I want girls...How do I get girls?

[animal crackers]

I've been thinking a lot about life, socializing, and girls lately. See, I used to be shy throughout school, and I never really knew how to talk to people very well. I played games like Final Fantasy and stuff by myself, and didn't really go out much. I decided to change this, and

I've recently been very successful with girls, more than in my whole life, and I've been reflecting as to WHY.

I'm sure there's a lot of things that I do that I am not going to be able to write very eloquently, but I'll do my best.


I've devised a clever 2432 point model to show what I do but then I realized it can really be shown like this...


Open ------> Be Cool


This is not the same as being yourself. If you don't get any girls, and assuming that you want girls, you are coming across BAD. You are not acting like a person she would be attracted to.

However, rather than focusing on what you are doing wrong focus, and watch other guys, to get to know what to do right. You will have much better results if you do a bunch of good things and some bad things, than if you're focusing on what not to do all the time. That's why in field stuff like the 25 points messed me up for a little bit.





Open:


This is the biggest problem for everyone who doesn't get girls. They don't get opportunities. They complain that they never get to meet women and excuse themselves way too much.

I'm not saying that I approach everything. I chicken out too, but after warming up (which some nights I have to literally FORCE myself to do) I'm no longer scared to approach.

Warm up is key.

Don't get down on yourself if the first couple groups don't open well, or are somewhat awkward. This just means you were probably on the computer all day, and can't relate to people until you warm up.

I'm at a point where I don't even get blown out anymore, like VERY RARELY will they just snub me. Sometimes they will be going somewhere, but they always listen and are cool with me.

This goes into the second part of my "PU MASTERY SERIES"





BE COOL

If you are wondering why I didn't really elaborate on how I don't get blown out (much) anymore, it's because it's all about how you come across in that critical first impression.

When you open, just be cool. Don't go off and try to demonstrate how cool you are jumping all around and entertaining them with your stories and routines, you have BE COOL.

You're not doing anything TO GET THEM TO LIKE YOU.

I repeat. Do not try to get people to like you, that very frame in your mind will fvck you up sooo much.

Why I like routines:

Routines are COOL. If you were a cool guy this is the kind of stuff you would talk about. Are you a BORING guy who asks her a/s/l, a NEEDY guy who asks her to cyber, or a COOL guy who talks about fun/cool/interesting/wierd/stupid/meaningful/honest things?

So, by using 'routines' you are basically emulating what a cool guy is saying.

I have been experimenting with routines lately, as you could see from the vid we made (Who DOES lie more anyway...) but when I actually meet girls routines are literally only about 2% of conversation.

So AC, what the heck do you talk about?

-I talk about my day.
-I talk about the concert I went to.
-I talk about how they are going to be -strippers when they get out of college.
-I talk about the wierd creepy guys standing all around her.
-I tell her about the "fight outside......."
-I show her all the sweet music and tell her what music is good when we get in my car.
-I make her feel like a girl by treating her like she is my little baby that I'm keeping forever and never letting go.
-I tease her mercilessly about anything I can find and try to get her to hit me asap.
-I relate stories she tells to stories I have by picking out keywords from her stories.
-I notice changing things in 'our' environment, and lead the conversation so it's about US noticing the wierd dude picking his nose.
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The way I talk is all about shifting moods.

So I'll go from fun to funny to confused to funny to intrigued to sweet and sincere to flirty to annoyed to fun again.

Annoyed? wtf? Well it's all about the emotions for girls. They want everything mostly good, but they need some twists and turns to make it exciting.

Once you shift their moods enough and are with them long enough they will show signs of attraction. Then I kino more and more in a 'leading' way. I pull them onto my lap. Hold their hand and take them somewhere. Smack their ass if they do something I don't like.




Other things I do that have been described better in other posts are:

-relaxed bodylanguage, eyes, face (important)
-expressive voice and expressions that fit the situation
-Be clean, smell good, wear good clothes, ets



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BUT HOW DID I ACTUALLY GET GOOD?
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I got pretty good. I know I can get MUCH better, but from being so shy as a kid to now is night and day.


I go out every night. Not to sarge, just to be with people. It's important to be out there socializing at all times.

I look at guys that get girls and see the good reactions they get and copy stuff they did to get good reactions. Then I would take their good stuff and try it out that night.

I laugh, smile, and generally am more fun to be around. I used to be very self conscious about my teeth (they have spaces), but I realized that girls will see them no matter what, so by not smiling I'm only showing my insecurities to everyone.

I approached girls. I never could do it before, but it's really stupid to not be able to talk to a girl. It really is. Don't put pressure on yourself that every girl has to like you or you're a failure, just have a NORMAL conversation and up the flirting when you see fit.

