I'm being too nice.
I met this girl well over a year ago but didn't start flirting with her until ~6 weeks ago. I flirted with her over the span of the weekend, we made out, then later in the week we had sex, then a few more times and so on.
I decided that I enjoyed who she was as a person and I got the vibe that she was into me too. So we started going on dates as well.
After a couple dates and a lot of sex, she goes cold. Backs way off. This comes completely by surprise to me.
She says her sex drive disappeared because of some very stressful situations going on in her life. These are legitimate stressful situations, not some excuse she made up in order to not hurt my feelings. Though she could be using legitimate situations to make an excuse.
She seems to want to wait it out and see what happens. I'm impatient.
Now...we hug, we kiss, we talk, but no clothes come off. I'm turning into a nice guy.
These are what I see as my options:
Keep doing what I'm doing. Be her friend. Be her cuddle ***** and hope the sex drive randomly comes back.
Back off a little. No more hugs, no more kisses, no more hanging out in non-group situations. Then, when the time seems right, make a move again.
Back off a lot. Avoid conversation, avoid seeing her, whatever. Make a move again way down the road, if I feel so inclined.
If I don't make a decision and stick to it, I'm probably going to stick with the nice guy thing, which doesn't really have a very high chance for success.
Now...I need some outside, unbiased input. Thoughts?
I met this girl well over a year ago but didn't start flirting with her until ~6 weeks ago. I flirted with her over the span of the weekend, we made out, then later in the week we had sex, then a few more times and so on.
I decided that I enjoyed who she was as a person and I got the vibe that she was into me too. So we started going on dates as well.
After a couple dates and a lot of sex, she goes cold. Backs way off. This comes completely by surprise to me.
She says her sex drive disappeared because of some very stressful situations going on in her life. These are legitimate stressful situations, not some excuse she made up in order to not hurt my feelings. Though she could be using legitimate situations to make an excuse.
She seems to want to wait it out and see what happens. I'm impatient.
Now...we hug, we kiss, we talk, but no clothes come off. I'm turning into a nice guy.
These are what I see as my options:
Keep doing what I'm doing. Be her friend. Be her cuddle ***** and hope the sex drive randomly comes back.
Back off a little. No more hugs, no more kisses, no more hanging out in non-group situations. Then, when the time seems right, make a move again.
Back off a lot. Avoid conversation, avoid seeing her, whatever. Make a move again way down the road, if I feel so inclined.
If I don't make a decision and stick to it, I'm probably going to stick with the nice guy thing, which doesn't really have a very high chance for success.
Now...I need some outside, unbiased input. Thoughts?