"I think we have very different philosphies in life"?

alx

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So a girl from Tinder gave me her number and we're chatting and that's her excuse not to go on a date, when she couldn't possibly know my philosophy at all. I told her stories that showed me in a good light without being ****y, I have a plan in life, and she just took it all like I was one big pile of **** regardless. I'm not really sure WHY she did this, as she was obviously never interested from before she willingly gave me her phone number. Another horrible person.
 

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She simply wasn't interested, don't take what she said seriously. It doesn't matter. Doesn't sound like she's a horrible person either, she was trying to be polite (key word is "trying").

Also if you were telling her stories before even going on a first date, I'd have to say you said too much. You probably came across as needy. Better to keep communication short and simple, save the stories for the date. By the way, I'm assuming you told her these stories over the phone... because if you texted her all this information, then you really screwed up.
 

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Whatever. When you meet online they are always looking for any reason to reject you. So by keeping the phone/text convos to a minimum before you meet in person you have a better shot at not saying something that rubs her the wrong way. I've made this mistake myself a few times. Plus these online chicks are coming from a place of huge abundance, they have 1,000 guys trying to get their attention. The cards are stacked against you bro. Just learn from it and keep trying.
 

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Just taking a shot but I reckon you're about the 510th guy she's given that line to in her life. Chicks do that. Its not logical as you can't judge one's philosophy on life on f**king tinder. The real reason is she's not interested in you anymore, might have been the way you came across but its more her bullsh*t than anything you've done wrong.
 
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Chill. She just wasn't interested. What did you want her to say? "Sorry I don't find you attractive"? "I suspect you're a wuss and not worth my time"? Women are never going to tell you why. At best their excuse might have a hint of truth to it. Tell her to call you if she changes her mind and never think about her again unless she does call you.
 

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My philosophy is to ditch that b**ch and move on! You can do better than a common online attention wh0re. Neither you nor the 236 guys that got her number before you looked like Channing Tatum. Of course she's gonna use this soft rejection on you!

I've never used Tinder, and I don't use okcupid anymore. Waste of f**kin' time.

Case closed. Delete her from all platforms and block her if necessary.
 

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I don't use OLD, so I'm really not sure how to handle something like this, I will say that I really never talk to a woman over the phone too long.

I would only call long enough to make a date and then do all my talking in person. Not sure why anyone would want to spend any time talking to a woman when you have no idea what she REALLY looks like.

I would hate it if I spend two hours of my life chatting up a chick, only to find out that when I met her on a date, to find out she shaves her head and has a tarantula spider tattoo on her neck.
 
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