goodganji44
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Hi guys. I've been lurking on this site for the past few months and I must say that this site has been instrumental in my own self improvement and the understanding and psychology of how women operate. Today I would like to share my story for those who care to read and I desperately need advice from the more experienced DJ's here.
I've known my "best friend" for 10 years. She's bats*t insane but deep down a good woman(she does fit some of the BPD traits). Very dominant woman and loves to control the frame. Admittedly I made AFC mistakes early on but as I started to learn her and the game itself, I made less and less over time. I ended up getting the poon once and only once.
Several months later, all things were well until she went until a Disneyland trip with her child's father. She immediately went on facebook, boasting about how well the trip was going and posting pictures etc. In the meantime she's texting me saying that she loves me(smelled like BS from a mile away, did not respond). I kept it cool. I didn't say anything and just allowed her to enjoy her trip.
As I got the LJBF treatment for the last time, I said F this sht and I started gaming other women immediately and gave less of my attention to the best friend. Eventually these other women were making passes online and I suppose she saw this. Then she started posting pictures of her kissing other women, and some of those stupid motivational quotes that btches like to post that was related to me.
I ignored all of it.
While I was in a studio session. Her nephew whom I work with asked me in what I felt was in some kind of hidden intent, have I met my aunt's new BF. I kept it cool, but on the inside I was furious. I felt like I was disrespected by having these kinds of topics pop up in my place of business. Simply put, I didn't want to hear that sht.
After that moment, I felt like enough was enough. I was sick of her garbage and her stringing me along, I came to the realization that I was wasting my time. Before I deleted her off my facebook, I said some very hurtful(albeit true) things about her. Really didn't care about how she felt about it at all. I told her to never contact me again and pretend like I don't even exist.
She was apologetic in her response, said that I was a great guy, I was right about everything I said about her, the reason why she kept me as a friend is because she felt like she didn't deserve a great guy like myself. I thought it was BS when I read it and decided not to reply.
After I deleted her off of my facebook, I spoke with all of my mutual friends about the situation and they all agreed to delete her as well. This was done to avoid any traps she might throw at me to get my attention through third party sources. I still have her sister on my FB but I took her off my news feed, so I'm not able to see any of her posts.
Ever since then I have done hardcore NC. The only news I've heard about her is that she briefly shut down her facebook page after I did what I did and that she's no longer at the same job anymore. Other than that, I have not went to her facebook, distanced myself from ALL members of her family(including the nephew mentioned in the earlier paragraph).
The healing process has been tremendous. I've moved on to banging other chicks, doubled my income, moved out into my own place, receiving income off of playing Madden, and changed bad habits about myself that were there during our friendship. I did and still do miss her, but it got to a point where I felt like "She ain't coming back and I'm definitely not going to make any efforts either". I was cool with that as I've bettered my life to a point where she or no other woman really matters.
Then I get an game invite on FB from her sister's FB page, and the profile pic isn't her sister, it's the LJBF chick. She used to always send me these invites to these stupid games back when we were talking. She does know her sister's passwords and this isn't the first time she's hacked her sister's page to fool around on FB. My spider sense is telling me that I'm being watched.
My intuition is telling me that her hamster is spinning but for what reasons I don't know.
Now that time has passed, eventually I do want to get one last bang out of her if she comes back. She's a very prideful woman and stubborn beyond belief. I'd be interested in re-visiting the friendship, only if it's on my terms.
My question to the experienced DJ's on here is this, given that me and her to have a legitimate emotional connection and solid friendship before I bounced, and the facts above, what's the likelihood of me hearing from her again based on some of your past experiences?
Any and all criticism and advice would be much appreciated. I've been in No Contact since 6/23/2012.
I've known my "best friend" for 10 years. She's bats*t insane but deep down a good woman(she does fit some of the BPD traits). Very dominant woman and loves to control the frame. Admittedly I made AFC mistakes early on but as I started to learn her and the game itself, I made less and less over time. I ended up getting the poon once and only once.
Several months later, all things were well until she went until a Disneyland trip with her child's father. She immediately went on facebook, boasting about how well the trip was going and posting pictures etc. In the meantime she's texting me saying that she loves me(smelled like BS from a mile away, did not respond). I kept it cool. I didn't say anything and just allowed her to enjoy her trip.
As I got the LJBF treatment for the last time, I said F this sht and I started gaming other women immediately and gave less of my attention to the best friend. Eventually these other women were making passes online and I suppose she saw this. Then she started posting pictures of her kissing other women, and some of those stupid motivational quotes that btches like to post that was related to me.
I ignored all of it.
While I was in a studio session. Her nephew whom I work with asked me in what I felt was in some kind of hidden intent, have I met my aunt's new BF. I kept it cool, but on the inside I was furious. I felt like I was disrespected by having these kinds of topics pop up in my place of business. Simply put, I didn't want to hear that sht.
After that moment, I felt like enough was enough. I was sick of her garbage and her stringing me along, I came to the realization that I was wasting my time. Before I deleted her off my facebook, I said some very hurtful(albeit true) things about her. Really didn't care about how she felt about it at all. I told her to never contact me again and pretend like I don't even exist.
She was apologetic in her response, said that I was a great guy, I was right about everything I said about her, the reason why she kept me as a friend is because she felt like she didn't deserve a great guy like myself. I thought it was BS when I read it and decided not to reply.
After I deleted her off of my facebook, I spoke with all of my mutual friends about the situation and they all agreed to delete her as well. This was done to avoid any traps she might throw at me to get my attention through third party sources. I still have her sister on my FB but I took her off my news feed, so I'm not able to see any of her posts.
Ever since then I have done hardcore NC. The only news I've heard about her is that she briefly shut down her facebook page after I did what I did and that she's no longer at the same job anymore. Other than that, I have not went to her facebook, distanced myself from ALL members of her family(including the nephew mentioned in the earlier paragraph).
The healing process has been tremendous. I've moved on to banging other chicks, doubled my income, moved out into my own place, receiving income off of playing Madden, and changed bad habits about myself that were there during our friendship. I did and still do miss her, but it got to a point where I felt like "She ain't coming back and I'm definitely not going to make any efforts either". I was cool with that as I've bettered my life to a point where she or no other woman really matters.
Then I get an game invite on FB from her sister's FB page, and the profile pic isn't her sister, it's the LJBF chick. She used to always send me these invites to these stupid games back when we were talking. She does know her sister's passwords and this isn't the first time she's hacked her sister's page to fool around on FB. My spider sense is telling me that I'm being watched.
My intuition is telling me that her hamster is spinning but for what reasons I don't know.
Now that time has passed, eventually I do want to get one last bang out of her if she comes back. She's a very prideful woman and stubborn beyond belief. I'd be interested in re-visiting the friendship, only if it's on my terms.
My question to the experienced DJ's on here is this, given that me and her to have a legitimate emotional connection and solid friendship before I bounced, and the facts above, what's the likelihood of me hearing from her again based on some of your past experiences?
Any and all criticism and advice would be much appreciated. I've been in No Contact since 6/23/2012.