reply... should I even bother replying? If so, what tip can you give me to say? Thanks... here's her reply:

"I got on here to specifically talk to a couple of friends who don't live near me. While I don't have a "boyfriend," I am definitely not looking for anything like that on here. I didn't get on here to check out other guys, that seems kind of dumb to me. Just friends So are those computers in the background of your picture?"

 

[h2o]

*munches on popcorn while awaiting for someone to come tear apart your post ... wait, weren't you the same guy who didn't know if his gf was his ex?*

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by Immaculate
"I got on here to specifically talk to a couple of friends who don't live near me. While I don't have a "boyfriend," I am definitely not looking for anything like that on here. I didn't get on here to check out other guys, that seems kind of dumb to me. Just friends So are those computers in the background of your picture?"

This can mean many things; it depends on the context. If you've been going out with her for some time and she throws that line at you (along with physical resistance) when you make a move on her, you may well be in the friends zone with her.

But from your context, she has never even met you before. Has she seen your pic? If she hasn't seen your pic, she is probably just gaming you. It's her way of telling you she is not desperate: she is setting herself up as the prize.

You need to reframe. For instance, tell her she would make a good friend too ... that you have certain standards for a gf and very few have ever passed those standards.

Beyond this, you need to learn about reframing. I suggest you check out Swinggcat's e-book: http://www.realworldseduction.com

Maximus_Decimus

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by h2o
*munches on popcorn while awaiting for someone to come tear apart your post ... wait, weren't you the same guy who didn't know if his gf was his ex?*

It was my EX who lost 15 lbs and had a new hairdo and glasses she never had before. I hadn't seen her for awhile and was drunk.

It could happen to you.

 

[Immaculate]

Re: Re: If a Girl from Myspace responds with looking for just "friends" should I respond?

Originally posted by Maximus_Decimus
This can mean many things; it depends on the context. If you've been going out with her for some time and she throws that line at you when you make a move on her, you may well be in the friends zone with her.

But from your context, she has never even met you before. Has she seen your pic? If she hasn't seen your pic, she is probably just gaming you. It's her way of telling you she is not desperate: she is setting herself up as the prize.

You need to reframe. For instance, tell her she would make a good friend too ... that you have certain standards for a gf and very few have ever passed those standards.

Beyond this, you need to learn about reframing. I suggest you check out Swinggcat's e-book: http://www.realworldseduction.com

Maximus_Decimus

Thanks for the advice. Yes she saw my pic. I will try this and email her now. Let's see what she says about "you will be a good friend
too ... that you have certain standards for a gf and very few have ever passed those standards." And no we've never met, I just randomly emailedl her off myspace cuz she lives in my area.

Thanks that's good !

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Re: Re: Re: If a Girl from Myspace responds with looking for just "friends" should I respo

Originally posted by Immaculate
Thanks for the advice. Yes she saw my pic. I will try this and email her now. Let's see what she says about "you will be a good friend
too ... that you have certain standards for a gf and very few have ever passed those standards." And no we've never met, I just randomly emailedl her off myspace cuz she lives in my area.

Thanks that's good !

Immaculate, that was just one example of reframing. What's more important than using the response I suggested is that you learn and understand the basic ideas of reframing, setting yourself up as the prize, and qualifying her. Hence, I suggested you get Swinggcat's e-book as he explains this stuff in detail. This way, you will come up with your own reframes and will never have to come back for advice:

Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for life.
- unknown proverb

Maximus_Decimus

 

[TheSplat]

If you send girls "original, witty" emails on myspace, you're not doing it right. Go outside and start up a convo w/ girls, that's doing it right. Dude...myspace is cool and all, but for dating?

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by TheSplat
If you send girls "original, witty" emails on myspace, you're not doing it right. Go outside and start up a convo w/ girls, that's doing it right. Dude...myspace is cool and all, but for dating?

yeah .. but i'm stuck at work 6 days a week now from am to pm and my only day off Sunday I sleep.. I used to hit on girls all the time when I had more time off.. but I got this new job and I live ina small town.. so at least I have a valid excuse for this.

