I told off and hung up on an HB9

[poohead]

I told off and hung up on an HB9. this happened last night. I'm certain I did the right thing, in fact I should have done it sooner. I probably did not do it the right way though, that would ensure the possibility of sex later, as a true DJ would.

My inner game needs a lot of work, but I noticed a positive development in the past couple of weeks that at least i'm not taking any s*** from women. I need to integrate this into my personality so that it becomes a solid sense of personal boundaries and confidence. Right now i'm just lashing out whenever i feel like i'm being disrespected.

This was the main girl that I liked, too. I have been messaging with another girl from an online dating site recently, but that's about it as far as me 'spinning plates'. I start boot camp next week. Hopefully that will all change.

She is smart and attractive, but she is your typical AW. Extremely full of herself to compensate for her f*ckd up life and her insecurities. This was the girl who originally brought me to this board back in my AFC days (all of two weeks ago ). The full story can be read here

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=98711

The short version of the story is: I was dating this chick, I was doing surprisingly well, got some kissing and probably could have tried for sex, but then -- things god f*ckd up, I made some really (really) bad AFC moves that should have gotten me NEXT'd. But somehow, I managed to avoid the total diss and we were still calling and talking to each other on the phone over the past couple of weeks.

She had changed after my display of AFC'ness. Now, whenever we talk I feel like she is throwing me sh*t test after sh*t test, I feel like she is trying really hard to disqualify me and I have to really think on my feet. To be honest I don't even like talking to her any more because of all the sh*t tests, it's just extremely annoying to me now and is quickly killing off any sense of attraction I had for this girl. I wish I hadn't displayed AFC'ness, I'd have it a lot easier now with her, but anyways f*ck it.

The conversation went like this:

-funny, relaxed casual convo, but then I happen to say something that triggers an immediate negative reaction in this biatch: i told her that i think women like sex just as much as men do, that society has conditioned them that to acknowledge their sexuality is shameful, and that is why they pretend like they don't like sex as much as men do.

-she flies off the handle, and tries to prove me wrong, argues this crap to death until i tell her that i don't even want to talk about it. of course i'm absolutely convinced i'm right and that she is brainwashed like most people, into believing the opposite is true.

-she then decides to pick on another issue: i had told her my iq (it's genius level, supposedly) when we started talking. this girl is such a nut/control freak that, after that, she has tried to make it a point to prove to me that she is smarter than me.

-she says: are you sure you are in mensa? i'm smarter than you in everything.
-me: that's because you monopolize the conversation and only talk about what you know.
-her: name something, impress me. because right now i'm not feeling any attraction to you. say something.
-me: what do you want me to say.
-her: say something to prove to me how smart you are, because you sure don't act like you're smart, i told you i'm smarter than you in everything.
-me: (getting pissed) ok - can you read music?
-her: yes
-me: what is the natural minor of d major?
-her: i don't know.
-me: well that's at least one subject that i am smarter than you in.
-her: (flying off the handle) that's it? you need to do a better job than that at impressing me.
-me: i have nothing to prove to you.
-her: you do if you want me to be attracted to you.
-me: (angry now) well if it involves me jumping through hoops or speaking some pretentious bullsh*t just to impress you, then no thanks. i don't care if you're attracted to me.
-her: (yelling some sh*t, i don't even hear it because i'm yelling some sh*t at her now.)
-me: also, are you saying you're smarter than me or that i'm stupid? that's pretty insulting. what is your deal? i am just trying to have a nice conversation and you are insulting me? you have a lot of problems ....... that's just rude. i should just hang up on you.
-her: (quiet on the other end now.)
-me: (i hang up).

And that's it. At this point, I really don't like this person. I can't take her sh*t tests, or her attitude. I don't need a person like that in my life. I'm not sure how I feel about this. On the one hand, the reason our relationship is so lop-sided now to begin with was my being an AFC before realizing it too late. I would still do her, but I have serious doubts we could get along well enough to sustain any type of relationship, given how we argue all the time.

Anyways, looking forward to boot camp. From now on I'm only going to date hot women who aren't insane.

 

[Distant Light]

...You have alot to learn, I'm not going to bother getting into the sh!t test part but just to let you know now if you want some smoking girls your going to have to learn how to get passed those sh!t tests, you basically did everything wrong.

But just keep in mind
- Never argue with a girl (Just don't it doesn't solve or help anything)
- Don't try to explain anything on a logical level (You were there explaining to her about all that IQ crap you should have just changed the thread.)
- Never try to impress or Brag (Should have never told her about your IQ in the first place.)

 

[Bvbidd]

This is going to sound sexist.. but yeah never argue with a girl because you should know deep down she is retarded.

Don't take what she says so seriously. You shoulda just joked and made fun of her.

 

[DonSonnySagliani]

This is going to sound sexist.. but yeah never argue with a girl because you should know deep down she is retarded.

Don't take what she says so seriously. You shoulda just joked and made fun of her.

SO TRUE...

If girls would have been smart they would never be attracted to the players like we are but, as a matter of fact... THEY DO

 

[Docs]

No, you absolutely failed. Hanging up on her will not cause attraction. She even said it herself

-me: i have nothing to prove to you.
-her: you do if you want me to be attracted to you.

She isn't even worth your time from the beginning, and you failed to notice it. You blame AFC actions for the breakup, when you should have seen that she was NOT relationship material!!!!

Don't think for a second you did anything right by hanging up (or if you didn't). Move on and examine your options better.

 

[Wiesman44]

i blame this f#ck up on both of you. You both have a lot to learn about relationships / conversations / life in general.

You COMPLETELY played that wrong. Stop trying to prove yourself right, and quit bragging about your IQ. nobody cares. Who cares if she doesn't think women want sex as much as men. Just because you heard this on a website doesn't mean you have to go preaching it to women.

