I was tagged in a terribad picture of me on Facebook. What's the damage done?

[1-2]

So I've been seeing this chick for a little over a month now. I'd give her an 8.5-9, and so far she is showing the potential to be LTR material.

I'm doing everything right, I know she's digging me, attracted to me, all that, and then a "friend" goes and tags me in an ugly ass picture from about 3 years ago when I was +30 pounds from where I am now.

I look bad, fat, overall it's just a terrible picture. I've DJ'd myself up since then, gotten into good shape, and I'm looking good. Problem is, this is still the early stages, and something like that could be an interest killer.

I'm 90% sure she saw the picture before I untagged it because I hadn't signed in for a long time. So, what do you think I should do? Do you think this has the potential to lower her interest?

I'm not freaking out, but I'm pretty pissed at the stupid trick that tagged me, and wishing I had signed in sooner. Sonofa*****.

 

[Armored]

So Do you think this has the potential to lower her interest?

If shes interested, no.

And if it DID, would you want to be with a chick like that?

 

[1-2]

If shes interested, no.

And if it DID, would you want to be with a chick like that?

The thought that pops into my mind is whether or not it would kill interest on my part if our roles were reversed. For me, I'd still see her, but it definitely wouldn't improve things in my mind.

Now I'd be thinking, "Has she had weight issues in the past? Does she struggle with keeping in shape? What will she look like a few years down the road if she doesn't exercise like she does now?"

Not trying to sound shallow, but these are things that go through my mind. Whether women think similarly in this regard, I couldn't say, and that's what concerns me.

 

[donif871]

no problem whatsoever, she sees you in real world right??..

 

[WC2]

The real question isn't what SHE is like but what you are wanting to be.

Judging by your post, you're considerably insecure about yourself at the moment. Do you want to be like this all your life? Caring what others think about your past?

A secure man who's sure of himself wouldn't care about his past, even if he was 100lbs heavier than he is now. If anything, he'd find humor out of it.

Don't be so serious and humor yourself. Who cares if your girl saw an old picture of you. Are you going to hide things forever? Do you not have the balls to reveal this to her?

Lastly, are you going to let an online social tool ruin your life? Facebook is not life. This is the thought process of gossiping women, not confident men.

A lot of questions you should be asking yourself, not us.

 

[ohsnap]

The thought that pops into my mind is whether or not it would kill interest on my part if our roles were reversed. For me, I'd still see her, but it definitely wouldn't improve things in my mind.

Now I'd be thinking, "Has she had weight issues in the past? Does she struggle with keeping in shape? What will she look like a few years down the road if she doesn't exercise like she does now?"

seriously? so you've known her just over a month and you'd already be worried about her having weight issues years down the line? who cares.. bang her and have fun. i'm sure she's not worrying about it.

 

[Armored]

I smell a lot of oneitis with 1-2.

Just chill out man, and honestly - respect yourself much more than you are now. Studies show that 1 in 2 people has a vagina. So don't get caught up on details, ENJOY yourself.

 

[lil hooligan]

think of it this way, if you know you look really bad in that photo, she will know that you have worked towards what you want and may well like you more if she knows you did something about it

But whatever im a noob here anyway

 

[1-2]

Cool, thanks for the input fellas.

Oneitis, yeah there's probably a little big more of this going on at the moment than I care to admit. The fact that I even created this thread is a good indicator of that I'd say.

F*ck it. If the subject of the picture comes up, which I'd have no idea why it would, I'm just gonna laugh it off. It's in the past, I saw her a couple days ago and she was all over my sh*t, I don't know why I'm sweating it.

I'm gonna go workout.

 

[HeMan]

unless its the photo of you snorting charlie at your works chrsitmas party and your boss in a friend on facebook, you will be ok