Anti ClusterB
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While I was having fun with a female friend who was extremely into me one night at an open Karaoke bar, we somehow managed to become the main attraction of the night and I got the attention of one of the staff members who was 20 years old. I didn't notice her at all at the time and she wasn't my type anyways.
During my later visits, she became over flirtatious, and touch feely with me. She wasn't like that with any other customers. Forced me to sing her songs with me. She managed to seduce me, so I invited her out after a while to have a meal with me and my friends.
I noticed a lot of red flags, I think she is a histrionic narcissist. She gave me the impression she wanted me because she thought the girl I was with was my girlfriend. (Mother not being present at infancy, being tortured by parents, torturing younger sister herself, dating multiple men at once, feeling ugly which she had to correct by getting a lot of plastic surgeries done, talking sh** about me and my female friend because we stole the show that night at the bar etc..)
On the second date, we made out at the top of a rooftop bar and I got drunk and started talking to her the same way she was flirting with me, which was sexual in content. At the end of the night I asked if she wanted to continue she said we had a lot of time, we can do it later. Up until that point she was into having sex but after that night she started backing away when I pushed for sex I guess.
We texted for a while but afterwards, she stopped reading my texts, claimed she was sick (which was true but on the day she claimed she was sick she is taking pictures at the pool at her condo, I found out via staking her Instagram). I called her invited her to hang out with me and friends and wished her to get well soon. She blew me off twice that week actually.
Later on she started texting, telling me she misses me etc etc. I went to the bar again, when we were singing I asked her out again she said she was sick sorry. I said ok and got a little sad but went on with my singing. After a brief pause she says 'BUUUUT, on Monday I'll be off we can hang out, don't get the wrong idea. We can talk about it online.'
I sent her a date request the next day which she reads and doesn't respond the entire day. Later on she texts me 'what do you think of me and what do you want out of me.' I was working on a project at the time so I couldn't think straight I said 'I like you and I want a relationship.' She said 'You sure?' I said yes. No response..
The next day, me and a group of friends went to another bar where one of her friends works. The friend reported me to her even though I requested her not to.
I later on texted her this, 'I don't know what you think of me but I really care about you and want to spend more time with you, if you think I rushed you I apologize and I can take it slow. Text me back if you want to hang out.'
She says something along the lines of me being the worst person on earth [like I haven't heard this before] etc. for not letting her know I'll be at the other bar and trying to keep it hidden from her by requesting it from her friend. We had a huge argument over text, I suggested I see her in person at her bar, went there she didn't want to see me so I went back home without seeing her.
A day later I apologized over text, she said I didn't need to apologize as she was looking for something less serious than a relationship etc. ( I don't believe this). I asked for her back and said up to you. She said 'You're right!'. That triggered me.
A few days later I gathered a lot of my friends, men and women, didn't let them know about this situation and brought everyone to her bar to have a fun karaoke night out. Already after entering the bar the staff was giving me the eye. One of them was on my side I felt it, she asked me how I was doing if I was ok but I wasn't able to respond. She left shortly after.
So the girl I went out with was talking to a dude, ABOUT ME. Me being handsome but having a terrible personality lol. She later on showered that guy with a lot of attention until 3 o clock in the morning, in the same was she was flirting with me for the past month, hugs, singing etc. But she didn't take the guy's advances, she said she'll leave in 10 minutes every time the guy wanted to take her out. So he left after he realized he was being pu*** trapped I guess. The guy was checking me out THE ENTIRE NIGHT. The entire time I ignored what was going on and had fun with buddies I even made friends with the guy. There was a 40 year old woman who was flirting with me so I was flirting with her back to turn the tables on my fling.
After a while she tried getting nearer me using my friends. I ignored. She brought us drinks asked for a cheers, I hit the glasses with my middle finger as if I was flinging boogers off. She looked at me with a weird expression after that. I couldn't understand what she was feeling. She had the same expression when it was time for me to leave. Before I left I sang Eamon - F*** it for the kicks.
I promised to come back on Tuesday. When I walked in, I didn't see her there, chances are she changed her schedule not to see me. But again, I was being talked about as soon as I walked into the bar. 3 girls, one ex staff who quit working 9 years ago, was talking to the other staff about this situation. One of them pointed at me with her head, and everyone looked at me with a weird expression on their faces. I heard them mention someone crying a lot, I don't know whom they were talking about but I think they were talking about the girl I had a fling with.
I am hitting the gym 5 days a week and training martial arts. Trying to live my life to the fullest. But I still want her. Because I know I am broken in the head too. Apologies if my text triggers anyone but if you guys can give me suggestions on how I can turn this situation around now and suggestions only on this, I'd appreciate. I have one more month left in this country anyways, my visa will expire, so I have to next her by default next month. I was thinking about going there a day after her birthday with a friend and give her a belated birthday present and walk out to get on her good graces when the night was over. What do u guys think?