I learned how to talk well by talking.



ANY OF you guys can do the stuff I mentioned there. Just keep doing it and get smart about what works and you will be successful.

Really there is more I want to say here, but it's getting late and I've had an exhausting weekend .




Goodnight.

animal crackers

 

[rockstar88]

what the fcuk was that? using phrases like 've devised a clever 2432 point model at the age of 19. Really? loosen up

 

[animal crackers]

Originally posted by rockstar88
what the fcuk was that? using phrases like 've devised a clever 2432 point model at the age of 19. Really? loosen up

hahahahah wow man. It's a 'joke' man. Did you even read what I wrote?

I just hope somebody gets something out of this. I posted what I did to get good w/girls, and coming a long way to do so the truth is that it's in everyone.


animal crackers

 

[rockstar88]

sorry man i read it the wrong way. my bad

 

[pimpfromdayone]

yep. I have said it before, but I say it again now: most guys' problem is that they aren't social. It is something I myself am working on. If you're not around people, you won't be good with people, and you won't get noticed by girls. If I had a friend who was good with women to be my wingman, I would love it, but as it is now, I know noone like that.... oh well.

 

[Spirit Fingers]

Hey AC, good post. It sounds like you are using routines the right way. Although I'm Mr. Anti-routine, I think that if you use them sparingly and at a point where it makes sense in a conversation, it won't harm you significantly. It will still be slightly noticible to people who are well socially calibrated that what you said was canned, but it will be very very minor.

My main beef with routines is that I see them abused so often. I've sarged with guys who are absolute social robots -- literally every word that comes out of their mouth when they are talking to girls is canned, and it is ridiculously unattractive. Also, guys try to *force* routines into the conversation in places where they don't fit. This just weirds girls out.

The stuff you wrote about expressing a wide range of emotions is also important. This is because human beings naturally have wide ranges of emtions -- a guy with a perma-smile is obviously playing a character. A guy who can be absolutely congruent to his emotions at any given moment is genuine and captivating

Good stuff.

-Dan

Check out my seduction and dating blog:
http://spiritfingerspua.blogspot.com

 

[Dergz]

Good post AC buddy yu've touched on areas that most of us are oblivious about, like how yu can improve the way yu talk by talkin more often to pple, up until i joined the forum i wasn't very comfotable talkin to pple i didn't know, i would get extremely annoyed when some old geezer in the street would start talkin politics to me. i'm gradualy gettin over it though.
Another thing about not hiding what yu feel insecure about is something that needs to be hammered into the minds of all the DJs here, we all have our flaws nobody's 100% but if yu try to cover it up in front of chicks they immedietly notice and try to block yo game with it.

Al the same gr8 post

 

[RedPill]

Girls want to talk about EMOTIONS.

Here is one of the most powerful things you can say to a girl (and you can use this over and over again if you phrase it a little differently every time). After telling her a story, or after her telling you a story, or when something funny happens, or really anytime there is a new emotion that has entered your interaction, ask her:

How does this make you feel?

VARIATIONS:

- How do you feel about that?
- How did that make you feel?
- What are your feelings on this?

Think like that episode of Seinfeld where they keep saying "these pretzels are making me thirsty" a million different ways. Say it with a smirk. Say it like James Bond. Say it all dramatically like you're a cheesy news reporter interviewing someone. Say it like a talk show host.

Yes, I've started testing this with women I encounter daily. I guess you could say that's field testing. But man this is powerful stuff. When I say it, knowing a new emotion has entered the airspace, it's like when a fighter jet locks onto a target. When you say it it'll be like the rush of pulling the trigger. BOOM! The woman you said it to will go crazy with laughter, anger, arousal, or whatever emotion you have just made her absorb. And as you guys know, when women absorb emotions it's like a total body and mind sensation for them, unlike us where it barely even registers in our thought processes.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

It's not about just talking ABOUT emotions, it's about communicating on an emotional level with her. You should always avoid talking logic with women, especially on boring topics only YOU are interested in. Not only does it bore her, but she never connects with you on that more primitive level, and no matter how smart you are, you'll get nowhere. Talking about normal things is boring to her, no matter how interesting you might think it is. Basically, anything you say to her that evokes an emotional response is good, and that's what teasing, story telling, neg hitting (for hot chicks), making her laugh, flirting, etc., all do. Talking to her directly about her emotions is a good idea too, with plenty of opportunity for teasing and getting closer to her. I will have to try that line: "How does that make you feel," it seems like a good idea... I think saying it in a sarcastic tone would be funny, and I would also try saying it like a psychiatrist or something, haha.