I'm a pvssy with no balls/confidence that's lazy and doesn't go for what he wants. Instead of going trying to meet chicks/get laid, I am at home lamenting myself. It is hard to read about 16/17 year olds with more pull/experience or with a gf, and I don't.
I think my problem has always been...
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Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Ok, now what? Have you decided to change? Or continue being a loser?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Only you can change your ways. It is up to you and go out and do it. You read the information here. Now, you must go and apply it.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
Dude, some people just don't get laid by the time they're 22. It's OKAY. You're not a freak or anything. Quit beating yourself down and just get out there. Anyone who judges you is probably a douchebag, plain and simple. You got to start somewhere. And contrary to sosuave belief, some girls dig the whole "inexperienced" bit (although expect to get kicked in the nuts for it from time to time).
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Spend time on yourself first man, I'll PM you later tonight. I got a lot of work to finish.
But get into class - Leykis 101
But get into class - Leykis 101
stonetowers
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Don't sweat it too bad man.We've all been where you are.But you've made the first step,which is admitting you need to change.Don't try to rush anything and don't try to compete with anyone.Be about you to improve you.
Something I ponder, and this is common knowledge amongst all, is I how do I find the self respect? I am prone to lazyness, I feel behind/unsuccsessful in some things, I have always had that negative voice, which to me, seems to be a reality. Plus, I have struggled with porn, I go for a while w/o looking at it, the I do it again.
true romance
Don Juan
There are losers and winners? which one are you ?
I want to be a winner. I never saw myself as this underachiever, but I feel Like I have become one. I have had goals, and aspirations, but never really went after them, always said, I'll do it, I'll do it. I had a tendency, from a young age, to always look forward, daydreaming and whathaveyou.
true romance
Don Juan
stay away from computer and go out do things. start subcribing to all activities. Gym, dance class...sport team
Pay the fee..you have no choice but to do it. commit.
FAT ASS!!!
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keep day dreaming...it help you get here right..so keep doing what work for you..don't change...!!!
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I had a tendency, from a young age, to always look forward, daydreaming and whathaveyou.
Slap your face...whenever you have this tendency..
Pay the fee..you have no choice but to do it. commit.
FAT ASS!!!
or
keep day dreaming...it help you get here right..so keep doing what work for you..don't change...!!!
or
I had a tendency, from a young age, to always look forward, daydreaming and whathaveyou.
Slap your face...whenever you have this tendency..
That;s it, I can't get over the fact that I didn't take action sooner, being more sociable,outgoing,amassing the things I want. I don't know what you call that. I mean, I didn't even get to do the whole college lifestyle thing.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Like my post called Your Life Along With Women. Some agreed with it and others didn't. Now you guys are starting to realize its not about women.
So, take out a sheet of paper. Write down what you want to accomplish or goals you have. Keep that list and go out and do it. Then, check off the things you have done.
So, take out a sheet of paper. Write down what you want to accomplish or goals you have. Keep that list and go out and do it. Then, check off the things you have done.
You have to do it someday. In the last 2 months I've changed from doing nothing but boozing my couch, usually alone, to going out and having fun.
I ditched all my friends who wanted to sit on the couch, smoke, and booze. I ditched my roommates, all they did was play magic the gathering, and moved out. I quit my dead end job. I quit doing drugs, and I quit making excuses.
Now I have a new life, more or less, and I went back to university as well. I still talk to some of my old friends, but they're the kind of people I want to be around, not people like I was.
Everything is looking up now. I've gained a ton more confidence from doing new things and new situations, gotten a bunch of numbers (I couldn't make eye contact back in the day), and made a bunch of new friends.
Silly story, but 2 months ago I was about to kill myself because I hated the life I made for myself, but I'm starting to get out more and it's been a lot of fun. I think I've had more fun since I quit my old life than I did during the last year of living it.
The biggest advice I can give you is that the first time doing anything will always be the hardest.
thanks for reading my dumb post, but I had to share that some of the teachings on this site have improved my life. although I don't like a lot of the girl advice, not my style.
I ditched all my friends who wanted to sit on the couch, smoke, and booze. I ditched my roommates, all they did was play magic the gathering, and moved out. I quit my dead end job. I quit doing drugs, and I quit making excuses.
Now I have a new life, more or less, and I went back to university as well. I still talk to some of my old friends, but they're the kind of people I want to be around, not people like I was.
Everything is looking up now. I've gained a ton more confidence from doing new things and new situations, gotten a bunch of numbers (I couldn't make eye contact back in the day), and made a bunch of new friends.
Silly story, but 2 months ago I was about to kill myself because I hated the life I made for myself, but I'm starting to get out more and it's been a lot of fun. I think I've had more fun since I quit my old life than I did during the last year of living it.
The biggest advice I can give you is that the first time doing anything will always be the hardest.
thanks for reading my dumb post, but I had to share that some of the teachings on this site have improved my life. although I don't like a lot of the girl advice, not my style.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Look man, youre still young, dont trip too hard. You have PLENTY of time to start the kind of lifestyle you want. The TWO most important things you have to stop are comparing yourself to teens who are getting ass and stop worrying about the past. Thinking about both of these things is making you depressed and making it harder for you to do anything about anything. Start somewhere.ItsOnNow said:
true romance
Don Juan
enough advice for this lazy bum....let him DO something and report back to us.
we waste enough keyboard stroke...Move on people
we waste enough keyboard stroke...Move on people
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Ok quick way to change your mindset. It worked for me at least.
1) Write down everything wrong with your life. Now, this will make you feel like crap. But you gotta get it ALL out. Your life, your looks, your sex life, your money situation, your living arrangements, your fears, et cetera.
Now, read this paper/list over. Think about how you want these to change. Then decide to change. Crumple up this list, and set it ablaze. The flames represent the new burning desire of your life, and everything you want it to be.
Get a new paper. Write down everything you want your life to be. Your house, your car, your boat, your social circle, your bank accounts, your women. Everything. Now read this paper every morning and every night. Allow yourself to have these things, then put your nose to the grind stone and get them.
1) Write down everything wrong with your life. Now, this will make you feel like crap. But you gotta get it ALL out. Your life, your looks, your sex life, your money situation, your living arrangements, your fears, et cetera.
Now, read this paper/list over. Think about how you want these to change. Then decide to change. Crumple up this list, and set it ablaze. The flames represent the new burning desire of your life, and everything you want it to be.
Get a new paper. Write down everything you want your life to be. Your house, your car, your boat, your social circle, your bank accounts, your women. Everything. Now read this paper every morning and every night. Allow yourself to have these things, then put your nose to the grind stone and get them.
Johnny_Kage
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Here's an even better way to change your mindset:
volunteer at a hospital in the children's cancer ward.
That'll give you a REAL perspective on life.
Right now, all of your problems are things you can fix/take control of. Even if you don't take control of them, YOU DON'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE DEPRESSED.
Now, stop being a pvssy and go get 'em, tiger.
volunteer at a hospital in the children's cancer ward.
That'll give you a REAL perspective on life.
Right now, all of your problems are things you can fix/take control of. Even if you don't take control of them, YOU DON'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE DEPRESSED.
Now, stop being a pvssy and go get 'em, tiger.