During my later visits, she became over flirtatious, and touch feely with me. She wasn't like that with any other customers. Forced me to sing her songs with me. She managed to seduce me, so I invited her out after a while to have a meal with me and my friends.
I noticed a lot of red flags, I think she is a histrionic narcissist. She gave me the impression she wanted me because she thought the girl I was with was my girlfriend. (Mother not being present at infancy, being tortured by parents, torturing younger sister herself, dating multiple men at once, feeling ugly which she had to correct by getting a lot of plastic surgeries done, talking sh** about me and my female friend because we stole the show that night at the bar etc..)
On the second date, we made out at the top of a rooftop bar and I got drunk and started talking to her the same way she was flirting with me, which was sexual in content. At the end of the night I asked if she wanted to continue she said we had a lot of time, we can do it later. Up until that point she was into having sex but after that night she started backing away when I pushed for sex I guess.
We texted for a while but afterwards, she stopped reading my texts, claimed she was sick (which was true but on the day she claimed she was sick she is taking pictures at the pool at her condo, I found out via staking her Instagram). I called her invited her to hang out with me and friends and wished her to get well soon. She blew me off twice that week actually.
Later on she started texting, telling me she misses me etc etc. I went to the bar again, when we were singing I asked her out again she said she was sick sorry. I said ok and got a little sad but went on with my singing. After a brief pause she says 'BUUUUT, on Monday I'll be off we can hang out, don't get the wrong idea. We can talk about it online.'
I sent her a date request the next day which she reads and doesn't respond the entire day. Later on she texts me 'what do you think of me and what do you want out of me.' I was working on a project at the time so I couldn't think straight I said 'I like you and I want a relationship.' She said 'You sure?' I said yes. No response..
The next day, me and a group of friends went to another bar where one of her friends works. The friend reported me to her even though I requested her not to.
I later on texted her this, 'I don't know what you think of me but I really care about you and want to spend more time with you, if you think I rushed you I apologize and I can take it slow. Text me back if you want to hang out.'
She says something along the lines of me being the worst person on earth [like I haven't heard this before] etc. for not letting her know I'll be at the other bar and trying to keep it hidden from her by requesting it from her friend. We had a huge argument over text, I suggested I see her in person at her bar, went there she didn't want to see me so I went back home without seeing her.
A day later I apologized over text, she said I didn't need to apologize as she was looking for something less serious than a relationship etc. ( I don't believe this). I asked for her back and said up to you. She said 'You're right!'. That triggered me.
A few days later I gathered a lot of my friends, men and women, didn't let them know about this situation and brought everyone to her bar to have a fun karaoke night out. Already after entering the bar the staff was giving me the eye. One of them was on my side I felt it, she asked me how I was doing if I was ok but I wasn't able to respond. She left shortly after.
So the girl I went out with was talking to a dude, ABOUT ME. Me being handsome but having a terrible personality lol. She later on showered that guy with a lot of attention until 3 o clock in the morning, in the same was she was flirting with me for the past month, hugs, singing etc. But she didn't take the guy's advances, she said she'll leave in 10 minutes every time the guy wanted to take her out. So he left after he realized he was being pu*** trapped I guess. The guy was checking me out THE ENTIRE NIGHT. The entire time I ignored what was going on and had fun with buddies I even made friends with the guy. There was a 40 year old woman who was flirting with me so I was flirting with her back to turn the tables on my fling.
After a while she tried getting nearer me using my friends. I ignored. She brought us drinks asked for a cheers, I hit the glasses with my middle finger as if I was flinging boogers off. She looked at me with a weird expression after that. I couldn't understand what she was feeling. She had the same expression when it was time for me to leave. Before I left I sang Eamon - F*** it for the kicks.
I promised to come back on Tuesday. When I walked in, I didn't see her there, chances are she changed her schedule not to see me. But again, I was being talked about as soon as I walked into the bar. 3 girls, one ex staff who quit working 9 years ago, was talking to the other staff about this situation. One of them pointed at me with her head, and everyone looked at me with a weird expression on their faces. I heard them mention someone crying a lot, I don't know whom they were talking about but I think they were talking about the girl I had a fling with.
I am hitting the gym 5 days a week and training martial arts. Trying to live my life to the fullest. But I still want her. Because I know I am broken in the head too. Apologies if my text triggers anyone but if you guys can give me suggestions on how I can turn this situation around now and suggestions only on this, I'd appreciate. I have one more month left in this country anyways, my visa will expire, so I have to next her by default next month. I was thinking about going there a day after her birthday with a friend and give her a belated birthday present and walk out to get on her good graces when the night was over. What do u guys think?