I want to just go "off the deep end"

[tsmith2334]

Hey everyone... a little background, I have had a small amount of success with women in my life but nothing notable. I tend to attract women (lots of 7's and 8's, the occasional 9) only to watch things fizzle within a couple weeks. # Closes, Body language, Eye contact all strong for a few weeks until things fade away.

It feels like I've peaked, as I really haven't had much action with women in 2-3 years.

I'm considered to be pretty funny (I have a bizzare sense of humor but I've perfected it), smart, easygoing, friendly, nice, random, and possibly a little unstable (I've had issues in the past that aren't really prevalent anymore).

Anyway, I'm thinking about essentially just saying "fukk it" and turning everything up a notch. Basically becoming more unpredictable and eccentric. Of course, still socially-inclined (as opposed to being awkard or dressing like an idiot), just mentally different. Reading more and expanding my stance on issues (which will most likely go against the grain), ignoring most mainstream entertainment (which I pretty much do already), fearlessly making bizzare jokes, and just forming into a person that most people would think of as "different". This would mostly be reflected in personal profiles and deep conversations, I wouldn't push anything on anyone. And I wouldn't act fake in anyway, just not give a damn.

Now obviously I'm going to do what I want regardless of otther people's perception, but my question is, how will this affect my relationships with women? I assume this will turn off most women? I have a lot going for me (good looks, getting a degree, confidence, etc), I just don't want to be laughed at or to be considered undatable. Being myself didn't work, but being completely different might not work either.

What has worked for you guys?

 

[osu13]

being fun and interesting..... I always do things and go places. One time i Won a large Poker tournament and flew to Florida for one day to go to the beach and for some reason women find this fascinating? just be fun and never be negative

 

[tsmith2334]

being fun and interesting..... I always do things and go places. One time i Won a large Poker tournament and flew to Florida for one day to go to the beach and for some reason women find this fascinating? just be fun and never be negative

Hey, solid advice. I don't just want to be different for the sake of being different. I want to be kinda crazy, and reflect my true personality... unleased if you will.

I've heard women like unpredictabilty...

 

[Dongfu]

I've heard women like unpredictabilty...

Everyone likes unpredictability. Once you reach a comfortable rut with a woman, she will go searching for more dynamic d!ck. Always keep her surprised and guessing. A good way to start is to see her less often. Make plans, cancel last minute, then show up at her door unannounced, walk her back to the bedroom and fvck the sh!t out of her. Then leave without saying much.

 

[tsmith2334]

Everyone likes unpredictability. Once you reach a comfortable rut with a woman, she will go searching for more dynamic d!ck. Always keep her surprised and guessing. A good way to start is to see her less often. Make plans, cancel last minute, then show up at her door unannounced, walk her back to the bedroom and fvck the sh!t out of her. Then leave without saying much.

Solid

 

[Technical1]

You already sound like a really interesting person, like it would be fun to know you in real life... so if you do this...

Anyway, I'm thinking about essentially just saying "fukk it" and turning everything up a notch. Basically becoming more unpredictable and eccentric. Of course, still socially-inclined (as opposed to being awkard or dressing like an idiot), just mentally different. Reading more and expanding my stance on issues (which will most likely go against the grain), ignoring most mainstream entertainment (which I pretty much do already), fearlessly making bizzare jokes, and just forming into a person that most people would think of as "different". This would mostly be reflected in personal profiles and deep conversations, I wouldn't push anything on anyone. And I wouldn't act fake in anyway, just not give a damn.

...then that subset of the population that finds you interesting and cool and fascinating will find you all the more so, since you are showing this side that you obviously have but have chosen not to manifest.

Honestly, I love people like this, they brighten my life because even though I try to appreciate everyone, I actually tend to agree with Morrissey the fagg0t that "the world is full of crashing bores". Your description was too spot on for you not to know what you mean, so I'm sure its the real thing. It actually makes me sad because I dont really know any interesting people nowadays, though I used too. I hate being able to predict other people's reactions to things based on my mental models of their thinking, it feels sometimes like they might as well not even be there, since I already know what they are going to do or say.

Any behavior that increases your noticeability and gets you attention will lead to increased criticism, so there will be some parties turning up the heat on you as a result of this. I think you will be more loved and more hated.
My experience has also been that you will be treated more with awe (by some) and fascination, and that girls will fall in love with you more (all). I never got a bad response for being eccentric, even if the particular gesture was "bad" (i.e. against her taste), the attitude was always spot-on. They love the spontaneity, freedom and fearlessness of it.

What has worked for you guys?

I also have an inner eccentric that behaves the same way yours sounds like it does. In fact, I feel I almost could have written what you just did verbatim. I have always wondered about this.

Basically I've learned to repress most of my eccentricity and humor in order to present a level-headed, practical face to people. It brought advantages but on the whole it was a mistake. I recognize that by dampening this part of my personality I subtracted real value. On the other hand, it still comes out with the right people, and it always leaves people thinking about you. You can tell people think you are somehow special and different, but not in a condescending way. Beyond the respect I get at work as a result of my doings and professionalism, I know I get the extra respect factor from the fact that people feel they cannot really pin me down or be sure of what Im thinking.

But we are doing this backwards. We are contemplating being true to ourselves, IF and WHEN it pleases others. Best to let those people self-filter themselves out of your life, while you manifest exactly what you have within. Except at work, where professionalism is important.

PM me with your thoughts on how one actually does this: I also want to do this but fear it wont be as easy for me as just deciding to or flicking a switch.

 

[Drumstick]

People will love it. There are a few things to consider here.

First, you'd be congruent, which is a plus in every way. You are acting autonomously, which is the only way to go, really. This will benefit your confidence and, well, pretty much everything, including how people see you. There will be a few people telling you you are crazy, but you won't care if you are truely acting autonomously, but I think most people enjoy it.

Do what you want. Don't TRY to be anything. Just be. You should never change your actions to fit a mold in your head, but rather follow the actions you intuitively want to do. Don't develop opinions for the sake of opposing mainstream culture, just find aspects of culture(s) (mainstream or otherwise, whatever appeals to you) and love it, whether it is a common opinion or not.

 

[tsmith2334]

Do what you want. Don't TRY to be anything. Just be. You should never change your actions to fit a mold in your head, but rather follow the actions you intuitively want to do. Don't develop opinions for the sake of opposing mainstream culture, just find aspects of culture(s) (mainstream or otherwise, whatever appeals to you) and love it, whether it is a common opinion or not.

Hey, you're advice seems to be very on the money. I've also learned from the past, that the best way to go about this is to really only open when prompted to do so. No one wants an opinion or belief shoved down there throats, but if one is requested, there's no harm in in speaking your mind.

It's the equivalent to a skilled piano player who only performs in front of an audience when the time is appropriate.