"i want to wait till we are married"

[pvf94]

Short and simple.

Girl I have been dating for about 4 1/2 months or so will give me head and let me give her head. See each other naked...take showers together and so on...but everytime sex comes up she wants to wait until we are married. yea yea I know afc to hang in there but she is ltr material and it is what I am looking for. I have had my share of woman and this one peeks my interest and has kept me interested for 4 or 5 months now and she is very loyal and upfront.

Who knows if marriage is in the future...she says I love you and all that. She does I can tell, I return it but I think she is a bit more into it then I am.

How can I bring down this barrier? She is not religious in her no sex before marriage issue....she says "it will be better if we wait, can you imagine our honeymoon?" stuff along those lines. Personally I think its a ploy to keep me around chasing her sweet bottom and a way to lure me into marriage.

She isn't a virgin and has not had sex in nearly a year. She said she said the same thing to her last bf....which was her only other real boyfriend. They did not have sex until about 6 months into the relationship they had going and they dated for 1 year and 4 months.


Tonight I told her that if we were to get married it won't be soon and that I feel as if I am wasting my youth by just waiting...she cried the rest of the night over it. She said she feels bad because I said I feel like I am wasting my youth. She will call in a bit and im sure that will be a good portion of our convo....

I dunno, I just want to know how to break her down and get her to just gimme some loving...without having to be manipulative with stuff like "prove you love me and fvck me".


Any thoughts fella's?? Or am I doomed with wait it out or move on.....which would be a shame she really is the bomb in many many ways....just if we could get the sex going id be perfectly happy.


It feels like my only option is to act like im gonna pick up and leave if she doesn't give it up soon. But thats some hard dealing considering I really don't wanna go anywhere..

Discuss!

 

[( . )( . )]

she says "it will be better if we wait, can you imagine our honeymoon?"

She better be able to back that up, I'm talking a cvnt that leaks beer and titties that taste like cheese and crackers and maybe whistle a nice tune......Get the fvck outta here.

Girl I have been dating for about 4 1/2 months

I dont know whats more sad, this b!tch's delusions of grandeur and outdated ruse to use her puzzy as bait or that you have been with her for 4 and a half months.

What a pack of losers.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

dude really its your choice imo. Nothing wrong with waiting to be married so you gotta decide which is more important to you, sex or this chick... DJ crap out the window

 

[DJDamage]

When you are dating you are supposed to have sex. If you are not getting sex from her then you should be dating someone else instead of hanging on to her like she is the last woman on earth.

 

[OrangeCrusader]

I don't personally believe you can love ANYONE or plan the rest of your life with them after 4.5 short months. High school mentality is great, in theory.

From my own AFC experiences, get out asap.

 

[Lincoln]

I wonder if she had a bad experience or something? That is kinda strange, mostly in this day and time.

IDK, I could live off *******s if she was good at them lol. If you are already doing everything else what is the hang up with penetration? Seriously, thats like doing opium and saying "Nah heroine is some bad sh*t" doesn't make sense.

LOYAL LTR material is hard to find these days, so realize that and let it weigh heavy on you before you blow it.

I'd honestly just explain to her that sex is part of a healthy relationship and not something that she is supposed to hold over your head so she can manipulate you.

Sounds like a big tease to me, but idk maybe she thinks if she holds out she can get hitched sooner. Like it or not after we men sleep with a woman the relationship changes and never in my experience has it been something that makes it easier.

Good luck and keep us updated

 

[amoka]

Why dont you tell her of your life philosophy?- " I wont marry a woman I never have sex with." If you want to have sex with her badly.

 

[schttrj]

something I would like to say,

in some cultures, it is more prevalent that when you are seeing someone, it is normal to have sex with him/her. but in others, sex is considered to be the last and a very important part of the dating game. also, some girls are shy and want you forcefully get her, while others just want some time, whiel still others want to play with you when they have sex with other guys, some girls also fear it, some girls are insecure, some girls are already experienced and wants something seriuos and tehy have seen that guys have sex with girl and then ditch her.....

so many things are involved here, man.

try to read into her and the situation properly and then decide what you would do. and like the wolf said, you should also think which is more important: sex or girl?

my advice, if you want to get laid as much as possible, then next her and go for others. there are lot more out there.

if you want her as a person as well, try to understand her. it will do you good.

 

[Corona]

Girl I have been dating for about 4 1/2 months
They did not have sex until about 6 months into the relationship

Wait another month and a half.

 

[MrS]

She's not a virgin... so what's she waiting for?
That sounds strange.

 

[Mistic]

You could have just posted this in my "You know she's got issues when . . ." thread. I wouldn't be surprised (no offense) if she is banging some other guy. Some prick guy she would never want to marry. Propose anal sex in the mean time. Start fvcking another girl on the side (she only said you have to wait for eachother - might as well enjoy yourself in the mean time) Or any other wholesome option.

Bottom line, it is frikin ridiculous to get married before sex. What if she sucks, a dead fvck. Maybe that's why she wants to wait.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

Is she a virgin? and or is she religious?

If she had sex with her previous bfs, I think its unfair on you that you have to wait till marraige.

If shes religious, and wants to wait till marraige, again its unfair, because she will do everything except put a d!ck in her cvnt, just so she can say that she stayed 'pure' or did not commit fornification. 

I was just read Ian Fleming's 'From Russia With Love'. In the book, James Bond himself says that the way to find out if a women loves you is in bed. I guess its a 50/50 call.

 

[Warrior74]

my buddy is going thru this. BUT! he had a team of other women to keep him satisfied. Now his team had dissolved and he's still waiting for his main girl to give it up. it's been about 6 months and she's exactly the same, head but nothing else until marriage. I told him its the marriage trap, he's 35 she's 28.

 

[Brandonc662]

She isn't a virgin and has not had sex in nearly a year. She said she said the same thing to her last bf....which was her only other real boyfriend. They did not have sex until about 6 months into the relationship they had going and they dated for 1 year and 4 months.


_________________________________________________________ When I was younger this happened to me. Luckily, a friend put it in prospective by saying "Thats like opening a jar of mayo eating out of it a time or 2 and then putting it back in the fridge for a couple of years, it dosent add up." The analogy put it in prospective for me and i got out of there

 

[FireOnTheMountain]

Tell her, 'you're still dead if you don't have a funeral'.

 

[pvf94]

Tell her, 'you're still dead if you don't have a funeral'.

I laughed pretty hard at that. haha, clever.

After talking to her more about it, turns out she is just extremely paranoid about having a kid because her best friend just had a kid not too long ago because the condom broke or whatever.

She said she knows she wont make it till marriage and that as soon as she can get on birth control without asking anybody for help and embarrassing herself we will do it....

But tonight I was eating her out and she started saying that we will probably end up doing it soon and that its a bad idea but yadayadayada...haha Im flippin the cards in my favor slowly but surely.

Shes gettin really good at head though....

=P

 

[Centaurion]

Read this. It's from Eddie Murphy raw. It explains everything!!!!

THE P*SSYTRAP!

The most common trap is to not give you any.

This is what is going on inside your house every night :

"Baby, come on, now, please."
She go, "No, stop it. Stop it. Stop."

"Baby, come on. Would you stop?"
"Oh, stop. Can we please stop?

"Are we gonna go too far?"
"I want it to go too far. Come on now, baby."

"We could... Stop. I just don't think the time is right."
"Well, my d!ck don't get much harder than this. I been waiting three months. What's the problem?"

"I don't wanna ****. I wanna make love, I've had too many relationships that
didn't work out. You're special to me. I know all the girls do everything
that you want. And I don't wanna go through... Why are you doing this...?"

And men see those tears and we be, "OK. "We don't have to do nothing."


Then you go out and your friends be, "Yo, man, you **** her yet?"

"No."

"Why not?"

"She's special. She said she don't wanna ****, she wanna make love."


Which is bull****. I mean, ****ing and making love, let's be real. I mean, the physical act... I like to **** somebody I'm in love with. But I ain't making love to nobody.

They'll tell you, "I don't wanna ****, I wanna make love."


And they make you wait. And you wait and wait and wait and wait. And you just keep on waiting, you just wait and finally she gives you some.


And it's the best you ever had in your life. You come harder than you've ever came.

"This was it. This was the feeling I've been searching for. I finally made love."


You didn't make love. It just felt real good. You know why?


Because you waited five months for it.


If you're starving and somebody throw you a cracker, you gonna be like this:

"Goddamn, that's the best cracker I ever ate in my life!"

"That ain't no regular cracker, was it? What was that, a Saltine?

"Goddamn, that was delicious."

"That wasn't no Saltine. That was... That was a Ritz. That wasn't a Ritz?"

"God, that was the best cracker I ever ate in my life."

"Can I have another one, please? Please, one more."

 

[bigjohnson]

She's not a virgin so she'll screw other guy but not you. Unless she has some damn good reason (you already discounted religion) then this is a red flag. I'm spinning a young virgin plate now that is dead serious about no sex before "love", possibly marriage but in her I can respect it since it's clearly a consistently held belief.

She's a Catholic who is serious about her 'virtue'.

If she's already had sex, and is blowing you, it's just a stupid game.

.... Shes gettin really good at head though....

Well that might be good training for later. Work in some anal now and maybe she's LTR material after all ....

(This is a joke kids, don't try it at home)

 

[pvf94]

She's not a virgin so she'll screw other guy but not you. Unless she has some damn good reason (you already discounted religion) then this is a red flag. I'm spinning a young virgin plate now that is dead serious about no sex before "love", possibly marriage but in her I can respect it since it's clearly a consistently held belief.

She's a Catholic who is serious about her 'virtue'.

If she's already had sex, and is blowing you, it's just a stupid game.




Well that might be good training for later. Work in some anal now and maybe she's LTR material after all ....

(This is a joke kids, don't try it at home)

She said she will do anal

And she is just super paranoid about getting pregnant so I either get her hot and bothered enough to let me fvck her or she said birth control and we can have as much fun as we want.

But she doesnt know how to go about getting birth control for herself without her mommy....she's 19.

AFter she cried on the phone about it for 30 minutes thats what came out...."I know I can't make it to marriage" she said.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

She said she will do anal.

Sweet Mother Mary!

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

When a woman makes you wait for sex you are not her highest priority. Sexuality is spontaneous, chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to ƒuck you will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, ƒuck you like a porn star and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife/GF comes home early from work - women who want to ƒuck will find a way to ƒuck. The girl who tells you she wants a relationship first or "just isn't comfortable with you yet" is the same girl who ƒucked the "totally hot guy" in the foam cannon party in Cancun with her girlfriends on spring break half an hour after meeting him.

If a girl is that into you she'll ƒuck regardless of ASD or having her friends in the room videotaping it at a frat party. All women can be sexual, you just have to be the right guy to bring it out in them, and this happens before you go back to her place. If you have to plead your case cuddling and spooning on the bed or getting the occasional peck on the cheek, you need to go back to square one and start fresh.