I want my teacher part III (I'm sooooo close!!! Is this it???)

[Dee-Zy]

so to make a long story short ... I have a feeling she wants me too. She winks at me, get out of her way to grab my attention, often start conversations with me, long eye contact, ect ...

so anyways, here's what's hapening...

I need reference letters for my application at a university next year, but I don't know what is actually demanded yet SO!!! I approached her and asked if she can write me a letter. She asked me what do they look for and I said I didn't know, and since she won't be here next semester, I knew this will allow me to meet her again, hopefully put her in an environment where classes will be far removed from her mind.

so she offered her e-mail. That way I can reach her when I'll know the criteria and she can write me a letter that will be more customized. However, I did not take the e-mail, after I talked to her a little bit - I left.

I never had the chance to talk to her again so I sliped a note under her door saying:

Hi ***,

You agreed to write me a reference letter and offered me your e-mail but I just ... don't have ... it. ^_________^

So e-mail me at willluv4sex@******.com.

***

PS: Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

(Something like that, I forgot what I wrote exactly)

I received an e-mail from her:

Originally sent by Hot teacher
Hi ***,

Nice email address! Perv...

I got your note, just email me at this address when you need a reference letter.

Have a very Merry X-mas & even better new year!

***

so now, I'm not sure what to do. I REALLY wanna ask her out but this is not the time to be 'experimenting' this is a one of a lifetime opportunity for me so I REALLY can't mess this up.

I'm thinking of replying joking about the 'perv' issue, and then saying something in the lines of ...

"Why don't you be a 'REAL' woman and wish me 'very merry x-mas in person?"

or sumthin like that and try to arrange to see her before I leave for the states (25th)

Technically, I don't think she should be busy anymore cuz I think she's done corecting the finals. I just want to set up a date/metting up with her without scaring her off cuz I talked to my friend and he thinks that 'real woman' thing might scare her off.

so! What do you guys think? I feel so close, I don't wanna screw up. I did everything pretty well so far, now I don't know what to do anymore. I can't ask her out like any other chicks...

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Ask her if she would let you take her out to a cool, fun restaurant (where no one will recognize you) as a 'thank you' for all her help.

You could also ask her to meet you at or let you driver her to a fun happy hour place to say "thank you" (again, where no one will recognize you).

I think it is a very good idea to give her a legit reason why you want to meet, so that if anyone sees you both out together or if anyone finds out, she has the excuse that you're just friends.

Perhaps if she doesn't like those ideas, she'll counter with something.

My advice stems from myself being asked out by a coworker who I could have easily been fired for dating. She was underage too :/. Anyway, she said that we should go to the cat eye lounge (a bar) sometime and I said ok. She was able to go out the Thursday nite before good friday and we went to a cool restaurant instead. Here's the f-ed up part. Her English teacher sat at the same table as us (Japaneese food place where the food is cooked at the table). I kinda freaked out a bit and said we were going to sit somewhere else, but my girl wanted to stay. It was a way uncomfortable situation, but we had fun.

Just make sure no one sees you out!!



Good Luck!

 

[One on One]

I think you should e-mail her back and tell her the school is interested in well-rounded individuals (which is nearly always true), then tell her that she'd be able to write more intelligently on your character if she got to know you a bit outside of the classroom situation. Tell her you'd like to discuss various other topics with her over lunch. Sounds professional enough, yet you'll both know what's up so just see if she takes the bait.

 

[Dee-Zy]

thx. This helps

but you guys seem to not understand, it doesn't matter if we are seen together because she won't be there next semester. She won't be teaching at my college anymore.

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by Dee-Zy
thx. This helps

but you guys seem to not understand, it doesn't matter if we are seen together because she won't be there next semester. She won't be teaching at my college anymore.

Just be bold then, man. You will regret this so make it clear you want her. Nothing to lose.

 

[Dee-Zy]

that's the thing, I am in a dilemma, is being bold the way to go??? I usually don't adapt to women, I let them adapt to me, but this is not a situation where I can aloud this.

I'd rather work with different methods rather then to use one way. I mean, I have a 'feeling' that she is into me - but it might just be me. You know how people tend to see what they only want to see? That's why I'm not sure being bold is my best bet right now.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Originally posted by Dee-Zy
that's the thing, I am in a dilemma, is being bold the way to go??? I usually don't adapt to women, I let them adapt to me, but this is not a situation where I can aloud this.

I'd rather work with different methods rather then to use one way. I mean, I have a 'feeling' that she is into me - but it might just be me. You know how people tend to see what they only want to see? That's why I'm not sure being bold is my best bet right now.

