My girlfriend is being cold on me. I am really desperate to get her cravings for me back. I am constantly making efforts to see her. Whenever Im with her she's ok but i dont think that she misses me when I have to go home. Just like the old times. She's scaring me the way she answers in our conversation that she will leave me if I do a wrong thing. We just got off from infidelity. Almost a month now. She cheated on me for awhile, we broke up but she got back on me and she said that she realized, she cant live without me. I dont think she's back with cheating. I think she just wants to move on from that short lived relationship because she told me last night that she's not ready yet to pursue again our relationship. Last night I offered her that we should cool down first because she begins to lose interest again in me after she got me back and just call when we misses each other. At first, she said that "what if it wont work out after that" and I said, "it would be fine, I wont insist myself if you dont want me again" then after that she quickly changed the topic then the next few replies is with slight enthusiasm. I dont really know what to do. Please help me. I want her back
I want her old self back
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Augustus_McCrae
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It's time to move on. She will just use you and hurt you more. Drop her and go no contact. It will be hard, but the best thing for you in the long run.
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Time to move on. The relationship is over and it will never be the same. She lost interest and you will never be able to raise her interest level to where it used to be. She cheated (once a cheater always a cheater). It didn't work out with the other guy, so she came back to you. She knew she could have you back. It sounds like your coming off as desperate and needy (women do not like this). She doesn't respect you. Go no contact. Block her number and delete her from all social media. Start pursuing new women. Read the DJ Bible.
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Dude, never take a cheating woman back. No matter the "reasons" she cheated, you don't tickle her emotions enough.
Second noticable thing here is that you either got no options or you got oneitis for this girl. If you got no options, of course you'll be "scared she might leave you". If you got oneitis, you are scared of losing "the one".
Bro to bro: pick up your pieces and abandon ship before she does and leaves you a trainwreck cause she will not have any mercy when she does this. Protect your soul, man. Get away from this cheating skunk.
Second noticable thing here is that you either got no options or you got oneitis for this girl. If you got no options, of course you'll be "scared she might leave you". If you got oneitis, you are scared of losing "the one".
Bro to bro: pick up your pieces and abandon ship before she does and leaves you a trainwreck cause she will not have any mercy when she does this. Protect your soul, man. Get away from this cheating skunk.
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Pull Back on everything you did with and for her. Stop Calling Her. Walk away, go No Contact, Hit the gym, go out party with your friends. Act as if you do not give a F about her. She should not be the center of your life. Start dating new girls, spin plates. (I know easier said than done). Act like a man. If you really want that girl back. Remember how you first met, What did you do to raise her interest? Rinse and repeat, Be indifferent.
TWO STEP FORWARD ONE STEP BACK. Girls are like cats if you don´t give her the opportunity to chase you and you´re acting in a predictable way she will get bored and will replace you asap. When a woman act the way she´s doing right now it´s obvious that she already have a replacement. GIRLS ALWAYS COME BACK. No worries. You just have to Play the game right and do everything good. It´s like a game of chase. Always be and think one step ahead. Good Luck.
TWO STEP FORWARD ONE STEP BACK. Girls are like cats if you don´t give her the opportunity to chase you and you´re acting in a predictable way she will get bored and will replace you asap. When a woman act the way she´s doing right now it´s obvious that she already have a replacement. GIRLS ALWAYS COME BACK. No worries. You just have to Play the game right and do everything good. It´s like a game of chase. Always be and think one step ahead. Good Luck.
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Just cut ties with her. When she cheated on you, that should've been the last straw..meaning no second chances.
Also, if you're constantly making efforts to see her and she's not reciprocating in the same manner, you basically look like a lost puppy. The whole "I realized I can't live without you" adage is utter BS. She probably got comfortable with your presence (i.e. the thrill of being with other men, while having the privilege of coming home to a provider).
Also, if you're constantly making efforts to see her and she's not reciprocating in the same manner, you basically look like a lost puppy. The whole "I realized I can't live without you" adage is utter BS. She probably got comfortable with your presence (i.e. the thrill of being with other men, while having the privilege of coming home to a provider).
Your girl is a Hoe!
Gather what's left of your Balls and walk away with a "I dont give a fuk" smile on your face even if it hurts to do so.
Most of us here have been where you are at some point. Use this an opportunity to understand a grow yourself.
Why do you tolerate being this Hoes option?
Why have you not walked away already?
And don't say it's because you "Love Her" because I will reach through your computer screen and punch you in the face.
WAKE UP
Gather what's left of your Balls and walk away with a "I dont give a fuk" smile on your face even if it hurts to do so.
Most of us here have been where you are at some point. Use this an opportunity to understand a grow yourself.
Why do you tolerate being this Hoes option?
Why have you not walked away already?
And don't say it's because you "Love Her" because I will reach through your computer screen and punch you in the face.
WAKE UP
You can't control her feelings for her. You can only control your own feelings and I fear you are wasting too many on her.
Stand back and give yourself a break. You have invested too many dreams in a version of her that is not real. You have an image of a woman that is perfect for you and making her fit that image. She does not fit. It is not truthful to yourself. The perfect woman for you is out there and you need to keep focused on finding her.
Be honest. Look at what you have written and imagine she was behaving that way to your best friend. What advice would you give.
The truth will hurt you now. You will get over it. Become more resilient because of if.
Good news is that you are free for when the right woman walks past.
Stand back and give yourself a break. You have invested too many dreams in a version of her that is not real. You have an image of a woman that is perfect for you and making her fit that image. She does not fit. It is not truthful to yourself. The perfect woman for you is out there and you need to keep focused on finding her.
Be honest. Look at what you have written and imagine she was behaving that way to your best friend. What advice would you give.
The truth will hurt you now. You will get over it. Become more resilient because of if.
Good news is that you are free for when the right woman walks past.