I wish I could go back...

[Slickster]

Yes I would.

I know you hate on me Slickster so I don't know why you waste one of your 10 posts to message me.

I don't hate you at all rhcp. I've been trying to help you all along. You continue to post these calls out for help yet you dismiss pretty much all the advice you are given. Why is that? Why does someone come to a help forum, ask for help, dismiss the advice, and then ask for more help?

The reason I've been hard on you in previous posts is that I'm trying to give you a kick in the arse. Trying to wake you up. You've been whining and making up excuses since you got here but you are refusing to take any steps forward.

The fact that you finally lashed out at me is exactly what I've been waiting for you to do. It's the most positive sign I've seen out of you yet. Not sure why you deleted the nasty comments directed my way. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself man. It's a good thing.

I understand that you have some other issues. It's plain to see and I know some other veteran posters have noticed it too. Your posts and thoughts are all over the place and you contradict yourself many times. (Sometimes in the same thread.)

A lot of guys go thru an "awakening" phase when they get here. It can be a confusing time. Just don't get stuck there or let it turn into a negative. Try to move forward and do something to change yourself. That's why you're here right? Your perspective will change over time.

Those private messages you sent me about stalking you were funny. I'm not stalking you dude. I was just trying to give you the benefit of the doubt by looking at your post history and trying to find anything positive you had to say since you've been here. You are really uptight man. Relax.

I understand your "issues" better than you know. If you directed your energy and overactive mind on the right things you would really improve yourself quickly. I bet you'd soak up the DJ bible like a sponge. After that maybe a bootcamp. The key is to focus on moving forward instead of spinning in circles.

P.S. Calling me ****y was a compliment. Calling me a douche and telling me I couldn't get laid where you live contradicts what you've been telling us all along. "The hot girls in my town only go for guys who are total douches"

Good luck on your vacation or wherever you decide to move. Remember....no more excuses!

 

[rhcp83]

Slickster, all along you've been saying "If I were in your town, I'd be laid right away."

You live in Canada. New England isn't even a small town area...it's snobby suburbs.

Like I said, I have other issues...but I would be approaching if there were women to approach, if anything just to get the v-card over with and move on with my life. I have other things to worry about.

And this whole "nice guy" act by you, I'm not buying. You're just trying to save your online rep.

Say what you want about me, but I'm not trying to impress other guys on a pick-up board. I'm done here.

 

[J Roc]

...to the AFC days, I mean the days where women were these mysterious, angelic people and "if only I could get a girlfriend."

Do you also want to go back to the days when you thought Santa Claus, the tooth fairy and the easter bunny were real?

 

[Rubato]

Dude, people are giving you advice here that you are not applying.

You really need to listen to Slickster, he knows what he is talking about. Read his posts, particularly Slick Tales.

I can kind of identify where you are coming from. Read some of the stuff I have written on here. I'm not around much anymore because I have been applying the nuggets of truth Floyd, AJ, Slickster, and the rest are tossing at you.

Bro. Get off your computer and out in the real world. Take the time that you say you're using and obsessing about women to do something, ANYTHING else. Get another job or something if you really have that much time and you'll have an additional stream of income you can use to sarge with.

See man, you don't have any excuses if you don't want to. You're setting up a bunch of false limitations for yourself because it takes legitimate balls to go out and put yourself out there with women. You're gonna get rejected. And you're petrified of that. You've placed your virginity and women's sexuality (you said as much) on a huge pedestal and until you can knock both of them off there, you probably won't find much success.

I was doing the same thing man. I had my virginity and sexuality on such a big pedestal it totally destroyed my progress. Women can smell that stuff the same way a drug dog can smell crack. It makes you a hidden AFC, because even if you feel like you're concealing your insecurities and hangups, it is almost always manifesting itself. You can't get away from it. I didn't end up losing my virginity until I figured that out.

You break your car, it sucks.

You break a window, it sucks

You break up, it sucks (if you actually liked the girl)

Breaking things is hard. dude.

YOU HAVE TO BREAK DOWN THE PEDESTAL!

That is the only way! I haven't read enough of your threads to understand what your other issues are. You need to start improving yourself. Go see a shrink if you have to, if the issues are really that bad. Find a counselor or a psychologist. How in the world do you expect to effectively advertise broken merchandise on the sexual marketplace?? Get yourself in line! And you can do it!!

You just have to be willing to make yourself vulnerable. You will never experience abundance if you can't approach, and you will never approach if you can't make yourself vulnerable.