Write her an email with some inuendo and suggestive comments/sentences but at the same time make it a valid schoolrelated mail and get her into a mailingsession where you get her to be bold herself and get less schoolrelated and more suggestive. If that works move it to what you want.

 

[D4H]

You do realize that the teachers job is to teach the students and make them feel comftorable and open about talking to them. Meaning... teachers are nice to everyone. And how old is she? How about u?

 

[Paradox]

First of all Dee-Zy, calm the hell down. Take some deep breaths and get your composure.

1) She either likes you or she doesn't.

2) She answered your e-mail the same way you sent it. You were all business. But she did add a joke about you being a 'perv' That was a point loss for you. She believes that you may be one. All she could do was joke about your e-mail address because she doesn't know you.

3) Her perv comment bothers me because she has put you in a DO NOT TOUCH catagory.

The approach: What's up with all of this e-mail stuff? I would say E-mail her and ask for her cell number but I think she thinks you are a perv. I would just go for it. Number close on her and try and run a trust pattern. This might repair the e-mail address damage.

Better yet you may want to try to give her a LJBF and continue to move in on her.

This is a hard one because you messed up with the e-mail address thing. Who knows maybe you raised her interest. Being called a perv by a woman---even in jest is bad news.

 

[Dee-Zy]

You're right, I was reluctant about giving my e-mail away because of the name but I just felt that I have developed a relationship that was comfortable enough.

'Will Love for Sex' is a joke. The way I saw it, she would get it because of what she already knows about me.

You can be right though... it could be a red flag.

The reason why I didn't ask for a number is because I thought that would scare even more, furthermore she offered her e-mail. I think it would of been too much to ask for her number instead.

This is why I am still relunctant in asking for her number now. I would only ask for it after I've seen her a few times.

D4H: I am fully aware of this, that is the reason why I am not taking this matter as I would with another girl. Part of me does feel that she is awfully close to me though and she isn't like that with anybody else. I don't know if it is true or if it is what I want to believe ... :\ I'm not sure of her exact age - but I'm guessing a 6-7 years gap ... There's just this 'thing' in her eyes. Sometimes you just have a gut feeling you know?

Para: I'm glad you answered, your 2cents has a lot of weight and with reason. Now my only question is why the number? I'm afraid that would be rushing it too much, thus leading into scaring her off.

The way I see it, I have develop a good relationship with her, comfortable enough for her to tell me about her family and her past but yet a little too distant for her warmth towards me.

 

[D4H]

Well I cant say anything, im going out with a 28 year old this weekend. 10 year old gap there.

 

[Dee-Zy]

Originally posted by D4H
Well I cant say anything, im going out with a 28 year old this weekend. 10 year old gap there.

damn! How did u go about this? Maybe you can help me out.

 

[The_Mole]

this teacher asian? and better looking teachers are usually nicer to their students


girl teachers that look normal (a woman that doesnt get dates, but normal looking) are the hard graders and strict

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Real men take charge, don't they?

Off course being BOLD is the only way to do it now. Didn't you post about her in another thread? Your job was to ask her out the last day; no time to be weak or wishy washy now.

Not the best medium to ask her out through email, but you don't have a lot to work with anymore, at least now. Send the email, she will either say yes, no, or not respond. It doesn't really matter. What matters is that you DO IT. You won't see her again, what's all teh hesitation for?

Women will RARELY, well, almost never, will make the move. It's the man's job, period. Specially if she's given you so many hints, etc. Each time you hesitate, and don't make your move, she begins to think what you fear. "Yeah, maybe he is too young, and doesn't know what's up." "I knew he wouldn't get the hints." Either way, you don't come across as the type of guy she wants to date; you know, the kind that takes charge.

E-mail her tonight/today, then post here as soon as you get a reply. I'm pulling for you man. DO IT! Give me her e-mail, I'll do it for you. No, I know you'll do it.

 

[D4H]

Well the thread that I made about meeting her was here: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=42261

I dont know wassup with this chick.. maybe she finds me really attractive and looks at me as some young meat... making for a good fvck. She clearly knows my intentions of going out. When i ended up calling her i asked her about a boyfriend and she said she didnt have one anymore.. and then i followed that up with her and i going out sometime during the winter break to have some 'fun' together. She said "yes, definitely, give me a call hun".

 

[Adam See]

About the perv thing, wouldn't bother myself about it, add some witty comment when you next talk/email her & use it to your advantage - don't apologise.