The Unforgiven III
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I need some help here guys, as I'm seriously contemplating divorce. Arguments with her are completely irrational and her anger is so disproportionate to the situation sometimes I really do think she is crazy.
Yesterday she told me I was in a bad mood all day long and that she was walking on eggshells around me. Here's the thing - I wasn't even home yesterday. I tried telling her this, and she wouldn't acknowledge it. I saw her for a total of maybe 25 minutes. She made me a salad, I told her it was great, then I took the garbage out and left with a buddy. During our brief interaction, I wasn't upset, nor was she. There was no tension in the air whatsoever. I don't understand how it's possible that she arrived at this conclusion when I came back home about me being in a bad mood. She was upset for 3 hours about this. Silent treatment and all. It just baffles me.
Then today we received a phone off eBay. It had a lot of scratches on the cover, so we decided to send it back. She wanted to make sure it worked and I told her "What's the point? We're going to send it back because of the scratches." She demanded that I make sure it worked. She said angrily "Does the phone work!? Put it on the charger!" So I took the phone back out of the box and put it on the charger. I then come back into the room and she sees me holding the empty box and says "What are you doing?? Pack it up! I thought we're returning it!" I told her "You just told me to put it on the charger! What is wrong with you!?"
She proceeds to get all upset and tells me I'm playing mind games with her, which is exactly what she's doing to me. Then she picks up her cell phone and calls her sister, trying to pit her against me. After doing that, she walks over to the next door neighbor's house and does the same. Her anger lasted 5 hours over this. Now she acts like nothing happened and asked if I wanted her to pick up anything at the store.
If I tell her she's being manipulative, she tells me I'm being manipulative. If I say she's being controlling, she tries to convince me that I'm the control freak. This has been going on for years. Sometimes I find myself questioning my own sanity.
Any ideas on what's going on here?
Yesterday she told me I was in a bad mood all day long and that she was walking on eggshells around me. Here's the thing - I wasn't even home yesterday. I tried telling her this, and she wouldn't acknowledge it. I saw her for a total of maybe 25 minutes. She made me a salad, I told her it was great, then I took the garbage out and left with a buddy. During our brief interaction, I wasn't upset, nor was she. There was no tension in the air whatsoever. I don't understand how it's possible that she arrived at this conclusion when I came back home about me being in a bad mood. She was upset for 3 hours about this. Silent treatment and all. It just baffles me.
Then today we received a phone off eBay. It had a lot of scratches on the cover, so we decided to send it back. She wanted to make sure it worked and I told her "What's the point? We're going to send it back because of the scratches." She demanded that I make sure it worked. She said angrily "Does the phone work!? Put it on the charger!" So I took the phone back out of the box and put it on the charger. I then come back into the room and she sees me holding the empty box and says "What are you doing?? Pack it up! I thought we're returning it!" I told her "You just told me to put it on the charger! What is wrong with you!?"
She proceeds to get all upset and tells me I'm playing mind games with her, which is exactly what she's doing to me. Then she picks up her cell phone and calls her sister, trying to pit her against me. After doing that, she walks over to the next door neighbor's house and does the same. Her anger lasted 5 hours over this. Now she acts like nothing happened and asked if I wanted her to pick up anything at the store.
If I tell her she's being manipulative, she tells me I'm being manipulative. If I say she's being controlling, she tries to convince me that I'm the control freak. This has been going on for years. Sometimes I find myself questioning my own sanity.
Any ideas on what's going on here?