I would rather be a loser than a fool

[MattNM]

This probably will be different for a post but I will be totally honest. The fact that one has to "not be themselves" "not show to much feeling" " Act" according the the "plan", show beyond a shadow of a doubt that the male/female relationship is one of ultimate incompatibility. I consider myself somewhat deep. I understand keeping things interesting and coming up with new exciting approaches, but even sometimes traveling is fun but it is good to come home eventually, if you understand. I do not claim to have all the answers and I am not gay but women are not compatible. I guesss that is why so many "jerks" are created. Yes it sucks but then look at the condition of the world, marriages overall. Its broke. Just the facts.

 

[Zarky]

okey dokey.

You bothered to register to post that?

 

[MattNM]

Good point. I am getting into a new relationship after a few years of marriage. It seems nothing has changed. Just not a player. That is not the quality of life I am looking for. I confess I do read and get some benefits from some of the stuff here. However, it is still a psych game unfortunately.

 

[YAboi]

I read that in America 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce. It's been verified officially by the stats people

 

[MattNM]

Exactly. I am not a pessimist. I am realistic though. You basically have to live in a denial of your personhood to some degree to be don juan. Women are challenging to say it nicely.

 

[Zarky]

there is no personhood, you're whomever you want to be.

To me, what I "am" is merely a set of steps to get what I want. I don't care what I "am," I care what I want and I'm willing to "be" whatever allows me to most efficiently get what I want. My identity is not fixed.

I mean, if you break it way down, "you" are merely a stepping stone for genetic code to pass from the past to the future.