 

[tom121]

get off the internet and find real women in real life

 

[TheSplat]

Originally posted by tom121
get off the internet and find real women in real life

Dude, did you not read his last post?

Immaculate, I understand where you're coming from, so it's ok in this sit. to use myspace....but don't rely on it. And the advice I'll give you on your reply.......


"I don't look on the computer for relationships either, but your pictures and profile really caught my eye. I think we might get along pretty well."



then wait for her response, maybe get her AIM/phone number. This myspace dating is weird and that's all i could think of. Good luck.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by Immaculate
yeah .. but i'm stuck at work 6 days a week now from am to pm and my only day off Sunday I sleep.. I used to hit on girls all the time when I had more time off.. but I got this new job and I live ina small town.. so at least I have a valid excuse for this.

I've met two LTRs and a hookup off of myspace. Didnt even really try. I did like you did and sent back and forth a few msgs here or there while at work. I just have fun conversations then after a bit set up a meeting and we get together, i turn up the charm, and then Hannibal says "Don't you just love it when a plan comes together?"

They all claim not to be looking for someone to date but it just happens anyway. I think that's the way girls want it... to find a diamond amongst the garbage by accident. Seriously, if you're using myspace, don't be a douche. I've seen the msgs these girls get.. hundreds.. and they're sooo damn bad that of course girls are going to say they don't want to date just to get most of you off their back... THEN if you peak their interest for real after talking a little suddenly their tune is completely different.

My one gf was like "i started messaging you and you were SUCH an asswhole... but funny.. i don't get it, i kept wondering is he really an asswhole or is he just playing? So i kept talking to you and always waiting for you to get online and pretty soon i was addicted."

I've never relied on it solely for chicks, but it works out.

 

[TTom]

IMO

1) Don't get *hooked* on any particular hot girl, especially in myspace. There are tons out there.

2) Try not to come off as needy. That whole "you're the prize" thing remember?

3) Depending on how good you are at th3 int3rn3t, try to get their email, at the moment I'm making a game of it (to see how many ladies emails I can get), at the moment I'm up to 8. I started this personal game about a week or two ago.

4) More importantly than online crap, try to develop your "in person" ability. No point in getting your hopes up if you can somehow attract this chick and you end up being a complete bore.

Just some random thoughts.
What's this chicks myspace profile address?

 

[naoi deag se deag]

Why did she immediately mention she isn't looking for a boyfriend? What did you send her? Sounds to me like you came on too strong or it looked like your intentions were to date her. It's good that you were witty and original, but you're in the same place as a guy who wasn't if you raised this red flag in her mind.

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by naoi deag se deag
Why did she immediately mention she isn't looking for a boyfriend? What did you send her? Sounds to me like you came on too strong or it looked like your intentions were to date her.

What she says is less important than the context she is saying it in. Women will say practically anything. A woman who doesn't love you will tell you "I Love You" if you have a big fat bank account with $$$$$$$$$$$ in it. Does she really love you or does she love your $$$$$$$$$$$?

Return to the basics:

Don't listen to what she says, listen to her actions.

Maximus_Decimus

 

[naoi deag se deag]

Originally posted by Maximus_Decimus
What she says is less important than the context she is saying it in. Women will say practically anything. A woman who doesn't love you will tell you "I Love You" if you have a big fat bank account with $$$$$$$$$$$ in it. Does she really love you or does she love your $$$$$$$$$$$?

Return to the basics:

Don't listen to what she says, listen to her actions.

Maximus_Decimus

I'd still like to see what he wrote. It would be helpful for us to understand his situation and helpful for him to iron out his mistakes. Girls online are looking for any trigger that raises the red flag that makes our lives harder. There are ways around that as long as you avoid those triggers. I bet he set some of them off in his message.

 

[escobar04]

Originally posted by Immaculate
It was my EX who lost 15 lbs and had a new hairdo and glasses she never had before. I hadn't seen her for awhile and was drunk.

It could happen to you.

wow, thats some shyt

as far as myspace.com

last night some chick wants to be on my list and I've never even met her or know who she is.

she claims I was one of the "cool new people" so she added me

Jackpot in my opinion