Ideas for date on winter break

[static]

I'm back home from school for winter break. I got this girl's number on Thursday over here. I'd like to call her to find out if she wants to hang out. I don't want to wait until the weekdays to call since I'm only gonna be here until right after christmas.

When is the soonest I can call her and what kind of activity should I try to set up?

Since it's already 4 pm saturday over here (west coast), when is the latest I can call tonight? or should I just call another day?

 

[One on One]

I think you should call Sunday evening between 8 and 10 PM and set up a coffee date. Honestly, you could do anything, but you didn't give any real specific information so I'm just going by the book on this advice. How'd you get the number? from who?

 

[epitome of evolution]

If you're concerned about when you're calling her, that extra mental baggage will drag you down. Call her if you're still attracted, and when you feel like it.

LOL. If you're leaving soon, hurry up and call, numbnuts. It's almost Christmas, ya know.

You have a time you can have her over alone? If so, tell her to come over for food/music/just burnt a CD/you're tired of going out all the time, so you wanna chill with her at home/movie/yearbooks/ wardrobe/ do each other's hair/ art/ have her help you clean your room.

If you can't get her over alone, go to her place alone. For any lame asss excuse.

If you can't ****ing get together anywhere but public, I'd say get rid of her and find another girl in the malls to bring home.

epitome.

 

[iqqi]

^^^^^hahahahahah! he said do each others hair!!!

actually, i love when guys play with my hair. gives me absolute chills.

hmmm....if a guy called me up and said, "come over so i can play with your hair", after a moment of initial weirdness, i'd be over there faster than you could say "hot sex on a platta"!

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

*plays with iqqi's hair* There ya go ...

 

[static]

Met her at the mall. She works at a department store.

I was buying some underclothes and this dude was checking the stuff out for me at the register. This HB9 comes to the register area. I was thinking that she was way out my league. I made eye contact and she looks down quickly, but kinda the shy look down. Then she looked back and I smiled then said Hi. She said hi back. Then I started walking away with the clothes I had just bought. After a few steps, I realized I was walking in the wrong direction to get back into the mall. So I turn around and now I'm going her way. I walk toward her as if I"m going to talk to her then she moves away from the dude at the register and we talk. I was nervous and asked the questions using AFC body langauge. I asked

What's your name?
How long have you worked here?
Oh, So you must really like it?
So what are you studying at school?

A customer came and she had to help her. I asked for her number.."can I get your number?". She said "Sure" and wrote it down for me. She told me it is her cell number.

She sounded like a pretty sweet girl, though.

 

[static]

I just called and got the answering service.

Since she works at the department store and it's the holiday season, she probably is working a lot and can't have her phone with her. She's probably working right now.

How is leaving a message on her machine: "Hi HB9, it's static, give me a call tonight. My number is 555-1234."

 

[static]

I just called again. I tried to follow the boot camp outline for the first date conversation.

Me: Hi, I'm calling for HB9
HB9: Yes, it's me
Me:This is static
HB9: Hi, how are you doing?
Me: Good, You?
HB9: Good
Me: How was your day?
HB9: Good, I actually had a good day.
Me: So what have you been up to lately?
Her: Just work. They're working me a lot.
[The following details I shouldn't have asked got nervous and felt like I had to expand on a topic]
Me: How many hours a week
HB9: This week, 42.
Me: Oh, I thought they'd have you working 60 hours a week [freakin' stupid of me to say this on many counts]
HB9: OH, that's illegal!
Pause [At least I did not further screw it up by trying to rationalize why I said it]
HB9:So
Me:What are you doing tonight? [I began diverging from the boot camp outline here]
HB9:Well, actually my girls and I are having a girl's night and were going ice-skating. Then after that we're going drinking. You know [laughs]
Me:Oh, that's cool [probably should have omitted the "Oh," don't you think?]
Pause again
At this point I wanted to ask what she has planned for tomorrow, but I didn't because that would have sounded desperate.

HB9: Is that number your calling from callable?
[I'm called from my house and she saw the number]
Me:555-1234
HB9:Yes
Hb9: I'm leaving from work. I'll call you when I get home, which we'll be around an hour from now. We'll figure out when we have free time so that we can hang out together.
Me: Ok, that's cool
Hb9:bye
Me: bye

 

[D4H]

the fact she mentioned figuring out a time when u guys can hang out is good seeing how all u did was ask what she was doing that night.

 

[static]

She just called back. I asked her what days she's free. She said Monday and Tuesday she gets off work early. I asked her to come over to my place Monday and we'll watch a movie. I didn't mention any specifics. But I said that I'll call her tomorrow and give her the information. I did, however, say that she should come over at night...at around 9PM.

