I think I will always get flaked on! (not a rant by any means)

[skip2mylou781]

In my past, ive had my fair share of flakes when i was basically expecting them aka little rapport, but we still make plans and of course she flakes

BUT HERES WHERE THIS GETS ME

I sometimes meet and talk to girls who seem REALLY intersted in me from the get-go, and we make a date, and i swear to myself "daaamn this bytch really likes me, its gonna b a good time" and THEN she ends up flaking

aka the ones i expect to flake the least end up flaking the MOST!

cuz of that, ive basically been conditioned to assume that i could get flaked on no matter what and no 1 girl is reliable EVER EVER EVER.

Well, tonight I might be making a mistake, but i got plans with a really cute 21 yr old cambodian chick, she told me her address and wants me to come over with alcohol and a movie......LOL (obv for sex), and im thinkin she told me where she LIVES and has had real high interest level, so THERSE NO WAY IN HELL SHE CAN FLAKE.........which is why tonite, for the first time in a while, im going to ASSUME that the girl WONT flake

ill let everyone kno wat happens with this one,.....


but has ANYONE here ever had the same shyt happen where they kno for SURE taht the girl no way will flake, and then BOOM SHE ****IN FLAKES!!!

also, any way of dealin with that shyt? cuz me and my anger problems make it kinda hard to stay cool when a bytch is being a flaky bytch!

 

[vorbis]

you're describing my biggest problem with American women :trouble:

Flaking happens to me a fair bit too. Honestly I feel some chicks are doing it because its expected of them?? Going out with someone you like the first time around would make them look easy! Of the 10 or so girls I've been on dates with over here, only 2 didn't flake on the original plans!

One of those girls who didn't flake was irish and the other was 34! (I'm 24)
**** it, before I left Ireland, I got a number off a girl on the street after the club. Logistics prevented me meeting up with her but after a few texts she was all "Are you going to be around tonight". She was always initiating the texts as well. If someone acted like that over here I'd imagine her friends would call her a *****.

 

[skip2mylou781]

im from boston too....

 

[BrokenLeftWing]

it happens to everyone. usually means she has something better to do then hang out with you(for whatever reasons). dont take it some hard and just talk to more women, and make sure to let them know that if they do it to you then you will stop talking to them and talk to someone else.

 

[Tom Juan]

Lol, AFC chump.

 

[vorbis]

you see that would make sense and a few did have plans made. Others came out with bs about being tired or not feeling up to it. You're all ready to go no interest when she comes out with plans for a future date! tbh it reminds me of Homer's "Reject the first offer!"

it happens to everyone. usually means she has something better to do then hang out with you(for whatever reasons). dont take it some hard and just talk to more women, and make sure to let them know that if they do it to you then you will stop talking to them and talk to someone else.

 

[Phyzzle]

(This may be a rant)

This Saturday:
Hottie approached me at a club. When I was ready to leave, after lots of Kino and talking, she volunteered her business card, and wrote her cell # on it.

Called her Monday, she said she was delighted to hear from me, thought I might have forgotten her, etc. She said, "I still have your business card, DOCTOR," (I have a PhD.) She went on, "I was just looking in my purse for it today, to make sure I still have it."

She immediately agreed to the date, and asked for my cell #.

As soon as I hang up, DAMMIT she wanted that cell # to wait until it's time to get together, and then cancel!

Sure enough, I get the text today, an hour before the meeting time.

WTF!@@?? WHY DO THEY FVCKING DO THIS? DON'T THEY HAVE HOBBIES, OR SOMETHING ELSE TO DO BESIDES ANNOYING THE CRAP OUT OF ME!!??

So, yeah, I know what you mean, man.
~Phyzzle

 

[Phyzzle]

Lol, AFC chump.

We know, this has never happened to you.

(You would have to ask some girls out for this to happen to you.)

 

[ChampusMaximus]

it happens to all of us phyz. it happened to me last week with this chick that has flaked twice on me now. it can be very annoying but the best way i've found of dealing with it is that you go out with multiple girls at the same time. some of them are going to cancel on u either because they're not interested, had some emergency, whatever.

one thing u can do is plan to go out with 2 girls on the same night and if none of them cancel just reschedule it with one of them for a different night. and it'll give u more peace of mind

-champs

 

[skip2mylou781]

UPDATE - the girl i figured wouldnt flake on me....FLAKED ON ME

once again, shoulda gone with my gut, good thing one of my girl friends wanted to hang out tonite and she lived 10 minutes away so i just went to see her instead as a backup plan

****in *****

I am NOT going to burn that bridge however, next time i talk to that flaky *****, im gonna pretend that NOTHING happened

 

[IsiMan84]

but has ANYONE here ever had the same shyt happen where they kno for SURE taht the girl no way will flake, and then BOOM SHE ****IN FLAKES!!!