Women don't need to be told they like sex as much as men. That was a deathwish by saying that. Especially to that crazy bit#h.

 

[poohead]

yeah well, i had to hang up. i'm not smooth, what can i say. i was pissed, it was the only thing i could think to do. this girl deserved a lot worse than a mild yelling at and a hang up. if a guy said some of the same sh*t to me i would probably want to fight him.

f*ck it. there are better biatches out there.

 

[flippinfreak]

f*ck it. there are better biatches out there.

She's thinking the exact same thing...

'Action, not words'

If you areally are intelligent, go read an article by A-Unit. Find the one about the missing lego pieces and right to entitlement. If you have book smarts, or have a quick IQ(yes, that's what schools usually test), that doesn't mean you deserve women. Don't think that just because your teachers told you you had a genius IQ level doesn't mean you have a genius level in anything else... Do some reaserch, and don't let your old schooling interfere with your new DJ learning.

If I was sitting down, and I ever heard you talking that way to my sister, I would want to hurt you. So buck up and learn that the blame should be placed entirely upon you at all times, unless otherwise proven...

In this case, the blame needs to go nowhere, there was a STUPID argument, for no reason..

tadum

 

[poohead]

just to clarify - i didn't set out to brag about the iq. it came up naturally in conversation back when we first started talking.

 

[Docs]

just to clarify

Will it change anything, nope.
Will letting the thread die change anything, it gets you to move on.
Letting us know with a FR will tell us something has changed.

, hop to it!

 

[mrRuckus]

For such a high IQ, I'm surprised you don't know the difference between intelligence and wisdom.

 

[DJDamage]

You forgot your goal and that is to GET SOME PVSSY!

What would arguing with a chick do?! You don't win with arguments and chicks do not communicate on the same level as men do so essentially it was pointless.

You shouldn't even try to use reason or logic with chicks. They won't understand you just like you won't understand certain things they find magical.

Oh and don't talk on the phone too much, its best reserve for the actual date where you can hit on her and if she doesn't dig you then its just a simple NEXT!!

DJD

 

[belividere]

I think your on the right path. So you **** up once or twice, say some stupid sh1t, waste your time arguing. You're learning though, let me ask you a question. If you were an AFC just a few weeks back would you even have started talking to this girl? Would you be supplicating her and doing whatever just to get in her pants?

I definetly dont think what you did was right, but on the other hand I think you are beginning to de-program yourself and are going through the as$hole phase that a lot of people do. As long as it is just a short part in the initial change and you recongize and correct for it I would say your on the right path. Sounds to me like slamming the phone down might have opened up a new door in your self-confidence. Learn from the experience, relax a little bit, and go out and replace her with another HB9. Then try not to get into petty arguments in the first place and maintain a level head.

 

[poohead]

I think your on the right path. So you **** up once or twice, say some stupid sh1t, waste your time arguing. You're learning though, let me ask you a question. If you were an AFC just a few weeks back would you even have started talking to this girl? Would you be supplicating her and doing whatever just to get in her pants?

I definetly dont think what you did was right, but on the other hand I think you are beginning to de-program yourself and are going through the as$hole phase that a lot of people do. As long as it is just a short part in the initial change and you recongize and correct for it I would say your on the right path. Sounds to me like slamming the phone down might have opened up a new door in your self-confidence. Learn from the experience, relax a little bit, and go out and replace her with another HB9. Then try not to get into petty arguments in the first place and maintain a level head.

i started talking to her before i knew what an afc was. she actually initiated the contact first. i made some bad moves before i started educating myself. by the time i started learning some stuff it was too late with her.

i think i am too. i don't take disrespect from guy friends why should i from a girl? the problem is, now i am fighting with them when - you guys are right - what i should do is just ignore them and keep cool when they act like, well, girls. my inner game, like i said, is all over the place and needs a lot of work.

-can someone link me to A-Unit? is that article on this site?

 

[Docs]

can someone link me to A-Unit?

Which Article?

 

[Bloke]

I disagree with most of the replys to this thread.

She was trying to pick a fight & you did the right thing & stood up for yourself & hung up on her.

Don't give up your pride just so you can look cool with witty lines.

 

[Consent]

I'm really suprised by the replies here. You're all defending that woman and saying it's his fault, when it's not his fault, it's her fault.

She says: "are you sure you are in mensa? i'm smarter than you in everything."

What kind of person talks like this? honestly, if someone said that to me I'd either compare grades in school, income I earn, or take an IQ test and make her prove that she is smarter. That would shut her up pretty quickly.

Then she says: "name something, impress me. because right now i'm not feeling any attraction to you. say something."

This is even more repulsive. If she was saying that to me, I'd reply "Ok, I'll say something, you lack a personality and want a guy who's your pet dog who will agree with everything you say, but because I'm a real man I'm not gonna do that. Oh, and you wanted me to prove that I'm smart? Ok, here's proof, I'm smart enough to know I can do better than you which is why you are no longer my gf. Now go look for your pet doggie" And then hang up on her. The importance is to never bend over backwards to appeal to someone who wants to purposely throw tons of sh*t-tests at you.

 

[poohead]

Which Article?

legos/entitlement

 

[Docs]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=64350&highlight=lego+a-unit
Do a search, I found it instantly.

 

[Bigg Boss]

-her: you do if you want me to be attracted to you.

I wish I had the opporutunity to be in that situation just so I can say one of my favorite lines for my favorite songs (it's nothing amazing, it's just true)

She say I'm stengy, I say "I don't need you bit*h/Go 'head and leave, see if I chase you, shi*!"

Replace stengy with whatever word applies to your situation