Analysis: She asked some questions, and it led me to tell her a little about myself. Maybe I went a little too much into it. I let her know I'm only gonna be here for a week. Also I was a little bit excited and/or nervous at times during the conversation. The convo. lasted 5 minutes. She'll have time to think about it and talk to her friends about it. I think there's a decent chance she'll call and cancel.


I fuvked up a little bit during the conversation because I got excitated and/or nervous.

BTW, if a girl asks your age, is it okay to ask for hers? If not, how can you go about finding her age, at least approximately?

 

[One on One]

Look, man, you've been so AFC so far that it's laughable. You're lucky to still be in the game. Obviously, she is very attracted to you, but that attraction will fall off faster than you can say "chump" if you don't take control of the situation. Read some of the classics of the DJ Bible such as "Be a Man" by Pook. Make that **** a part of you and don't screw this up.

 

[static]

When I call her tomorrow, I'll claim that I've already picked up the movie. I will try to say it immediately after I tell her it's me:

Me:Hi, I'm calling for HB9
HB9:It's static
Me: HB9, I picked up [name of the movie] for us to watch tomorrow. You should come by at 9p.m. Get ready, I'm going to give you my address. Then I give her it.
HB9: Ok
Me: Ok,see you then. Bye

If she asks to change the time, say earlier, should I allow it?
She might do this with the excuse that she has work early the next day, which I think she does.

Please feel free to make comments.

 

[Engetsu]

omg! you're over-analysing and planning ahead wayyyyy too much, just take it as it goes... I agree with One on One that you should read some classics of the DJ bible.

In the meantime, pursue other women, get your mind OFF of her, except when you're calling her and when you're on the date.

Also, word of advice, don't tell her the name of the movie you're going to watch, it creates *mystery*.

 

[static]

What if she asks?

"You'll find out"

What kind of movie should I get,seriuosly?

By the way, I forgot to mention that she thought the idea of getting together for a movie at my place was good, after I brought it up.

 

[Axe]

You're very AFC so far but you haven't blown it yet. Tell her you're getting Little Mermaid or something then have a scary movie ready for when she comes over. 28 days or something maybe. If possible have your living room or whatever arranged so the only way you can both sit is right next to each other, almost touching and where you could both lay down later on (Day Beds are awesome).

Of course, you still have to make her come over, be the definition of ****y and funny whenever you call her. If she does come over, keep up the ****y and funny while adding kino in. Do the hair kiss test then go on from there.

 

[static]

Called her 3 times today.

First time, another girl picks up. HB9 is in the shower. She offers to take a message. I said "No, I'll call her later." 7:30p.m

Second time I got the machine immediately (no dial tones). 9:30p.m

Third time another girls picks up. After asking for HB9, she says "hold up let me try to get her." Sounds like there's a party in the background. Hb9 comes on the phone

HB9: Hi
Me:Hi, this is static

shes about to say something I cut her off and she's cool with it (basically she implied "you go first") because I was afraid it would be contradictory to my plans (i.e her canceling the date). However, based on what I wrote below I think that she was just gonna ask me to call her at a better time.

Me: Tomorrow come by my place at 7:30p.m
HB9: Okay
Me: Okay well let me give you the information

she interrupts and speaks simultaneously while I said this and she said

HB9: Okay but this isn't a good time. I'll call you tomorrow.
Me: Ok, bye
HB9: bye

Analysis?

 

[Axe]

*IF* she calls today, woo hoo, you got lucky. It sounds like you're about to be ditched though. Should you not hear anything, call her back *ONCE* not 3 times, and jokingly ask if the cute sounding friend you talked to last night was available and if she's as big of a brat as HB9 is being.
To me though, it's sounding like even if you get her over to your place you're not going to know what to do. You're going to ask her about how life is to her, how she likes her work, and abuch of other completely boring and useless topics.

 

[static]

Me: Hi, I'm calling for HB9
HB9: This is me
Me: This is static
HB9: Oh, hi static
pause
I'm about to talk, but I let her talk first.
HB9:Oh, I totally forgot but....I was gonna call you to let you know that I can't make it tonight. My family is having a little get together. You know how it is during this time of the year.
Me: Oh, actually I was calling to find out about the girl who asked the phone last night [when I called you]
HB9:Which girl [agressive/jealous tone]
Me: The girl who answered when I asked for you
HB9: Oh, that was probably my sister.
Me: How old is your sister.
HB9: She's 15 [again, aggressive/jealous tone]
Me: Oh
Me: well then have a good night
Hb9: Ok thanks, bye

On a positive note, at least I got some practice.

But as far as she's concerned, NEXT!

 

[jbbrain]

!!!!!

 

[D4H]

LOL man, it IS christmas season, u should have just said "ok, thats fine" and hung up the phone. Once off the phone, next her, and delete her number from your phone. This way it gives her the chance to call back at some point, but as far as u are concerned she's nexted.. and u wont have her number to make any desperate calls some day when u get bored/lonely.