I told her to "stop f***ing with me" and now I'm in trouble....

[JCKey618]

Sometimes it feels as if my girlfriend of 6-7 weeks plays games with me. It feels as if she thinks that she has me wrapped around her little finger. When she tells me to call her, I do, but if I tell her to call me she won't do it and it just feels like she thinks that she must hold out and have me break down and call her. Also, when I see her in the hall at school, she'll always walk by and expect me to come to her. Also, she used to tease me with making out. When I'd try to kiss her, she'd move away and then laugh and said she found it funny t tease me like this. She doesn't hardly do that anymore....

So, this morning I had it on my mind and I said to her "Stop f***ing with me. I don't like these little games and I need you to stop." I said it calmly and didn't yell or raise my voice at all. Then she got all upset and now the script has been flipped and I'm the one who's trying to apologize and stuff.

She said I should not have come at her like that and I apologized for it and she was just plain mad at me today and I felt so stupid trying to get her to forgive me allday today when I was the one who had the problem.

How do I fix this?

 

[drixsa]

Have you even looked at the bible, let alone read an article?

hen she tells me to call her, I do,

can you say "whipped" ?

Also, when I see her in the hall at school, she'll always walk by and expect me to come to her.

can you say "owned" ?

When I'd try to kiss her, she'd move away and then laugh and said she found it funny t tease me like this.

can you say "tool" ?

You come around and post the same stupid things here yet they vary little except in your mind.

instead of trying to fix these problems with her, FIX YOURSELF.

YOU HAVE NO BACKBONE.

when you told her to

"Stop f***ing with me. I don't like these little games and I need you to stop."

you should of held your ground not caved like a scared little boy.

SHE IS TREATING YOU LIKE SH!T

ill repeat: SHE IS TREATING YOU LIKE SH!T'

no girl that respected her boy friend would do these kind of things.

if my girl friend even tried these petty little games i would put her out on her ass so fast, and she knows it too.

because she has something to lose.

thats the problem with you here.

YOU DO NOT SEE YOURSELF AS RESPECTABLE, AND DESERVING.

anyone who does would of sent this girl packing weeks ago, (or probably would not be in this situation to begin with.)

I also think that you see this girl as the only( or one of few ) prospects in your life. Thus you feel you need her or you will not have anyone else.

How do you fix this?

simple...

Do not cave to her

yea you may break up, but it might be just a test.

more importantly you need to be saying to yourself:

"How can I fix myself?"

Don't consider this a burn or an insult either, think of it as tough love.

 

[Porky]

Wow. You've done so many things wrong, then one thing right, then more things wrong. It's a start though.

You're in high school, and almost any relationship you get into (and especially this one) is going to last less than half a year. You're a man, so fvcking grab your balls and start acting like one. She isn't treating you with respect, and she doesn't deserve any of your respect. The fact that you told her to stop fvcking with you (good job!) showed that you had some sort of hold over the relationship, but she knew exactly how to get rid of this.

Why are you so afraid of her being mad at you? What's more important: a girl who sometimes makes out with you if she's sick of teasing you, or your dignity?

Depending on what you answer, there either is or isn't hope for you. Stop apologizing to her. Stop calling her whenever she wants. If she asks you why you didn't call her, tell her you were out with the boys all afternoon. If she wonder why you don't speak to her in the hallway, tell her you either didn't see her or you were busy.

Punch yourself in the balls now, both as punishment and as a reminder that you have some.

 

[oprahjimfrey]

I have to agree with the others. This situation looks pretty bad. By playing into her games, she knows she has u in her control. You have to stop giving in, stop being so nice. If she threatens to break up with you, so be it. Its better to be alone than to be whipped.

 

[Porky]

If she threatens to break up with you, break up with her first.
Stupid women.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Man you basically a$$ raped yourself with that little mess up. Yeah, better cut your losses before she does it for you.

 

[UltimateScoundrel]

It's soooo insanely ironic.... You told her to stop playing games, tried to take a stand, so she decided to test you, to see if you would hold your ground and make her apologize for what she did. Instead you apologized some more, and now because you said you were wrong and you made a mistake, even though you didn't, you get to walk on eggshells for a while as she manipulates you and brags to her friends about it. You big dummy.

 

[mdsoccer16]

Well the big question is, do you like her that much to let your feeling be played around with. It sounds like she doens't care about anything except that she is treated like a "queen" and what do you get? I think if this girl is really great you should like her for the way she is. But I mean its not like you yelled at her but maybe you could have told her in a different way though to have a realtionship you to need to talk. I think you should talk to her and get this all worked with her so all is better.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Okay, let's get something straight, certain situations cannot be discussed with you guys rationally. Read the man's post. The Queen thing you might be right on, but the rest is her being a flaky b1tch. She will run circles around him with her games and talking to her will only tell her that its working and she's got him thinking about her 24/7 and giving into her $hit.

 

[PapaLongDong]

this is truly sad

well spoken drixsa

 

[Osiris7250]

man u need to check urself cuz she has u by the short hairs. dont cave in for her like that, dont ask for her forgivness, and DO NOT tell her your sorry. cuz all it will do is show her that she got u by the palm of the hand. show that ***** who is boss and man up, if you really mean anything to her she will come too and realize she is wrong.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by mdsoccer16
Well the big question is, do you like her that much to let your feeling be played around with. It sounds like she doens't care about anything except that she is treated like a "queen" and what do you get? I think if this girl is really great you should like her for the way she is. But I mean its not like you yelled at her but maybe you could have told her in a different way though to have a realtionship you to need to talk. I think you should talk to her and get this all worked with her so all is better.

BAD ADVICE. Whether he likes her or not he should not put up with disrespect from his gf. Stop advising him to put up with it

 

[heteropedro]

Lol Id like to see what happenes when you say your breaking up with her. I can see the look on the *****es face, that look of "WHAT?!, your breaking up with me?. Id love that. You should record it. So go break up with her now and record it and let us see it plz.

O cool Im a senior dj now. I love you guys