I have been on this forum for a few years now and have noticed a similar trend..."how can I get this girl"...."why did this girl not respond"...."why is this girl not reaching out to me"....etc.... You see where I am going with this. Everything resolves around getting a girl.
Guys need to get to a point in their journey in life where they can say no to p()ssy at any time including the so called hot ones. When you can say no to a girl you have reached a point very few man have gone...true abundance...and not this fake dating app abundance. When a man of value says no to a girl it throws them off because they rarely experience it, also when other other guys hear that you said no to an attractive girl they look at you wierd.
A man with true abundance does not have time for mediocre girls even though she is hot...he requires more than hot.
Continue working on yourselves men, don't do it to get girls but do it for yourself. You guys will find a higher purpose in life than just getting tail.
Good post.
We could talk about hundreds of things that lead to abundance.....but a true abundance mindset only comes with truly having options.
Too many men out there trying to get a chick to notice him, chasing her, etc. When you have abundance it seems you attract women and have to put very little work into gaming women, if any at all.
Personally I like a rotation. Not to say that I will not do a LTR with the right woman, but a rotation for me solves many problems:
1.) I see each chick once a week. You wont find me wanting more because I literally dont have more time for more.
2.) I dont text frequently because my time is limited between business, personal, social and dating life. In that order.
3.) I never pursue "more" with a chick, yet they all pursue "more" with me.
4.) Women love competition and it brings out the best in them, which benefits me.
5.) I slow play women more often than not because I am getting laid as it is. I dont have to act like a hobo on a ham sandwich just because a woman wants to sleep with me. I can choose to do so or not.
6.) They all seem to ask me if I am involved with more women........I swear it seems women have a 6th sense of being able to tell if a man has a lot of options.
Right now I am spinning 5 plates which is WAY too many. 2-3 is perfect. I have dates set up tonight (making dinner at my place), a different one tomorrow night (super hot blonde, very fit...going out for drinks and then back to my place to watch a movie for date #2) and then Saturday taking another chick boating in the evening (I know this chick and she has already said that she has fantasized about fvcking me on my boat this weekend). The other 2 are currently on the back burner and I have already slept with them on multiple occasions.
The problem is that most men dont want to put in the work to attract women. They would rather sit on their rear ends and look for the magic one liner or whatever. I literally just approach women like I am being friendly and if they start throwing out the vibe, I will invite them for a drink once I screen them.
Its super easy. But there is an enormous difference in a man with abundance compared to a man with no options. Women can tell right away. I cant tell you how many women I have had tell me that they didnt know how interested I was in them and how I was different than all of the thirsty guys out there, simply because I dont push for more than meeting up and having fun once a week or every other week.
Abundance = no neediness, no over texting, no chasing, no acting like a fool if a chick cancels or reschedules........Its priceless.
True abundance also makes it super easy to walk away from a chick who is making things difficult because you realize the juice isnt worth the squeeze.....and normally those chicks will come rushing back as long as she has decent interest.