Now dude, there is nothing else anyone can say to you. There comes a point in time where a man has been given the tools he needs for a job and he either decides to accept the project or let it go.

You're at that point. What are you going to do? Are you going to keep making excuses? Or are you going to start rebuilding the YOU that you've always wanted?

Listen to Slickster. I wish I had had a dude like that take an interest in me and help direct me down the path when I first started. This is something only you can do.

 

[AlexDP]

Slickster, all along you've been saying "If I were in your town, I'd be laid right away."

You live in Canada. New England isn't even a small town area...it's snobby suburbs.

Like I said, I have other issues...but I would be approaching if there were women to approach, if anything just to get the v-card over with and move on with my life. I have other things to worry about.

And this whole "nice guy" act by you, I'm not buying. You're just trying to save your online rep.

Say what you want about me, but I'm not trying to impress other guys on a pick-up board. I'm done here.

You don't get laid, because you're an annoying idiot, who, rather than accept the advice he asked for, comes up with these inane conspiracy theories to disprove and slander the people he asked for help in the first place. You have zero to offer to women, but instead of improving, you try to devalue them. You say you'd approach a beautiful woman if you saw her, but you wouldn't. You'd chicken out and invent something that might be wrong with her so you wouldn't have to approach. You're still very much in the matrix, namely in the one you created to protect your false self. You're a friggin' moron and sooner or later it's all going to blow up in your face.

 

[Htienvu]

Not knowing is more fun for me, but more heartache. I miss those feelings of getting excited/infatuated with a new girl, with my current gf, I had it for 1 week and it was gone. After that everything seems like a formality, the girl before her I had those feelings for over a month.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Really?!
When i was in my AFC days I was fat, subservent, a wimp, and absolutely awful with women to the point where I'd lay in bed crying about some girl that couldn't care less about me.
Now I'm in great shape, practice martial arts, very confident and am good with meeting and pulling girls- relationships still seem to elude me currently, but given my previous experiences in that area I'm not too fussed.
I can happily say that a combination of this website and some friends I met have sorted me out in so many ways, never do I want to return to those dark days!

 

[Chamber36]

Watch this!

Dr. Paul Dobransky will teach you how to "mother" yourself.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You don't get laid, because you're an annoying idiot, who, rather than accept the advice he asked for, comes up with these inane conspiracy theories to disprove and slander the people he asked for help in the first place. You have zero to offer to women, but instead of improving, you try to devalue them. You say you'd approach a beautiful woman if you saw her, but you wouldn't. You'd chicken out and invent something that might be wrong with her so you wouldn't have to approach. You're still very much in the matrix, namely in the one you created to protect your false self. You're a friggin' moron and sooner or later it's all going to blow up in your face.

+1! This dude's issues run way deeper than these little rants I'm use to seeing from him everyday.

OP you have no idea how attraction works, you haven't figured out what your strengthens are, you haven't gone out there and made a consistent effort for any prolonged period of time.

But yet your on this board seemingly 24/7 making posts and theorizing about why you can't get laid.

The disrespect you spew here is analogous with your character and its crystal clear to me and everyone else who has tried to help you why you will never get any action with your current mindset.

The only thing I agree with you on is for you to take a break from this place. This board should be more like a guideline, a study guide for you to learn some new techniques, go out and apply them for some time and see if its working for you. If it is, great; if it isn't then come back here and discuss where you might be going wrong or ditch it all together.

Nothing is cookie cutter; what works for me, probably won't work for another dude. Learn to be open to learning....

Ironically, you are desperate for a woman to open her legs for you, when what really needs to happen is for you to open your mind.








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[bigneil]

Rather than accept the advice he asked for, comes up with these inane conspiracy theories to disprove and slander the people he asked for help in the first place.

This seems to sum it up. If the truth hurts, he shoots the messenger.

 

[dws25]

Anyone can gang up on someone and disguise it as advice. The OP admitted that he had problems, that's more than most of the rest of the board can say.

Any wimp can go behind a message board and bully someone and convince his online friends say the things he is too wimpy to say himself.

Big men behind a computer calling someone names and ganging up on someone.

The same guys playing WOW and on a "pick up theory" message board in their mom's basements.

If you guys were "sosuave" you wouldn't be on sosuave, you'd be out on a date.