Well maybe you're making yourself think that you're so sure that you fail to see some clue that might tell you she's gonna flake.

 

[jonwon]

UPDATE - the girl i figured wouldnt flake on me....FLAKED ON ME

once again, shoulda gone with my gut, good thing one of my girl friends wanted to hang out tonite and she lived 10 minutes away so i just went to see her instead as a backup plan

****in *****

I am NOT going to burn that bridge however, next time i talk to that flaky *****, im gonna pretend that NOTHING happened

Women flake, hey at least you have not been stood up ‘yet’.

Anyway the best idea is that one so she flakes, most guys freak out and assume it is about them, not GL enough, not rich enough or any other stuff.

Me personally I don’t let it faze me I used to do, I just give it a few days ring up and pretend it did not happen, if she brings it up I say things like ‘hey it’s cool my mates wanted to go out that night and I had a great time anyway’.

Just be cool accept it and move on, I think girls purposely flake, well lets think about it.

How else is she going to suss out your personality?
If she flakes she can see your reaction and save herself months in sussing you out, if you turn into a needy, angry pup then she knows to avoid you.

I see flaking a as shi* test that she likes you but she is not sure, she does it to test you.

This is what I firmly believe and it works.

 

[Hawke]

Have to admit that is a pretty good way to look at flaking. I'd never really considered the idea that it could be a test, but seeing it that way does put a different spin on it.

 

[AngelusPUA]

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[Ol'BlueEyes]

I get lots of flakes too, but it's because I've been lacking imagination for exciting things to do on dates. I've been too boring. The girl may show a lot of initial interest, but over the course of an evening the conversation wags, and there's lots of silence as I try to figure a way to keep the mediocre small talk going.

(not a rant by any means)

Yes it is. So what? Rant on. Better yet, find another thread like this and reply to it.

 

[AngelusPUA]

Oh come on man Ol' Blue Eyes (Frank Sinatra) shouldn't be getting flakes. YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO THE NAME.... jkin

It doesn't matter if you just take her out to dinner the "action dates" idea spread by seduction gurus is bullsh*t.

 

[d9930380]

Oh yea - That's we call them *****es. Now I'm not innocent here, I did something that quite frankly wasn't my fault but she was hurt. Basically I chased her and then rejected her because I found someone else before she made up her mind. After that went pair shaped, she chased me.

The reason, to take me out and then LJBFs me which was OK because I had gone off her anyway. Then she started chatting to blokes after they came over when I was in the toilets (fucing hate that), I reacted angrily because it showed me no respect and I wasn't going to sit there and be excluded. She went off at me. After I just starred at the guys until they left. Now the thing was it wasn't jealousy, I had realised her game was to sicken me and get me back and I wasn't going to take it.

That's the reason I think girls flake - They get off on the power trip it gives them. They're generally ****-ups with alot of baggage (bad past relationships) getting back at men.

If a girl flakes - See it as a good thing - It means that you haven't payed for a date that wouldn't go anywhere. It's got nothing to do with you - If it had been, she wouldn't have asked you out in the first place. The only thing I would say is girls can see a soft touch, someone that they CAN flake. Maybe it tells you that your still acting like an AFC around girls.

 

[AngelusPUA]

I'm not bragging but in the past year or so I have NEVER got a flake and I meet a lot of women, most of the times they will ask me for my number and they always call. I honestly can't remember the last time I asked a girls number, I will give out my number to a new girl a minimum of two times a week but I'm picky so I next a lot of them.

Point is it must be something you are doing wrong to get all these flakes; you should really examine your game and analyze what you do wrong. A lot of people blame flakes on the girl but the reality is if you build a high enough IIL (Initial interest level) the girl will not flake.

I mean I met a girl in Spain when I went there as part of my Euro trip and she chased me all across Europe. It really has to do with how much interest you build up initially, if you send a girl away with a smile on her face and her body tingling with glee she has no choice but to call you back.

So you only have yourself to blame (ok westernized society can take part of the blame), IF A GIRL FLAKES ALL IT MEANS IS YOU HAVEN'T GOT HER INTERESTED ENOUGH.

 

[johnnyrem]

Bottom line is that if she does flake, especially on the first or second date, do not contact her again. She's shovelling some disrespect as well as **** testing you, so you must show her that it does not affect you by moving on.

If she tries to contact you later, you may assume it is just a **** test and not disinterest. You may then decide to go out with her or not, on YOUR terms.

If she does not contact you, you know she wasn't interested. Feel no sense of loss as you move on to other women.

 

[lurker]

no body is above flaking, i would bet anyguy who really dates women has been flaked on. i have been flaked on twice this year but never took it personall the first girl that flaked on me saw me few days later and kept looking at me to see if io was hurt i just ignored her like we never met. we should learn to move on i think, because life is short.