I was about to set up a date this friday and her text turned me off

[WP0469]

I was planning on meeting this girl after work on friday and suggested 2 different areas. One was Starbucks and the other was place u can get pizza and sandwiches from called Cosi's. Then she sends this text

"I guess I will choose cosi since u r not taking me to a real restaurant"

I didn't reply to that because there is no way I can meet her now. I don't usually treat women to restaurants the first time because I wanna be sure we click. I am in no position to be treating someone to dinner the first time and may not see them again. The restaurant always came after date number one. So she doesn't know it but she blew it like that. Oh, well.

 

[PapiChulo]

she is testing to see if you are a chump.

 

[DragonBlood]

"Ok see you a 7"

Just go with it bro, she did choose the place after all. You can make fun of her on the date.

I cant see being reactive/accommodating over text leading to anything positive.

 

[Uncharted]

She's just trying to get you to take her somewhere else, or get a reaction out of you.

Disregard and take her to Cosi. Go in with a good mood - don't disqualify her already. If she brings up the "real restaurant" thing again just tease her.

Worst case you have a bad date and a story to tell friends.

Best case you hook up.

 

[WP0469]

She's just trying to get you to take her somewhere else, or get a reaction out of you.

Disregard and take her to Cosi. Go in with a good mood - don't disqualify her already. If she brings up the "real restaurant" thing again just tease her.

Worst case you have a bad date and a story to tell friends.

Best case you hook up.

Hmmm....so I should still go ahead with the date? I don't know, it sounded disrespectful but okay. I guess I'll just text her "Okay". That way she doesn't get a reaction out of me and I'm not phased by her text.

 

[Yewki]

I agree that is disrespectful and should be taken as a red flag, doesn't sound like she has high interest. I think you should respond with something silly showing her you're not phased and give her another chance, but if she gives more attitude just flake on her.

Based on how she responded she doesn't seem like a very fun or interesting person to be around. I would be turned off also if I was you.

 

[GotED?]

Sounds like another 18-25 yr old kiddie thread.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If she's being a b!tch, there's not much left to care about, right? So just fvck with her right back for your own entertainment. You have nothing to lose, either she turns her attitude around or she goes away. It's a win-win scenario.

You could tell her "I told those Cosi people what you said about them not being a real restaurant, and they are p!ssed! We had better not go there. You shouldn't go there either, by the way, they were really really mad."

If she can have a sense of humor about herself, then she might be worth buying some cheap food for. It's as good of a screening mechanism as a starbucks date anyway.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Dude, Save Your Money and Tell Her to Give You Some P*ssy.

Hmmm....so I should still go ahead with the date? I don't know, it sounded disrespectful but okay. I guess I'll just text her "Okay". That way she doesn't get a reaction out of me and I'm not phased by her text.

Dude, f*ck this rude a$$, trifilin', low budget a$$ hoe, both literally and figuratively. She's implicitly saying not where you should spend your money, but HOW MUCH money you should spend on her punk a$$. If the first few dates are suppose to be about "getting to know a person," then why does the venue where the rapport and comfort building matter? It seems to me this hungry and cheap a$$ hoe wants you to buy her a meal that she either can't afford or won't buy for herself. Then the b*tch has nerve to attempt to brow beat you into doing so. You need to confirm that you're getting some p*ssy from this rude a$$ b*tch before you take her out.

 

[buzzin_frog]

You are breaking your own rules for a chick that you don't even know.....you should never do that!!

Why are you treating her to a pizza dinner when this chick may not even put out?

You may never see her again....so why do that?

You can take the text either way, as being disrespectful or playfully sarcastic

You seemed pretty steadfast in not taking her out.....then a handful of posters easily swayed you into going out with her....don't let other people easily influence your decisions, because you will end up making bad decisions with women!!

Never give these chicks A or B options in the first place.....you should tell them where you want to meet them and at what time

When you start giving them options, they will always take the better one and you end up paying more than you should

When you give the woman the option to choose, you are essentially handing everything over to her......it then becomes her date because she gets to decide where it's going to be.....it is no longer your date...it becomes her date, while you are going along for the ride....you are accommodating her and she knows that....which gives her carte blanche to treat you as a guy of lesser value.....and she will do that....which is why she made a crack about your option of choice

Always go on the cheap, because it doesn't matter what you are doing on the date....Locations and venues don't matter....as long as there is interest and attraction on her part, you have a great shot at getting laid, which is your intended goal

Not sure why posters would advise you to go out on a sh!tty date.....that is just a waste of your time and money....that doesn't make sense to me

Never treat a chick by using your hard earned money when she doesn't deserve it.....this chick doesn't deserve it....and you are foolish if you treat her to a pizza dinner

You should be spending the least amount of time, effort, and money on these chicks....when you break your own rules and do more than you need to.... you will get burned!!

Actually, you are phased by the text and she already one upped you....now you want to go to a place where she made a crack?....you are putting yourself in a bad spot by doing that.....pretending to be indifferent or being "a prize" doesn't work....chicks will see right through your facade when you slip up

I would text her back and say "Ok, change of plans...meet me at Starbucks at whatever time"

Then if she gives you sh!t for that, then you just screened her out and saved your time

You're not going to get any better results by going to the pizza place over starbucks.....instead of a free coffee, she will get a free pizza instead, while one upping you in the process.

I would never give a chick an option for a date.....and I certainly wouldn't go to a place where she had a choice to go and made a crack about where she was going....sarcastic or not....she will have the higher value over you!!

Personally, I wouldn't go out with this chick myself......but if you decide to go anyway, then take her to starbucks......doesn't sound like you will be getting any action with her from that remark

In fact, I would just flake on her and call up another chick and go out....then you can gauge any possible interest on her part after that.....sure beats going out on a sh!tty date doesn't it?

Always play by your rules.....don't break them for any chick.....you will get burned....don't give them options....and don't be easily swayed by others!!

Stick to your own game and beliefs.....you will have better success that way

 

[pdx1138]

is she from Russia?

 

[Die Hard]

Don't act serious with women, lol. Especially when they try to shame you! I'd just reply:

"Sorry about that, but I always get thrown out of real restaurants coz I burp and eat like a pig "

Hopefully, she gives up her shaming attempt, starts to laugh about your response and the convo will turn fun and joking. If she continues with her entitled behavior, just make fun of her remarks and show her that you really don't care about her opinions.
Like, she might respond negatively, telling you she finds that disgusting and is now doubting if she should even meet up with you AT ALL... You just respond with something like:

"I know it's a bad trait but don't hold it against me, it's just my animal nature. But I also act like an animal during sex, that's the positive side of it "

Just keep up this attitude indefinitely, no matter what. It's just like playing chicken, who caves first? Even if she tells you she lost all interest to you, just keep it up and say: "Lol, okay bye!" and stay silent until she texts you again. If she likes you, she will eventually give up her foolishness, start laughing about your remarks and the conversation will get a positive mood. If she doesn't then it means she truly is a boring, annoying, stupid CVNT and you don't want to be with one of those anyway, so to hell with her, NEXT!!

Just keep acting playful, keep being ****y&funny, don't give any serious answer, don't take any of her remarks seriously but treat her like she's a child.
Think of a father doing groceries with his 10 year old daughter. The daughter wants to have some expensive product from the store and expects daddy to buy it for her. Of course he's not gonna buy it for her and he doesn't take her ridiculous request seriously. He just calmly deflects her constant demands to buy it for her and keeps putting the neccesary products in his shopping basket in the meanwhile. Then he pays the cashier and tells the child to come with him to the car. She might make a stand and tell him she won't come with him unless she gets what she wants. So daddy just tells her "Okay, you stay here then" and calmly walks to his car.
The little girl will panic, thinking daddy will leave her behind and she won't be able to get home, so she starts crying and runs after daddy as fast as she can "No daddy, don't leave me behind, I don't need that thing anymore! Just take me with you!"

As he hears his daughter catching up behind him, daddy just smiles to himself and opens the car door...

 

[Harry Wilmington]

She's giving you attitude before you even take her out on the first date? No bueno. She did you a favor - don't go on the date, don't waste your money. First dates are where you're supposed to get the BEST impression of a person - it only goes downhill from there. So, if she's showing this side of her already... I'm telling you, I've dealt with girls like this where I didn't listen to my gut and ignored the red flags... it doesn't get better. Hit her back with some excuse - "oh, something came up, we'll have to reschedule" - then throw the number away. Some p*ssy just isn't worth capturing.

 

[BeDJ]

I guess I will choose cosi since u r not taking me to a real restaurant
Chill, I haven't seen you topless yet.

If she replies like a prude, it's not a sh!t test. She thinks she is hot sh!t and those legs aren't opening this winter. It will save you a lot of time and effort if she is pulling this crap before you even meet.

If she plays along, you can play off it during the date.

Win - win.

 

[skinnyguy]

Drop her like a bad habit these chicks are toxic

 

[CrimsonPanther]

i had scenarios like this. they turned out usually like this:
i accept it and i go pick her up. no drama, no powergames. on the way i stop and escalate (kiss, more)
1. if she was into it, and reciprocate, i went forward, ate dinner, had sex afterwards
2. she didn't => she wouldn't even after that, i usually said to her: "so you don't even like me, just wanted a free meal, right?" mostly they acted defensive and tried to make me look like an as.shole. i told them to get out of the car i am not a charity. there was however a case when she told me it's just too fast, so i went with it. in the end i saw she wouldn't put out anyway, and i did get to fk her eventually, but meh.
the result even in success cases was pump and dump because of the initial attitude.

 

[WP0469]

in fairness, Cosi is fvkcing terrible.

I just like first dates to be a little meet and greet. Something casual so I can get a feel for the person. I generally reserve more fancy stuff for second and third dates.

I still haven't replied to her text yet but I got a message from her this morning.

Her: i'm really sorry about my text yesterday. cosi is fine

I'm still not sure if I want to go though. I think I'll just ignore her and go out with some other girls instead.

 

[JohnnyStorm]

Adnan, is that you?

Nah...but seriously there is the possibility to have a laugh with this....
No idea what Cosi's is, but how about when you get there, pull her chair out for her, ask to see their wine menu, place a napkin on your lap and make out that it's the finest of haute cuisine. Recommend a dish for her, "I've read in Zagat 2014 that they make the best chicken kiev in the city"....I imagine she barely has two brain cells, so see how long you can keep it going before she works out that you are indeed taking the piss.

 

[thelastmanonearth]

Wear a tuxedo and embarrass the hell out of her with a big ass bowtie as well.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I have a go to in situations like this (this works better in person but works in text too):

Her: I guess I will choose cosi since u r not taking me to a real restaurant
Me: Maybe we go to Rite Aid (pharmacy) instead...
Her: Rite Aid?
Me: Yeah, to buy you a box of tissues you big baby.


I've reversed girls whole attitude with this. One in particular was complaining she was going to have to walk a mile because I wasn't going to cruise around a parking lot looking for a good spot like she wanted.... She literally had the biggest smile I'd ever seen on her face after I used the above on her.... Like "sh!t, you've just completely ripped off the spoiled brat mask I was trying to wear." Rest of the night was golden.

Most of the time - that kind of attitude isn't authentic; it's just how women are used to getting their way....

Don't give it to them and - see how quickly the fog dissolves.... (note: if it doesn't ever dissolve - eject asap)