 

[floydb25]

Y'know, I think the OP is still living in a matrix. He just went from one extreme (idealization) to the next (contempt). All because his expectations weren't met, and not everything is as perfect as he imagined. As well, instead of placing women on a pedestal - he's placing sex on a pedestal. For the same reasons. Women were the best thing ever; now they're only good for sex. The core issues, as we discussed in another thread, are still very much intact. Not everyone is perfect or worthless, OP. Eliminate the black & white thinking, or you're gonna be miserable for a very long time.

Women aren't these glorious creatures you made them out to be. That's all. They are normal human beings. They are going to be flawed, cause problems, make mistakes and bad decisions, get on your nerves, etc. They're nothing special. Just like all of us. You realize this, but you don't accept it - or them. Instead, you hate them for being normal, and not perfect. They can't live up to the pedestal you've placed them on - because its not reality. You are never going to find a perfect girl, which we also discussed elsewhere.

As well, men and women are different. There IS going to be conflict. You aren't going to get along with them like you do with guy friends. That's why they're called relationships and friendships. They're meant to be different. A woman is NOT going to be your all in one package, and live up to this perfect fairytale you have going on. This doesn't make them worthless.

You don't seem to accept that not everything in life is perfect, and hold a grudge against it because of this fact. This isn't healthy or realistic at all. Yeah, you may have been infatuated and had your head up in the clouds. It was all a fantasy you've built about someone in your head. IT WAS NEVER REAL. Everyone is normal and flawed. That is reality. They're not worthless because they're not perfect - as you wanted them to be. They're human beings like you and I.

How many people are really all that great? Yeah, not many. Like you say, you don't care as much with men - because you don't develop any kind of feelings for them. But with women, you notice it a lot more - due to your involvement with them. That's the point. They're just like everybody else. You just don't see it because you're stuck in fantasyland. Women are people, too. Many of them are no good - just like men.

It's much better to realize and ACCEPT reality than live in a fantasy world. I'd never want to go back, because its pointless, and you'd just keep repeating the same mistakes over and over - because you wouldn't know any better. Remember: not knowing is different from things being different. You want your fantasy to be reality, and that's just not going to happen. So, snap out of it, and accept the reality you and I all have to deal with - because its not going away. And honestly, would you really NOT want to know the true nature of people? That's great knowledge, and life is all about learning and evolving. Otherwise, you'd just be a naive chump for the rest of your life, and never succeed - because, while you have your head up your ass - everyone else will be way ahead of the game. That's why you learn and become better over time. You HAVE to get hurt, betrayed, backstabbed, deceived, heart-broken. It's the major kick in the ass to steer you in the right direction, and focus on reality. Otherwise, you'd never learn, change, or succeed. God is no fool.

Seems to me like you just want to stick with the status quo - instead of working to improve and adapt with the newfound knowledge you have. You don't like it, so you don't do it.

 

[floydb25]

This whole idea actually reminds me of the Tupac song "Changes". Especially the part where he says, "I love to go back to when we used to play as kids; but hey, things change... That's the way it is.

That's just the way it is.
Things will never be the same.
That's just the way it is.
Oh, yeah..."

That's the way life is, so deal with it. You have to. We're not young kids playing, pedestalizing women, and dealing with no problems. Time's change as you get older, so you best change with them.

 

[AlexDP]

Anyone can gang up on someone and disguise it as advice. The OP admitted that he had problems, that's more than most of the rest of the board can say.

Any wimp can go behind a message board and bully someone and convince his online friends say the things he is too wimpy to say himself.

Big men behind a computer calling someone names and ganging up on someone.

The same guys playing WOW and on a "pick up theory" message board in their mom's basements.

If you guys were "sosuave" you wouldn't be on sosuave, you'd be out on a date.

And you just randomly saw how awful we were and decided to register, just so you could protect your friend?

 

[floydb25]

And you just randomly saw how awful we were and decided to register, just so you could protect your friend?

Ha. Good catch. That name is suspect, though. Almost too similar to the OP's. Maybe it's the same person, and he's just crazy. This might be his new persona, which he uses to defend the old one. :crazy:

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

You still here man? Didn't we already get over this in your other thread? Christ!

 

[JohnChops]

You need to focus your energy elsewhere like at the gym so you can relax. You seem like a huge ball if stress because you can't get laid. And your making it seem like getting laid is a job or a big deal but really getting laid shouldn't be some external source of happiness just be happy and relaxed on your own. Happiness is the ultimate high for a women when they see a guy having fun they will instantly think your that much sexier. So relax man!:rock: