i would love ur input on this one

[jorz]

Ok guys here my story


I been with my gf 20 years never married 8 kids all mine never lived together but spend alot of time together at her house always been off and on one min we are getting on next we have an argument she rings the fuzz on me gets me kicked over petty arguments next day im back and we are getting on again been like that since day one


One day like 1000 times before she says its over once again got me kicked out this time we felt out for about a week BUT in that week she brought another man around my kids who lived one min from her house she only knew him for 48 hours introduced to him by her friend of 14 months and ****ed him when my son was in the cot sleeping in the our bed she used nothing and even thought she was pregnant and when I found out I went f**kin mental I was so close to f**ckin slap her across her face how f**kin dare her f**k around like that after 20 years of relationship disgusting


Anyhow at that point it was over i met a few of woman for a drink made some new friends but never did anything with them week later she comes back begging im sorry I love you I f**ked up I know I did could you ever forgive me


And like the fool I was I got back with her but said I will only be with you and give you another chance if we move and you end your friendship with that woman since she is friends with that scum long story short we now moved still friends with the woman and my life is a mess and now this is 12 months later


She has lost respect for me cos I took her back now I show her so much love and affection but and she always it pushes me away and is still friends with that f**kin woman and goes back to her house and you can imagine when she does all kinds of things are running through my head as that woman is still friends with that scum


I have told her to end her friendship for a fresh start with me an she said im blackmailin her an it’s not right I said it is f**kin right how is it right your friends with her when shes good friends with that scumbag


so now 12 months later we are still here I lost all my trust in her very insecure and don’t like her goin out my sight

 

[parkthebus]

What sort of input are you looking for here?

 

[jorz]

is it wrong of me to ask her to end her friendship is that blackmail ?

she said it wasnt cheating because she says it was over but i said it was because we have always been off an on ahe said it wasnt right what she did but it was not cheatin

i asked her does she love me she said yes but i have to be different because im now become to controlling which is true after she did that im so scared when she goes out shes goin to mess around with someone else

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

Do you enjoy torturing yourself? If not, get the **** outof there.

 

[jorz]

no i dont but 8 kids and i would hate for my kids to be brought up without me around

now after she moved my kids live 100 miles round from me

she said doesnt regret it for me but regrets it for herself because it wasnt her

its all bs i dont know what i will do

 

[fafo]

You can still be with your kids and enjoy a healthy relationship with a woman that deserves you(not her).
You can visit the children without obligation to this woman.
Since you are not married you cannot stop her from doing anything but you can get rid of her and continue your life.

 

[Skyline]

Your situation reminds me of a time when I had major oneitis for this girl and basically was a complete mess.

I came to this site and realized that my only option was to leave everything and walk away.

You need to do this, you two aren't married so seeing your kids will be easier to do if you decide to go to court over it.

 

[marmel75]

This should have ended the first time she pulled this sh!t. Have some dignity and self respect for yourself for once and walk away for good.

 

[Yewki]

One day like 1000 times before she says its over once again got me kicked out

In what world do you think it's a good idea to be with someone where every other day you get in a fight and she tries to end the relationship?

so now 12 months later we are still here I lost all my trust in her very insecure and don’t like her goin out my sight

Why are you still even concerned with her? She is CLEARLY not for you. Stop wasting your time. Move on.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

Why does this belong in Don Juan.... This is some more deep ****. This isn't really Don Juan type material.. Oh well.

 

[jorz]

Thanks everyone

i guess its just really hard for me to walk away from 20 years its a lifetime to be with someone i have been with her since i was 14 have so many kids together she is all i have ever known

one part of my head i think she did move for me gave up everything and says to me what she did was just to get me off her back so i wouldn't take her back because of all the argument all got to much for her she said didnt enjoy it was a mistake but regrets tit for herself more than she does me and it couldnt of been anyman even some fat guy or whatever

she has been a stay at home mum since 14 not had much of a life but after she met this woman started goin out drink coming back late and things started getting worse between us

i try so hard to please her always show her love affection i have never hit her before i always help around the house tidy help with the kids buy her gifts take her out whenever i can always please her in bed first before myself run her baths i know she takes me for a mug and when shes had enough of me kicks me out and after a week kids drive her nuts and wants me back again

 

[Bible_Belt]

When you finally get to fvck a new vagina that hasn't been wrecked by eight kids, you're going be like WOW THIS PVSSY IS TIGHT!!!!!

 

[parkthebus]

Your situation reminds me of a time when I had major oneitis for this girl and basically was a complete mess.

I came to this site and realized that my only option was to leave everything and walk away.

You need to do this, you two aren't married so seeing your kids will be easier to do if you decide to go to court over it.

What did you leave?