I tried to save'em guys I really did....

[Solomon]

Cliff Note version at the bottom

At my part time job that I work at a few days a week. I work with my supervisor who is in his late 40's makes about 50g's a year(great $$$ for the easy shyt he does). The guy got a text message a couple months ago from his soon-to-be-ex-wife. That she was leaving him and packing up some of her stuff. Mind you at this time they were renting a house and had 3 kids in their(their 3rd house in three years, they had 250k-plus house foreclosed on).

The guy was devastated, the warning signs were there though and even I knew it. For instance on Valentines day 2010, his wife was getting dolled up saying she was gong to work. Thing is, she works for the government and it was a Sunday (their work is closed). Then lets not forget her outrageous taste. When they got their first house foreclosed on they went and rent a house that was even more expensive. The wife was threatening to leave him cause he wanted to get a cheap apartment (they have 2 kids plus one kid has a kid who he babysits 40plus hours a week so his daughter can go catch and screw, I mean go to school). However he convinced her to stay, needless to say they got kicked out of the house because they were late on payments(SHE IS IN CHARGE OF THE BILLS). Fast Forward to summer of 2010. He goes on the family computer and finds a picture of his wife with a dog collar on her neck and red ball in her mouth, not only that but he finds websites of "fantasy erotica" tales etc. Couple that with the fact that he hasn't smashed her in years. It all came to ahead

Fast-Forward now, she is living with a dominatrix, and moved out. He is willing to take her back and work it out(even after she ruined him financially on top of everything I mentioned), he says he doesn't have proof that she cheated and is willing to forgive her because he made vows before God

I told the guy to divorce the ho, but he wants to work it out

I really tried guys told him about "Game" and this site multiple times throughout the years, but some chumps will never learn

• 2008 House gets foreclosed on Wife wants to leave hubby
• Hubby convinces wife to stay and they move in a bigger house
• Valentines day Wife says she is going to work but V-day is on a Sunday
• Winter 2011 Wife text Hubby saying she wants a divorce
• Finds out shes been on dominatrix site (pictures and all)
• Wife and Hubby haven't been intimate in years
• She walks out on their third home in 3 years and leaves him to pay the bills
• Wife moves in with Dominatrix and another woman
• 3 Months later wife moves out, Hubby wants to "work it out"

I may make mistakes in the game But I'm thankful that I'll never put myself in that situation as him. If you reading this site for the first time or for the millionth consider yourself one of the few who is smart

 

[st_99]

I don't know who is more screwed up, her or him?? They both sound lost to me.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I don't know who is more screwed up, her or him?? They both sound lost to me.

He is, of course. At least the chick knows what she wants and how to get it.

 

[LeftyLoosey]

It's a lot like alcoholism or drug abuse. Unless the individual is self-motivated to seek help, they're unlikely to take advice from others. The relationship game is usually learned the hard way and at great cost, unfortunately.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

One reason why it's so hard to get a lot of guys to "see the light" is because the "blindness" that they've embraced is SOMEHOW less unsettling for them to accept.

There are few things MORE devastating than to finally have to come to grips with the fact that few men and women actually get the kind of relationship that they want "with ease". Sadly, they mostly only manage to get what they can effectively NEGOTIATE.

Of course there are always exceptions to this rule. However, as I see the world around me becoming more amoral and more collectively self-centered-----the more crucial it is that both men (and women) have to learn how to defend the line of respect that "should" exist between them.

VU

 

[st_99]

few men and women actually get the kind of relationship that they want "with ease".
VU

you know what is interesting about this statement is this... I go through all the people I know that are in a LTR and ask myself if I would want to be in thier shoes and 9 out of 10 times I would say no.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

you know what is interesting about this statement is this... I go through all the people I know that are in a LTR and ask myself if I would want to be in thier shoes and 9 out of 10 times I would say no.

Yeah, that's probably true for a lot of guys who "know better". There's usually a certain zone of "quiet desperation" that I see many couples settle into. I also think there are a lot of people who have unrealistic views of how fulfilling a REAL relationship is supposed to be.

You read on sites like this one and many others all the time that "a woman should not BE your life, she should only be a worthwhile ADDITION to your life"...but how many guys REALLY believe this?

What I'm saying is that there's just as much of danger in putting too little value on a good relationship as it is to putting too much value on a bad one. As always, a balanced perspective and a realistic perception of the nature of male/female relationships is the key to getting the most benefit out of them.

But somehow, I find that encouraging guys to keep "cool heads" in their pursuit and ongoing interactions with "hot chicks" is always an uphill battle.

But I'm not shaken or deterred by this fact, because I'm in this fight till the end. All the guys who are READY to listen to reason will do so. And those who "aren't" ready? Well then...we have no recourse but to let'em go travel down whatever path it is that they've chosen.