I think too much....

[ImpossibleIsNothing]

I literally lose sleep thinking about the same damn conversations I've had with the girls I'm interested in. Im such an analytical person, I run the same conversations over and over again in my head, and I am constantly thinking of how I could have been better, what I did wrong, and think up of these hypothetical situations. Last night, I went to bed at about 12:30, and by 2:00 I was still up thinking of the conversations and interactions I had with this HB8 that night. By 2:00, I just took 2 Tylenol P.M. and passed out.

Now, don't get me wrong, I don't act desperate at all around women, if you knew my situation you'd understand, but the long of the short of it is, Im always thinking of this. Today, no matter what I did I couldn't stop thinking of HB8, and what I was going to say to her tonight, imagining these hypothetical situations, Im fine when it comes to actually interacting, but my mind is my biggest enemy after it happens.

I tried to keep myself busy, but it would still creep up on my mind.

So my question is, has anyone experienced this and how do I get over it? I want my sleep!!

Also, I think I have some ONEitis issues(and this girl isn't even my girlfriend, ridiculous!)... honestly, no one has ever given the "answer" to ONEitis, we need to finally now down the solution, because ONEitis is a *****!

Im so tired right now, at 9:30 because of last night... thinking about it makes me laugh at how pathetic it sounds, but it still is one of my flaws.


Thanks as always, guys.

Feel free to tear me to pieces. Maybe it'll help. :woo:

 

[green69]

Well, if you're sitting here on posting on the forums then you technically aren't 'keeping busy' enough. That being said, is this day dreaming restricted to girls and such...or when some other occasion happens you tend to think about that also?

I think it's important in this situation to know whether you have a general problem with day dreaming, which could possibly be attributed to ADD...or if it's just fantasizing about this particular girl.

Me for example, I day dream all the time. Just whatever is bothering me at the moment, or a particular problem I have...current events/happenings. If a situation with a girl happens to be at issue, then I'll day dream about that...but it's not that exclusively.

However, I notice when I am truly busy (having a good time with friends, doing something intense or constructive etc) i rarely have these day dream sessions. It's only if I am bored with nothing to do I day dream often.

 

[medjaun]

I'm right there with you man, although I don't always stay up at nite I do think way too much. What happens is then when I do talk to the girl I've worked myself up so much that I mess up. If I could just act my natural self I'd be fine. But by thinking about what I'm going to say I put too much pressure on the situation. I too overanalyze past convos as well. I'm hoping that once I get a bunch of convos/encouters with women then it will just be natural and I won't think about it so much.

 

[ImpossibleIsNothing]

I've never been tested for A.D.D... There is a chance I may have it. In fact in 6th grade, my teacher wanted to get me tested, my parents refused. I've never been tested for A.D.D... I think I should get tested for it though.

Anyway, I do daydream A LOT. Whatever is bothering me at the moment. Today it was HB8.

Let me give you an example of what happened today, this doesn't always happen but here it goes. So everyday I have the time, I shoot 100 free throws in my driveway and see how many I make. Today, I kept thinking of HB8 while I was shooting, making up hypothetical fantasy's about her standing under the hoop and getting my rebounds or watching me. NOw this wouldn't be consistent, but it would creep up into my head at times while Im playing. Sometimes I would even converse with her in my head with her. Now believe me, I know this sounds ridiculous, and its quite embarassing, but its the truth, and I want to get it handled.

Also, I have a GREAT memory when it comes to conversations and stuff. I can recite conversations I've had with girls last summer, thats just the way I am and I HATE it. Maybe I care too much? I remember reading and article on SoSuave.com main page, I forget the title, that said "You shouldn't remember anything a hot girl said unless you would remember it if a fat ugly girl said it or a male you talked to."

Now, I totally recognize these things, and thankfully do not act anything like this(desperation and such) in real life situations. The problem is when I am away from this stuff, I get so wound up about what all happened and can't focus on what Im doing.

One other thing, Yesterday went great with HB8, I was really feeling good about what happened(I'll save the details). When I got home, I was feeling great, and kept thinking about what had happened. There was a lot of excitement built up, which Is why I couldnt sleep, I was too wound up. I saw her today and I was just off, so maybe this thinking is affecting my game(actually, I know it is, I was too hesitant tonight). Tonight I feel a bit down, its like all the excitement got sucked out of me, and I'm beginning to doubt myself a bit. Hopefully it won't last long.

Thanks

 

[Wiesman44]

Problem: You care too much

How to solve it: Stop caring about if u get with this chick

alternate solution: Work on another girl at the same time



How does this happen: Lack of sex for a while will make u want sex really bad. Usually, when u start to develop the 'caring' problem, u will screw it up and not get sex.

 

[green69]

From the way you describe it, you show a lot of symptoms of ADD. That added to the fact your teachers wanted to have you tested for it...it is most likely that you have it.

Your incredible long-term memory is mostly due to one of the symptoms of ADD. A person with ADD has very bad short term memory, they will go upstairs to get their wallet...and by the time they get to the top floor they forget why they went upstairs in the first place. On the other hand, they can recall vivid details of conversations which took place many years ago which other people would have no clue.

These are just some of the many symptoms of ADD, along with the day-dreaming and distraction.

Take this test below to see if you have ADD, it is from a very reliable source.

http://www.amenclinic.com/ac/tests/add_test1.php

If it does say that it is likely you have ADD, I suggest that you start looking at all of the symptoms of the condition because it affects aspects in your daily life more than you would think.

 

[wjh]

I just took that ADD test.

Results:

Your results indicate that you may have ADD.

You may wish to take the Amen Brain System ADD Subtype Test © to evaluate your ADD subtype tendencies.

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I can't take the Subtype Test! I'm feeling restless~! :crackup:

 

[babysfirstcoffin]

Apparently I have ADD.

ADD Combined Type
Cingulate System Hyperactivity
Basal Ganglia Hyperactivity


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